Does she like me or not? Is she very shy around me?

[ojojbamm]

From distance, we frequently maintain eye contact for 3-5 seconds. She frequently sits with her friend right in front of me in class. Sometimes i catch her looking at me. Some days ago i saw her walk down the library. When she got close and noticed me, she turned away and walked another way. Is she very shy around me? It makes it hard to get to know her.

[SueShe]

Why don't you take the initiative to talk to her instead of wondering if she is too shy to talk to you? Could it be that you are shy yourself and are waiting for her to make the first move? In that case, nothing will ever happen.

It is difficult to say whether she likes you or not based on your account. I supposed that you piqued her interest and that she is just gauging you to see how you react and if you dare to talk to her.

The question is however: why do you want to know her? Do you have any intentions with her? What is your motive for wanting to know her?

[ojojbamm]

yeah, i find her pretty and i would like to get to know her. But she does not make herself very approacable. She is almost never alone and is always with a group of like 10 friends during 15 minute breaks. Which is when i have the time to talk to her.

[SueShe]

Looks like she is not really interested in knowing you because otherwise, she would find a way to try to be alone for a few minutes.

Those people she is with, are they all females or are there also males? If it is a mixed group, then your only option would be to join the group and then to try to single her out.

[ojojbamm]

sometimes girls only, sometimes mixed. But i think there is only two girls who she really hangs out with. Those two girls tend to look at me often. i feel the three of them giggle when they notice me.

[SueShe]

That would be the typical behavior of a clique of girls but I am surprised that they would do something like that while in their mid twenties. This is more the behavior of early teens.

[ojojbamm]

i think they are like 21-22

[burlen]

It's difficult to say for sure whether or not she likes you based on these observations alone. However, it's possible that she may be shy around you. The frequent eye contact and looking at you may indicate that she is interested in you, but her turning away when she saw you in the library could suggest that she's nervous or unsure about how to interact with you. It's also possible that she simply didn't want to talk at that moment.

The best way to find out if she likes you and to get to know her better would be to try and strike up a conversation with her. Approach her in a friendly manner and try to start a casual conversation about something you both have in common. This could help break the ice and give you a better sense of whether or not she's interested in getting to know you better. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and not push her if she's not comfortable talking or interacting with you.

[Guy13]

Dude, stop festering like your 85 year old Grandma 👵…. enough with the worry wart as it emits FELT negative energy.
Chase her down, walk and talk, and Work for it. Unless you dominate this girl by demonstrating that you care and running from life is not acceptable then you will have nothing here.

You seem kind-hearted so I am hopeful that you be you after demonstrating that her way is not the right way…. happy way.

Time for 2 people to grow up (man-up) together

[Bantito]

He needs to man up not her. She’s a woman.

[Guy13]

@Bantito you’re an idiot…clearly thick headed literalist.

[SnowedIn]

She could be shy. Or she has a crush on you and is trying to avoid it. Or she thinks you have a crush on her and she's avoiding you.

[In_Trance]

What class are you in at 25?

[ojojbamm]

i'm 24. 2nd semester in civil engineering. Normal in my country.