Is she shy around me?

[Anonymous]

Im a bisexual girl and I just became friends with a girl at college (who I’m currently crushing on). She is super nice to me in person but is really shy. First day of class she approached me and introduced herself after I complimented her outfit then I gave her my number but I noticed she could barely maintain eye contact with me and looked down at her phone a lot and kept saying “sorry if I’m holding you up” . Before talking, she lingered behind me before she was confident enough to say her name and shake my hand. When she did text it was short responses and it’s been 2 months since she responded back (it’s on iMessage so I can’t tell if she read it or not) however she still does smile and wave at me when she pass by each other. If I am right behind her when we leave class and she’s aware, she walks slowly and matches my pace as she looks down at her phone before I initiate the conversation. However when we’re not next to each other after class, she leaves quickly. She maintains full eye contact when we talk and stuttered a little last time I made small talk. These are a few signs🤔

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Also, we used to leave our class out the same entrance we first officially talked at but I stopped going there because I thought there was a shortcut to my next class which wasn’t the case. After I stopped going to entrance we both went to, she stopped going there too but now I’m back to going out that way. One time after class I talked to her and ask if she was still going out that way too (so we can Talk and walk) and she implied no but after our next class she finally went out that way again

[SueShe]

Perhaps that she is aware that you are into girls as well and that puts her into an uncomfortable situation because she is uncertain whether you are going to hit on her as well.

Often, what seems to be a shy reaction is only a protective reaction to something that is unknown or where one does not know how to address the situation.

Are you interested in that girl? If yes, did you ever mention to her that you like both genders? If yes, how did she react?

I tend to distance myself from people that I know could represent a certain danger for me or that make me uncomfortable because I don't want to confront them and cause a possible misunderstanding.

[Asker]

Yes I am interested in her but I don’t make it obvious or anything and she doesn’t know I like both genders🤭

[Asker]

I’m a tomboy so I do dress like one so I wouldn’t be surprised if she assumed I liked both genders but yeah I didn’t tell her or anything and I don’t know her sexuality

[SueShe]

If you are uncertain about her feelings for you or if she is also into girls, give her a peck on the cheek next time you either meet or leave and see how she reacts.

Unless you ask her directly, you will never be 100% sure. You have to see her reaction when you get close to her.

[Floura]

Did you tell her the reason as to why you approached her when you first did?

[Asker]

When we first talked, I was sitting next to her and complimented her outfit then she was the one that approached me and introduced herself and accepted when I asked for her number. I only started liking her like 2 weeks ago

[Floura]

If you really want a relationship with her, you have to tell her that is your intention this way you save yourself a lot of time and are able to move on to the next person. I think it is easier to make your intentions clear from the beginning to stop any heartache of hoping that one day your “friend” will see you in another light, maybe “ hey I’m really interested in you as my potential partner if you’re willing (if she gives you a no but still interested in a friendship) but if not I’d still like to be your friend because I truly think you are an awesome human being to be around.”

[Guy13]

It is really hard to tell from that description. Perhaps, being a friend is what she wants?

[Asker]

I would like to get to know her as a friend too but she seems to shy to tell ya know?

[Asker]

*talk

[Guy13]

Somebody is going to have to act is all I know. We all know that including her. This is really strange in that way. Someone break the ice...

[Asker]

yes Indeed it’s a very odd situation that’s why next week after class I’ll tell her directly I want to get to know her more😁

[Guy13]

There you go. I can not wait to find out what happens ...

[Asker]

If I remember I’ll update you when I talk to her again 😀

[Guy13]

Perfect !!

[Anonymous]

If you think she likes you, ask her out. She probably does.

[Asker]

I’m not 100% sure though, besides I want to get to know her before asking her but I would like that someday

[Opinion Owner]

Start by inviting her for coffee