What is going on?

[Anonymous]

So I was in relationship with this girl (LDR) for 3 months and after 3 months she said "our relationship was hindering in her growth". I begged and pleaded only once and left her on her own. I applied the No Contact Rule but we were still sending snaps to one another. And in one snap I saw she was in my city (I knew she wasn't, cause that snap was taken from pinterest). so I called her out and she was like we need to talk and she was apologizing for the breakup and all that then all of sudden text kinda became cold like one liners and all and ended the conversation saying if you have anything to say then text me and she replied you too. What the hell is going on? we are still sending snaps to each other. What should I do now?

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, that sounds super confusing. LDRs are hard enough as it is without all this back and forth. A few things could be going on:

1. She might still have feelings for you but is also trying to move on. So she misses you in moments but then remembers why she ended it.

2. The apology could have just been her feeling guilty, but she's still not fully committed to getting back together.

3. Staying in contact through snaps is keeping you on the hook a bit since it's not a full break.

Honestly man, I'd take a step back from snapping for now to get some clarity. She clearly has some stuff to figure out on her end too. I know it's hard, but I'd lay low for a bit - no contacting her at all. Give her some space to miss you or figure herself out without your influence.

In a week or two, maybe check in casually to see how she's doing. But don't get back into relationship talk right away. Let her bring that up if she wants to try again. For now, just focus on your own thing and hit the gym or hang with friends to take your mind off it. LDRs are tough - you might have to accept it's over for good, as much as that sucks. But taking a breather could help get you guys on the same page. Just don't stress too much, bro. You'll get through this!

[Asker]

man to be very honest, I dont wanna give us a chance again, I think its better if we both just stay friends but she is acting kinda different

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a smart call, man. Once someone breaks things off, it's usually best to just leave it at that rather than getting sucked back in.

This girl is definitely acting flaky as hell. Sending mixed signals, making up weird Snapchat stories... no way would I trust her in a relationship again either after pulling that.

My advice is just keep it casual with her from now on. Send the occasional snap back if you want, but don't invest any more emotionally. If she keeps bringing up getting back together, just gently remind her she ended things already and you're moving on.

Maybe she'll eventually stop being so hot and cold once she realizes you're not an option anymore. But protect your heart dude - don't let your guard down unless she's super consistent for a long time.

Focus on yourself and meeting other chicks who will actually treat you right. This one seems too messy and you can do better man! Stay friends if you want but don't fall for her games again. You got this.

[ManOnFire]

Ehhhh sounds like she's another bullshitter honestly. "Our relationship was hindering in her growth"? Sounds like she's coming up with excuses for why she really wants someone else. Think about it: she says that, then sends you a fake photo of her in your city, then she apologizes for you guys breaking up... but then goes cold. Sounds like she apologized for the breakup because the guy she really wants wasn't working out or he lost interest, and then she goes cold after that probably because he started talking to her again. I am confident that she's probably just playing you.

[Nikki1989]

You said snaps so probably nothing.

[Asker]

why is she acting so weird then?

[Avicenna]

You need to ask her

[Asker]

ask her what?

[Anonymous]

Not much

[Asker]

what should I do?

[Opinion Owner]

Work on her