How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

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Sana1995 · Accepted Answer

It's seemed rather complicated and confusing for so many years, I'm not an only child and she always made me feel unappreciated for what I got done around the house but never realized she's got two sons. It wasn't until a year ago or so when it came to her senses that there's 5 of us living under the same house. I've had my insecurities about my body yet she's had the nerve to tell me in person I look like a skeleton, it even took me longer to get my diploma but by the time I got it she didn't sound pleased nor was she when I was going to school and completed a course with a 75%. She's never been the satisfied person with majority of things, she's quick at judging people I know better then her but thinks she knows those people much better.

Mimi1721 · Accepted Answer

I remind my mom of her mother and her and her mom didn't get a long so that creates a lot of tension between us. I could do the exact same thing as any one of my siblings and I always got in trouble while my siblings got away with it. It made life very hard at times.
She just mentioned yesterday that I was "acting" like her mother and honestly that hurt me so bad because I know she doesn't like her mother and wants nothing to do with her so how am I supposed to feel about that?

But she's still my mom and even though we don't see eye to eye all the time I still love her.

Ally_x · Accepted Answer

I don't have with her a close of a relationship as I'd like - I don't feel comfortable with talking to her about much.

She doesn't really stick up for me in front of my dad, even though I know she shares the same opinion as me about the issue. She's beautiful, cares for me when I'm sick, but sort of overlooks me when she thinks I'm okay.

I'm a little envious of people who can call their mother their best friend, their support system, and their shoulder to cry on. Really wish I had that; I hope I can be that for my children.

NineBreaker · Accepted Answer

There is no one I love now in this world than my mother. She is my hero and my greatest advocate. I'm even thankful for the times she disciplined me when I was younger (i. e. a jackass).

If anything, the woman almost died giving birth to me (I almost died too, but it's not like it was her fault).

Anyway, she's getting to the age where my siblings and I are taking care if her. I manage her prescriptions, I go with her to get doctors appointments, and even though I don't make much money, I give her a small monthly monetary gift, that's more symbolic than anything else. And what does she do with it? She donates it to charity or family/friends who are in need.

She's not perfect. No one is. But to me, there is no one better.

Shane_B · Accepted Answer

Its 50/50.

She just doesn't understand me or how I feel at times, and barely listens to what I have to say, she thinks I'm being stupid/ dumb/ lazy etc...

But she knows I have depression and anxiety and struggle with it a lot, been going therapy for 2 years or so, but she doesn't see things how I do, which is why we end up arguing nearly everyday.

I still feel like shit, and still feel suicidal.

While I was writing this, I was contemplating on weather I would be better off dead or fight to stay strong/ alive, I just don't know how to feel right now, except for feeling lost, alone and confused...

BoredKid · Answer

I can't say it all in the comment because of the limit, but in short I would say good she doesn't live with me and my brother but when we hang out and watch something we start goofing off and even just play around reinacting the things we laugh at. If she lived with us I would say the connection would grow a little because we really do enjoy eachothers company of course I keep minor things from her but everyone has a secret from parents right? Hope I could be of some help and I thank anyone who reads this all the way through.😺😺☺

khany · Answer

I honestly needed this question, and the timing of it is perfect.

I have cut ties with her. She has devastated me very much. My mum is an alpha female, and I do love her, but my heart knows better.

I honestly believe that my mum is a psychopath. Throughout child hood she rained terror over the first three siblings, i'm the second eldest.

She doesn't want me to have friends or stand on my own two feet without her total control.

She wants my wife to have no make up, and only her approval.

Im shit scared of relationships as a result. Always making me feel guilty.

birtch_tree · Answer

It's gotten rougher as time goes on. She had an illness which makes it so she can no longer produce hormones, and the medically regulated hormones she's on are hard to get precise. As a result, she's always very tired or very high-strung. She has little control over how she feels, what she does, or what she says, and tends to act very abrasively and illogically. I recognize that how she acts isn't intentional, so I do what I can to support her, but often times our differences that would not have been a problem before blow up into much larger issues.

