How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
It's seemed rather complicated and confusing for so many years, I'm not an only child and she always made me feel unappreciated for what I got done around the house but never realized she's got two sons. It wasn't until a year ago or so when it came to her senses that there's 5 of us living under the same house. I've had my insecurities about my body yet she's had the nerve to tell me in person I look like a skeleton, it even took me longer to get my diploma but by the time I got it she didn't sound pleased nor was she when I was going to school and completed a course with a 75%. She's never been the satisfied person with majority of things, she's quick at judging people I know better then her but thinks she knows those people much better.
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I remind my mom of her mother and her and her mom didn't get a long so that creates a lot of tension between us. I could do the exact same thing as any one of my siblings and I always got in trouble while my siblings got away with it. It made life very hard at times.
She just mentioned yesterday that I was "acting" like her mother and honestly that hurt me so bad because I know she doesn't like her mother and wants nothing to do with her so how am I supposed to feel about that?
But she's still my mom and even though we don't see eye to eye all the time I still love her.
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I don't have with her a close of a relationship as I'd like - I don't feel comfortable with talking to her about much.
She doesn't really stick up for me in front of my dad, even though I know she shares the same opinion as me about the issue. She's beautiful, cares for me when I'm sick, but sort of overlooks me when she thinks I'm okay.
I'm a little envious of people who can call their mother their best friend, their support system, and their shoulder to cry on. Really wish I had that; I hope I can be that for my children.
There is no one I love now in this world than my mother. She is my hero and my greatest advocate. I'm even thankful for the times she disciplined me when I was younger (i. e. a jackass).
If anything, the woman almost died giving birth to me (I almost died too, but it's not like it was her fault).
Anyway, she's getting to the age where my siblings and I are taking care if her. I manage her prescriptions, I go with her to get doctors appointments, and even though I don't make much money, I give her a small monthly monetary gift, that's more symbolic than anything else. And what does she do with it? She donates it to charity or family/friends who are in need.
She's not perfect. No one is. But to me, there is no one better.
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Its 50/50.
She just doesn't understand me or how I feel at times, and barely listens to what I have to say, she thinks I'm being stupid/ dumb/ lazy etc...
But she knows I have depression and anxiety and struggle with it a lot, been going therapy for 2 years or so, but she doesn't see things how I do, which is why we end up arguing nearly everyday.
I still feel like shit, and still feel suicidal.
While I was writing this, I was contemplating on weather I would be better off dead or fight to stay strong/ alive, I just don't know how to feel right now, except for feeling lost, alone and confused...
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I can't say it all in the comment because of the limit, but in short I would say good she doesn't live with me and my brother but when we hang out and watch something we start goofing off and even just play around reinacting the things we laugh at. If she lived with us I would say the connection would grow a little because we really do enjoy eachothers company of course I keep minor things from her but everyone has a secret from parents right? Hope I could be of some help and I thank anyone who reads this all the way through.😺😺☺
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I honestly needed this question, and the timing of it is perfect.
I have cut ties with her. She has devastated me very much. My mum is an alpha female, and I do love her, but my heart knows better.
I honestly believe that my mum is a psychopath. Throughout child hood she rained terror over the first three siblings, i'm the second eldest.
She doesn't want me to have friends or stand on my own two feet without her total control.
She wants my wife to have no make up, and only her approval.
Im shit scared of relationships as a result. Always making me feel guilty. -
It's gotten rougher as time goes on. She had an illness which makes it so she can no longer produce hormones, and the medically regulated hormones she's on are hard to get precise. As a result, she's always very tired or very high-strung. She has little control over how she feels, what she does, or what she says, and tends to act very abrasively and illogically. I recognize that how she acts isn't intentional, so I do what I can to support her, but often times our differences that would not have been a problem before blow up into much larger issues.
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I'm not close to my mother at all. She hates me, she doesn't support me, she's always trying to bring me down and she does things on purpose to make me angry. She doesn't take me seriously, and I'm pretty sure she would love to see me dead.
I would love to have a mother who loved me and supported me. I also wish she was friend. But I have to accept that I will never have a loving and supporting mother. - 832 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
My mom is the most loving & supportive woman I have ever known. Yet, she & I almost always don't see each other eye to eye! We live far away from each other but quarrel on the phone almost every week. But, when we're together, we're like best friends until an argument arises. And, when we quarrel, my dad has to step in and shut us both up. Our jets cool quickly and then we're super friends again.
