WTF is going on?

Question

I don’t why but I just can’t stop losing when it comes to girls. I’ll end up having a thing for someone then come to find out that they’re taken. Eventually one might break up and then they end up “talking” to someone else even after I presented myself as available and indicated my interest. That or I just get send straight to the friend zone. Tbh I’m losing my fucking mind man cuz this shit happens ALL THE FUCKING TIME like surprisingly often. Im not even the ugliest guy to walk the planet. I’ve got an uneven hairline or whatever but Im very physically fit and take fitness seriously. Im healthy and organized but I struggle to understand my predicament. I don’t want to hear that “you’re 19 worry about the future” or whatever bullshit, my future is already layed out. I’ll take whatever other things y’all have to say

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Have you ever asked those girls what was their reasons for putting you in the infamous friendzone? What you need to change? What you need to improve?

I have the feeling that you are not really interested in a relationship but more into a superficial physical "get together". People can feel when someone is only interested in being intimate but have no real interest in developing the relationship beyond that point.

Ask yourself what you could change about yourself. Could you need a haircut? A clean shave? a change in clothing style? Obviously, there is something about you, your behavior or the way you send your message across that needs to be adapted. Good luck.

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

hmmm… you sound like you’re obsessing over the idea of having a girlfriend, but did you actually genuinely like the girls you pursued? did you take the time to get to know them and vice versa? I personally would most likely reject a guy if he just randomly introduced himself and told me he’s interested in me, and the looks doesn’t even matter in that case, but I just don’t know you to care enough to spend time on dating you and then finding out that you’re just simply not my type…

Vegasrunner · Accepted Answer

@lcwadtebfam short answer is you don't know what you're doing. You're supposed to be the man in this scenario yet you're waiting around hoping to get selected? Plus you're using your looks as the tool. 1) Stop taking dating advice from women. 2) Go focus on your career, mind and body 3) Stop searching for girlfriend's, go create options. GL

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

You are only 19. No career and nothing that woukd attract a woman. Give it time.

gorydetails · Answer

The absolute best baseball batter in the world struck out 2/3 times. It sounds like you're not confident and bold enough to get the girl. You sound like you're not being upfront with your intentions and desires.

Anonymous · Answer

Talk to girls you know and ask them to tell you why this is happening, and then fix what they tell you. 90% chance It's personality or hygiene or clothing, things you can change. But most guys don't change even when they find out what the problem is.