menina · Answer

I'm not close to my mother at all. She hates me, she doesn't support me, she's always trying to bring me down and she does things on purpose to make me angry. She doesn't take me seriously, and I'm pretty sure she would love to see me dead.
I would love to have a mother who loved me and supported me. I also wish she was friend. But I have to accept that I will never have a loving and supporting mother.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

My mom is the most loving & supportive woman I have ever known. Yet, she & I almost always don't see each other eye to eye! We live far away from each other but quarrel on the phone almost every week. But, when we're together, we're like best friends until an argument arises. And, when we quarrel, my dad has to step in and shut us both up. Our jets cool quickly and then we're super friends again.

maiave · Answer

She is my best friend :) She wants the best for me, we have the exact same humour, she understands me so well, she can tell somethings wrong just by looking at me and I love her so much. I seriously couldn’t have asked for a better mom, I wouldn’t want anyone else.

BaileyisDarcy · Answer

BAHAHA

Shit!

When im there i dont want to leave, cause im a fucking sucker for punishment. You give me am abusive situation and im all over it asking for punches.

When im not there, i put off visiting for as long as i damn well can, i dont need her shit, I've got enough of my own.

ThatNorresGuy · Answer

I love my mum, fuck me and her have been through a lot and she was all I had for a good few years growing up (My dad took an overseas contract for 5 years and I only saw him 3 times. At least he's alive though. I'm thankful for that) I used to hate her half the time as a teen though with the whole step dad thing. But I'm older now and I can't imagine life without them.

Stellastarling · Answer

My mother has literally been my support system all these years. She is one of the most hard working, determined and intelligent people I know. I would do anything for her. She loves me way too much for my own good though and tends to spoil me rotten😅. She has however given me values for life. Kindness, generosity, trust, love, faith and many more. Its because of her that I live every single day. I love her from the bottom of my heart.

splashofyellow · Answer

I think we have a pretty good and open relationship but I can't spend a lot of time with her because she becomes increasingly annoying. People say it's because we're similar which might be the case even though I take that as an insult. 😅 However, we can talk about pretty much anything and she's fun to hang out with in small doses. Luckily I live almost 300 km away so we don't see each other very often.

sekhar555 · Answer

Pretty amazing. My mum is one of those people who is there whenever I need her but knows when to keep her distance. She doesn't interfere in and respects my parenting, asks before doing anything with my kid. She loves me (and tells me often), loves my husband, is an awesome grandmother, etc. She's gone through a lot of shit in her life but she is strong, smart, and every other positive thing I can think of. She still gets incredibly proud when I do well (I just won an award in grad school and she nearly cried with joy... I am pushing 40). She is encouraging and has always pushed me to be the best me I can!

My mum is the best mum I could have hoped for. I cannot imagine life without her.

g_peresilva · Answer

I'm so grateful and thankful to have my mum around. She's one of my best friends, I can tell her anything and she'll try to be as understanding as she can be. She can be crazy at times but she has a clean soul. Been through a lot of shit but she has a clean soul

mooky06 · Answer

The relationship between me and mum is great. We have been through a lot and we seem to confide in each other along the way. She is more emotionally attached to me then i am with her. She relies on me more hen my two other sisters. I suppose we grew closer as a mother and daughter situation. It’s very good overall

The-Weeknd-0 · Answer

My mom is great. I've managed to disappoint her a great deal so far in my life, I have not achieved very much to make her feel proud of me.

I never share my secrets with any family member. I find my life is better kept to myself because in the end, nobody really cares. She'll listen alright... But my secrets would not be confidential.

As soon as I have sorted my life out I'll move an hour or two away. Maybe she'll appreciate me more when I'm not around. I dunno.

ChaseParker · Answer

I love and care about my mom. We've never really been close though. She wasn't really there for me growing up so I've never really felt safe being vulnerable with her and sharing my struggles with her. Kinda same with my dad but not as much as with my mom

SmoMan71 · Answer

I got lucky. My mother is amazing. Not just because she has put up with me all these years. She is an educator, a nurturer, a cancer survivor, an advisor, an amazing cook and now she is even a damn good grandma. Sure things got awkward for a while when I was a teenager but is pretty standard. I love my mom.

oOsecret_starlandsOo · Answer

she's a narcissist.

icy, entitled and everything is about her always.

she's better after almost dying of cancer but still doesn't get that love means to put others first.

