Self Steam advice ❤️?

[Anonymous]

I have a question to the guys and girls on this app. Have you ever wondered why your still alone. Not trying to sound cocky to society I might be a 6/7 in a physical scale but I have a lot to offer personality wise. I believe I am a 6 on a scale of 0 to 10. I hear that I am a 9. When it comes to personality I would rate myself as a 8 because I have my flaws but I’m caring loving I try to be funny 😂 I pay my own bills all my myself I go to school I have a career already I own my own car I provide for my parents not completely but in part once I have my associates I don’t want them to work. I was in a relationship for 4 years my boyfriend from highschool I cooked cleaned helped him with school college was his best friend someone he could count on treated his family likening was my own got him food gifts no special occasion massaged him planed dates. I have had some people I went on dates on ask me to be there girlfriend I have only been on 5 dates all of the people I went on dates with the 5 of them asked me to date them. But I am not in love I don’t feel like it’s okay to date if your not in love right? I am waiting for the spark I did have it with someone but I don’t think he likes me. Why am I all these things and still he is not attracted to me? And will anyone I am in love with find me attractive? I don't know if this ever happened to you. What do you think? It’s taking a tool of my self steam

[RMorus]

To wonder about it concerning myself would be hillarious, I know very well a ton of reasons starting with lack of priority to change it vs. not to change it.

Now about your case. You just can't expect a person to be attracted to "a lot of things" that one is just because those things are usually regarded as a factor that can cause attraction among other factors. So, that someone is not attracted although you are this, and this, and that is just how life and attraction works. People aren't ususally attracted to you because you are some certain things, but just cause they feel (like) it.

And it also sounds like you are too self-confindent perhaps. On the other hand, if your estimates reflect reality, it's only adequate. But that is if they do.

Maybe you just have to patiently wait for a person by whom mutual attraction will be given. That it cannot be every person you are attracted to should be obvious. Normal human beings are actually not even attracted just like that to the most desirable male or female individuals in the world in whatever regard of desirability if they just are not. It's on the other page however that normal human beings, i. e. those who adhere to self-honesty, are on the brink of extinction.

[Asker]

Im not too confident at all. That why I said physically I see myself as a 6 in a scale of 0 to 10. I am a good person I she good qualities I would give myself an 8 when it comes to my personality. That’s not being too self confident that’s having self steam. I known have qualities and flaws. I don’t think that just because I have qualities someone is obligated to like me. I think you misunderstood what I am asking. I am not speaking about this particular person per say I am speaking of all the people that I have liked and that have no liked me back. How come some people like you, and you can try to like them back but you don’t, and ask you to be there girlfriend and “they see you as a 10” ( I don’t see myself the people who I have gone on dates with) and the people you like that you are in love with don’t?

[mark000h]

Sounds like you'll make someone a good girlfriend.

[Tephra]

I think, psychologically speaking, we always want someone who doesn't want us. Especially if we have 5 other options and one of them doesn't want us, makes us want them even more and work harder for them, as well as more desirable. If you're chasing this guy to the ends of the earth he definitely won't want you.

Maybe this guy is also in the same position, he has 5 other options and does not want to decide. We won't know why he does not like you the same way, but it is best to play it cool. You shouldn't base your whole self-esteem on 1 person, it should come from you. You know what you're worth, right? If he can't see it, move on.

[Anonymous]

I'm alone because I lack the balls and gravitas it takes to get a woman to go out with me.
It is 100% my fault and I admit that

[Stevefiveo]

You sound like a good girlfriend. You will find someone someday.

[FunkyMonkee]

What's steam advice?

[Hellraiser1984]

Are you single?