What is an adult mother daughter relationship like?

[Anonymous]

I'm currently 19 and in my second year of college but my mother passed away when I was 15 . While I've come to terms with this and healed with everything this loss has come with I can't help but wonder what it would be like if she was still here. I would like to think that I would get to tell her about the crushes I have and all the fun things I do at school but I don't know what it would be like. What do you guys think it would be like? Would I actually be as open with communication with her as I think I would or no?

[nitsuj86]

Well, not a woman, but I have a sister and a mom, and I have seen their relationship develop throughout the years.

Early on, she loved my Dad the most. Daddy's little girl, a tomboy because of her 2 rough older brothers.

Preteen - Awkward moody faze. Didn't really talk to my mom about boys or anything like that, she had to grow into herself a bit.

Teen - Became more "girly" and would go on clothes shopping trips with my mom, and I assume would talk to her about things going on in her life, but relationships at that age were rarely discussed in my house. At the same time, she probably would fight the most with my mom during this time. Got into trouble, etc.

Young adult - Became much closer with my mom, and calls her on a regular basis to talk about her life. Has my parent come visit her at college / her first apartment etc. I would say starts to model herself more off of my mom at this age. A lot more feminine.

Adult - I'd say they are close, and probably don't talk as much now, but she is in another state with a boyfriend, and they just bought a house. But she still visits here and there.

I think without my mom, my sister would have struggled to find her place in this world as a woman a lot more. She would have only had 3 capable, but not very socially acceptable men attitude-wise to guide her. We are all assholes, my mom is the glue that keeps us all together, and remains kind in almost all circumstances.

[Anonymous]

There's always some weird level of animosity between mothers and daughters.
The two of you would be friends and tell eachother everything, but there would also be nasty fights where you say you're sick of each other