I love her, somewhere inside for covering the basics, but my life would have been better if she just put me up for adoption or dropped me off at my dads.

She really damaged a lot of me, but she's my mom, so what can you besides try and heal.

Naxwi · Answer

Good. She has been a great mom so far. It's just frustrating to her that there is little more she can teach me at this moment as she was a highschool dropout and I am trying to make it through uni. It also comes with less understanding for my situation and the fact that I struggle with the last steps of leaving my childhood behind. This is why it has watered down a little bit.

AlexBlack007 · Answer

My Mom is amazing. I'm just not a very good son. At least not as good as she deserves. When we have a fight, she's always the one who comes to talk to me and sort things out. I, on the other hand, can't bring myself to say sorry even if I realize that my Mom has been right all along about most things. The only problem in me and my Mom's relationship is that I'm stubborn in a bad way. I'm trying to work on that, don't feel like I'm making any progress though. 😞

Anonymous · Answer

I have never been close with my Mother. We constantly fought and argued. I could never tell her anything, I could never open up to her because of how ridiculous and hostile she'd get depending on what it is (virginity, pot, etc..), and because she'd go and blab about it to my Father who's way stricter than her and her friends on the phone. But, she is my mother and we have our moments. I still love her, just never been close.

Browneye57 · Answer

Guys don't 'feel' - that's a female thought process.
Mom is a narcissist egotist. It's ALL about her. She never did understand her only son, which is such a shame. Contact is extremely limited. She's just not welcome.
You can pick your friends, but you inherit your relatives. Neither one is deserving of your time if they are toxic, including your parents or children.

silverqueen · Answer

She’s egocentric and selfish. I’ve never really gotten along with her. She only thinks about herself, and has treated my dad selfishly. I would call it emotional/mental abuse, but he would never say anything like that of course.

Anonymous · Answer

I love both my parents but they also frustrate me. My farther has a martyr complex and my mother also slightly has it too. I can't tell you how frustrating and draining it is when they're always trying to play the victim instead of just simply taking responsibility!!

babyjh · Answer

I used to have such a great relationship with her when i was a kid, although for the past 2 years she has had depression and mental unwellness, which has led to her being an awful mother. Treating my dad, sister and i like absoloute shit. My dad has pretty much single patented me, whilst getting shit from my mum the whole time. She is so emotionally draining. I dont even want to be around her
It breaks my heart that i don't even want a relationship with her

Naydyonov · Answer

When I was very young it was really good.
Unfortunately because of overall deteriorating relationship between her and my father she became extremely stressed, which led her to yell often, quickly become upset, etc.

Now However she is generally quite good but I'm still uneasy at times

chrisvolk · Answer

My Mom had six children. .. was (is) an unbelievable Mother/person! She fell pregnant with me at 14 and dealt with all that followed. Shebeas living, kind, supportive and encouraging. She now lies in hospital with dementia and drifts in and out of cognitive recognition.

nicole05 · Answer

It's not as close as I wish it would be. I don't tell her things or open up to her. I see the type of relationship my friends have with their mothers and I can definetely see what I have with mine doesn't come close to what they have with theirs.

smokeandberry · Answer

Not a bad word to say about her I love her. She's currently looking after me while I'm ill. She's been through some shitty stuff but she always gets through it and I just want her to be happy. She has a lot going for her 👩‍👧❤️

thisismeshygirl · Answer

I just fuckin hate my mom !! MORE THAT ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD!! I can not tell her anyyyything !! Like nothingggg !! Every time i wanna talk to her she starts yelling at me and treating me like shit i just hate her so much

MaelaK · Answer

It is just okay. We are not super close in the sense that I can open up to her like I do with my closest friends but we are still fine and she is still always there for me whenever I need support while keeping a certain distance at the same time.

skywardprincess · Answer

When I was in my younger teen years we definitely clashed a lot. I told her to her face that I didn't like her. But now that I'm older it's significantly improved. She has her moments of course and she frustrates me but I still love her

HOAAH · Answer

my relationship is good, I can call/talk or visit whenever.
I do have some issues with my mom though.
1. she has no empathy
2. she is judgmental
3. she isn't very encouraging but kind of negative and a downer...

