My girlfriend is angry at me for liking a bikini post of a friend, but she also has plenty of bikini posts on her insta?

[Ethanjs]

A friend down in the Bahamas posted a collage of photos, I liked it as I do many other posts on insta. Not scandalously, just simply liking a friends post. The female is attractive, regardless. My girlfriend got very angry and texted me about it saying wtf is this? So responded to her saying she is a friend through work, I then was like “well… wtf your last like 3-4 posts are of you in a bikini down in the Bahamas lol…are all the males liking your picture just trying to screw you?” She ofc said “well that’s different, you shouldn’t be liking other girls posts” Does this seem okay?

[JamesDiaz11]

I think there are some expectations that are not being met. You're both kind of acting immature, which isn't uncommon, but improvements can be made. You and I both know that a boyfriend husband liking a girls bikini pics isn't cool- I don't need to mince words with you, but that's just not something the girl is going to like.

At the same time, your girlfriend should tone it down on posting bikini pics. She knows as well as we do that they're thirst traps, and a majority of the guys liking them want to fk. So, I'd suggest a reasonable compromise in that she shouldn't be posting bikini pics, and you shouldn't be liking them. That way both of you get something that'll make you more comfortable.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I agree with what you saying but there is a huge difference between him liking a photo and her posting one.
She knows the attention a bakini photo provides over a photo of her fully clothes

[Jdjfjcjj]

It's attention seeking through a sexhally based manner.

[PrettyPriya]

No, that seems very contradicting and controlling. Just because you liked a friends post, she should not be upset. Would it have mattered if the friend was fully clothed? If so, she is very controlling and insecure. This is almost saying it is okay if I do it but you cannot.

That is a big red flag to me. She is saying it is okay for her to post the exact thing that she is saying you should not be looking at. It is, after all, a bikini. It is not abnormal to see. Do you two go to the beach together? Does she blindfold you?

I don't get this sort of behaviour and it feels to me like she is insecure about the relationship to some extent or about herself. I don't know why that would be since I obviously do not know her. It just feels that way from the details you shared.

This sounds like the type of person that doesn't let her SO have female friends. Not cool and very controlling.

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly. My boyfriend has many female friends (he doesn't talk to them anymore because they are in different cities and study) i met them and i felt that they had only friend chemistry and wants jelaous. I know what my boyfriend likes and what not.😊 Insecurity is bad and ruins relationships

[CoolCatMar1]

Wasn't jealous*

[PrettyPriya]

@CoolCatMar1 Absolutely correct. My other half's best friend in the world from back home is a girl. They talk weekly or at the very least email. Half the time, I haven't a clue what they discuss. Doesn't matter. She is a friend and he is allowed to have them, no matter the gender.

[CoolCatMar1]

True, also i know his type and they don't look like it😂 they are good girls though and i liked to hang out with them especially one of them. They all have boyfriends themselves by the way

[Anonymous]

i noticed that too my feed has been non stop with such photos lately and some of the girls i can barely remember even following them or who they are but they appear in my feed , i only follow 1000 plus pages now but followed over 7000 on my old account until it stopped working last year , sucks cause it followed some really tough to access private accounts

as for your situation don't think the like was a big deal but from a girs perspective could see why she'd have an issue with it as your spending your time looking at bikini pictures of other women

[Jamesier]

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[Guy13]

Woman, when you exemplify the behavior demanded, come talk to me. I’m not living in a double standard. I am following your lead although to a much lesser degree.

Look at your bikini 👙 post etc…

Yes all those guys want 👍 to tag her. And your like 👍 confirms you want to tag your friend as well.

[Jdjfjcjj]

>but she also has plenty of bikini posts on her insta?

I consider this cheating. These posts obviously get more 👍 then the ones where she's fully clothed and includes you next to her.

She knows this and will quite possibly lose followers when she posts tpics with you.

Even then, at a bare minimum her acct should be switched to private but frankly I wouldn't accept a woman with an account at all. It's a dating app regardless of whether it's subtitled as such

[Miristheiss]

You are both messed up. If you want be a good boyfriend then get off social media and quit following other girls and looking at their sexy pictures.

She sucks a girlfriend though as well. If she wants to be a good girlfriend get all the sexy pictures off the internet.

See how social media if F***ing up things in relationships in ways people 20 years ago and before never had to deal with?

[fibs4kt]

this isn’t ok. she’s controlling. plus, you’re just looking at a bikini. you’re not hitting her up, saving it to do yk what to it later, or seeing her naked. go to the beach or to a pool party, there’s girls in bikinis. it seems like she’s insecure and controlling, which are concerns you should be aware of and maybe work on with her or just find a different alternative


don’t give up though, unless you choose to. everything has a solution

[In_Trance]

get off each other's social media ffs