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She is my best friend :) She wants the best for me, we have the exact same humour, she understands me so well, she can tell somethings wrong just by looking at me and I love her so much. I seriously couldn’t have asked for a better mom, I wouldn’t want anyone else.
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When im there i dont want to leave, cause im a fucking sucker for punishment. You give me am abusive situation and im all over it asking for punches.
When im not there, i put off visiting for as long as i damn well can, i dont need her shit, I've got enough of my own. -
I love my mum, fuck me and her have been through a lot and she was all I had for a good few years growing up (My dad took an overseas contract for 5 years and I only saw him 3 times. At least he's alive though. I'm thankful for that) I used to hate her half the time as a teen though with the whole step dad thing. But I'm older now and I can't imagine life without them.
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My mother has literally been my support system all these years. She is one of the most hard working, determined and intelligent people I know. I would do anything for her. She loves me way too much for my own good though and tends to spoil me rotten😅. She has however given me values for life. Kindness, generosity, trust, love, faith and many more. Its because of her that I live every single day. I love her from the bottom of my heart.
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I think we have a pretty good and open relationship but I can't spend a lot of time with her because she becomes increasingly annoying. People say it's because we're similar which might be the case even though I take that as an insult. 😅 However, we can talk about pretty much anything and she's fun to hang out with in small doses. Luckily I live almost 300 km away so we don't see each other very often.
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Pretty amazing. My mum is one of those people who is there whenever I need her but knows when to keep her distance. She doesn't interfere in and respects my parenting, asks before doing anything with my kid. She loves me (and tells me often), loves my husband, is an awesome grandmother, etc. She's gone through a lot of shit in her life but she is strong, smart, and every other positive thing I can think of. She still gets incredibly proud when I do well (I just won an award in grad school and she nearly cried with joy... I am pushing 40). She is encouraging and has always pushed me to be the best me I can!
My mum is the best mum I could have hoped for. I cannot imagine life without her. -
I'm so grateful and thankful to have my mum around. She's one of my best friends, I can tell her anything and she'll try to be as understanding as she can be. She can be crazy at times but she has a clean soul. Been through a lot of shit but she has a clean soul
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The relationship between me and mum is great. We have been through a lot and we seem to confide in each other along the way. She is more emotionally attached to me then i am with her. She relies on me more hen my two other sisters. I suppose we grew closer as a mother and daughter situation. It’s very good overall
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My mom is great. I've managed to disappoint her a great deal so far in my life, I have not achieved very much to make her feel proud of me.
I never share my secrets with any family member. I find my life is better kept to myself because in the end, nobody really cares. She'll listen alright... But my secrets would not be confidential.
As soon as I have sorted my life out I'll move an hour or two away. Maybe she'll appreciate me more when I'm not around. I dunno. -
I love and care about my mom. We've never really been close though. She wasn't really there for me growing up so I've never really felt safe being vulnerable with her and sharing my struggles with her. Kinda same with my dad but not as much as with my mom
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I got lucky. My mother is amazing. Not just because she has put up with me all these years. She is an educator, a nurturer, a cancer survivor, an advisor, an amazing cook and now she is even a damn good grandma. Sure things got awkward for a while when I was a teenager but is pretty standard. I love my mom.
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she's a narcissist.
icy, entitled and everything is about her always.
she's better after almost dying of cancer but still doesn't get that love means to put others first.
I love her, somewhere inside for covering the basics, but my life would have been better if she just put me up for adoption or dropped me off at my dads.
She really damaged a lot of me, but she's my mom, so what can you besides try and heal. -
Good. She has been a great mom so far. It's just frustrating to her that there is little more she can teach me at this moment as she was a highschool dropout and I am trying to make it through uni. It also comes with less understanding for my situation and the fact that I struggle with the last steps of leaving my childhood behind. This is why it has watered down a little bit.
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My Mom is amazing. I'm just not a very good son. At least not as good as she deserves. When we have a fight, she's always the one who comes to talk to me and sort things out. I, on the other hand, can't bring myself to say sorry even if I realize that my Mom has been right all along about most things. The only problem in me and my Mom's relationship is that I'm stubborn in a bad way. I'm trying to work on that, don't feel like I'm making any progress though. 😞
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I have never been close with my Mother. We constantly fought and argued. I could never tell her anything, I could never open up to her because of how ridiculous and hostile she'd get depending on what it is (virginity, pot, etc..), and because she'd go and blab about it to my Father who's way stricter than her and her friends on the phone. But, she is my mother and we have our moments. I still love her, just never been close.
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