Girls, What is this girl doing?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to someone at work, me and her get along quite well. About two months ago she told me she isn't looking for relationships ‘right now’ quite a while back while trying to recover from an ex. I stick around just to see where it goes, one day at work I stupidly mention another girls name (general work talk) in front of her and she gets angry. We stopped speaking on snap after she tells me I remind her of her ex after that work drama. I try to avoid her at work despite her constantly coming up to me to talk.

Fast forward last week she messages me asking why I didn't compliment her hair, I found this very odd. We spoke from there and I end up snapping myself eating outside somewhere next day, she's asking if I went on a date to which I jokingly say yes. She then goes ‘you can do what you want’ and proceeds to carry on the conversation like it didn't phase her at all.

Now if a girl likes you, wouldn't she be annoyed in this case? she's been very hot and cold, I cannot tell if she's just talking to me for attention, or just hiding the fact that she likes me?

Girls please help me understand what is going on here 😩

[PrettyPriya]

This is a really strange situation and sounds like the girl in question is playing rather childish games. You are not in a relationship with her so she has no right to be angry if you talk to or even date someone else. That is the first red flag to me. Here are some others.

She said you remind her of her ex. That is a big negative. He is an ex for a reason and probably not a good one. The fact that you remind her of him is not good. It is also, again, childish of her to be comparing you to an ex when you are not in a relationship.

Another red flag is that you work together. She is already hot/cold and creating drama. This is a recipe for disaster in a workplace. I have no reason to believe that is going to get better if you do indeed get in a relationship with her. I think it will become an extremely disruptive situation at work. Just imagine if she is acting like this now what it will be like at work if you get in a fight.

[KathrynTaylor]

Uhm, it sounds like she thinks you’re seeing someone and playing with her. From what I’ve heard of it. That, or she’s trying to discourage your interest in her.

[Nikki1989]

She seems rather immature. You might want to rethink this situation.