MissDyno · Answer

My mom and I are both very stubborn. We used to bump heads all the time and have screaming matches, but as I got older, I realized that we are very much alike and she is the most selfless person I know.

glitter_unicorns24 · Answer

The older I've gotten, the better our relationship has gotten. We hang out, go to the movies, go shopping, go on road trips.. I love our relationship now. We're even going to California this summer lol.

windluv3r · Answer

My relationship with my mom sucks. I want to be closer to her but for some reason she avoids me. I feel like a part of me is missing and it sucks to live like that.

ShortCircuit · Answer

As a person, I think she has good intentions, but she is immature and irresponsible.  I appreciate everything that she has done for me, but I don't have a particularly strong bond with her.

aconfusedgirlie · Answer

It’s good. I love her so much. Sometimes I wish I could talk to her though. In that sense we aren’t very close but all around we have a good relationship.

eboney619 · Answer

It is what it is  We fight then we’re friends and then enemies. I’m so confused about my relationship with my mom honestly.

MindYourEyes · Answer

I wish it was a bit better. Or basically I wish she was more understanding. If she had that then we would be solid good.

enirikiu · Answer

With my mom, kind of okay/good I think. She gets angry when I don't see a reason to. I'm not a very touchy-feely person so I don't hug anyone very much at all.

JourneyMonet17 · Answer

We're not doing great, there is a distance and lately I've been embarrassed of her at stores and and stuff she always acts weird and thinks I always have an attitude

jamesmark1903 · Answer

Almost doesn’t exist. I feel quite offended by the fact that she still claims to know or understand me. I couldn’t even remember her birthday or the day she got married. She is not close to me at all.

pervertedjester · Answer

She's always been kinda crazy but she's harmless and we get along well enough.

kilowatt04 · Answer

She is one of the most reasonable and reliable people, and she raised me to be that way. Yet I am not. I do not tell her of my shit because she would blame herself.

Slimey2 · Answer

My Mam is awesome! She is always there for me. I find when I am ill she is always there. I think my illness brought us closer together

zxcded · Answer

Really really close with my mom. Always at the end of Day we drink tea together and talk about things. I can tell her everything. Lol. Love my mom!

MissFuskerCluck · Answer

she's totally judgmental and unemotional. But at the end of the day she will always have my back 10,000 percent and i can tell her everything

SullyB · Answer

I love my mother more than anything in this world. She looked after me since I was little, as a single parent , as a mom and dad and for that I have no words that can adequately express my gratitude. She is the best mother the world has ever seen❤.

xZoeyx · Answer

Eh. I'm not very close with any of my family.
The only reason I talk to her about some problems is because I have no one else to. But I only talk to her about the minor things.
I wish we were closer but that's never gonna happen

Ripper_E · Answer

We were close. We would fight a lot, but looking back on it, it's because we were so much alike. Still, she was closer to me than anyone else.

Vindi · Answer

Amazing, my mom goes to hell and back as if she goes to the store to buy groceries. Sometimes she wishes I share more and talk more, but I am not like that.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

She's like an overgrown spoiled child that tries to make it look like she's better than others. So preoccupied with herself.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Since your anonymous I don't think that is any of your business.

Oceania · Answer

I wish we were closer but it feels like I've been developing this feeling where I'm just disconnected to her

hunty · Answer

my mom is my bitch yknow like she’s the best human being out of u crapheads like even my friends like her better then me

Volvagia · Answer

meh she's kinda insane and dramatic, it's hard to relate with her at all. She's still my mom tho and she does a lot for me, I make an effort to show appreciation but meh

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

It’s the same and it’s good. Nothing but love as we get older (mainly me) we aren’t as close as we used to be as I have several other things to do

123Justice123 · Answer

I lover her but i see her more as my best friend than my mum like we have got our inside jokes and stuff so yeah 😂❤

mspence · Answer

I do love my mum, without a shadow of doubt. Although we do have the occasional argument, that doesn't make a huge difference to our relationship at all.

boggboss · Answer

weird as I became man of the house so to speak from a young age we have a kind of best friend relashonship

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