Rejected by my best female friend. I'm trying to understand her behavior. Why she still interacts with me on social media?

[CeeDee90]

So I've been rejected by my best female friend of 15 years about a month ago. She was recently out of a bad relationship of 4 years. After her break up she started spending more time with me. Texted me everyday invited me out all the time just the 2 of us. We dived deep into conversations like never before. After the rejection I walked away from her. Focused on me my hobbies my studies and my job. Even started meeting new women. For the past 1.5 month she likes my stuff watches my stories. She texted me about 2 times the first 2 weeks to check on me. Thought I'm ignoring her likes and hearts. She's not reactive lately. I think she used me for 4 months after her break up to fill the empty seat. She even said that she understood I liked her but didn't said anything. I think she just wants my attention. And she lost her main validator and attention giver.

I'm ignoring her but I want some opinions on this.

[PrettyPriya]

It could very well be that you were the person she felt most comfortable talking to after the breakup. I assume by you saying she rejected you, that means you asked her for more than friends?

I think that was the first mistake. If someone is just out of a bad relationship, there has to be sufficient time and healing for that person. Everyone gets over that sort of thing at a different pace. Rushing into something (with a friend) probably scared her.

I guess if she is truly a BEST friend, what did it hurt that she relied on you to help her through that? Isn't that what best friends are supposed to do, support each other when they are in need?

I am actually a bit confused by this. You gave up a friendship because she rejected you as anything more than a friend. Honestly, that is some childish behaviour and not something I would expect from a best friend. Then to ignore her? Equally as childish. Obviously, this friendship is over and really ask yourself why.

I can see only one answer and that is that she rejected you and because it wasn't what you wanted, the friendship is gone. What a shame.

[CeeDee90]

Let me rephrase. Not ignoring her texts if she send me one. I'm always polite respectful and I respond. I'm ignoring her socials. But one of the phrases she said is stuck in my mind. "I can have 10 men with the snap of my fingers if I want to". This speaks egoism to me. And to be fair. She was always disappearing and reappearing. And we are not talking about months. We are talking years.

[Changiis07]

I agree sounds like she just wanted a friend and you were that for her.

[Changiis07]

When you get over a break up of that long you aren't looking for a relationship

[Guy13]

Yep, sounds like you nailed this girl. "If she will do it for you then she will do it to you..."

She's just like every other girl wanting us to Fix it. Yeah, she lost her main validator and slid you in there sort like a shot of Irish whiskey to keep her all warm and fuzzy full of Attention. This is an obvious Dead End road.

If I knew you... like I have told a friend of mine more than once in varying situations, "I wouldn't screw her even with your penis... but you go right ahead"

[CeeDee90]

The more I think about those years the more I understand. She got used to the attention and the chase for half of her life. Being attractive you're getting used to it. And she got used to it. She got used to be chased by guys. Going back and thinking of these years I can clearly see the bigger picture. I was a man that she will go to when she was alone or she wanted to help her build up her confidence. She wasn't really there. I did a mistake phrasing the question "Best friend". I'm realizing she wasn't. You have to walk away from people to realize what they truly are

[In_Trance]

Another textbook example of why men and women can't be friends

[Iron_Man]

You have always been friends