I’ve been friends with this wonderfully amazing woman for a while now and I might be catching feelings for her. I suspect it may be mutual but I’m utterly hopeless at picking up on romantic indicators at the best of times. It’s especially the case when the person’s actions blur the lines between super friendly or flirty.
Possible signs:
- always hugs me warmly and enthusiastically when we greet each other and when we farewell each other. She’s the type of person who’ll hug anyone who she knows reasonably well but it feels her hugs with me are more than superficial, uses her whole body.
- is always bright and bubbly in group settings even when I’m there. When one on one with me, though, she becomes a bit more subdued. Always makes an effort to check in and ask questions about my life including recalling what I’ve told her in previous conversations. Listens attentively. Often softly touches/brushes me when we’re chatting.
- increasingly asks me, after we say our farewells, to check in with her by text when I get home. Last time she asked I used it as an opportunity to show my affection for her, to which she responded very positively. (Also, very recently, as I was saying goodbye to her, I - without thinking - blurted out “I love you [name]” - she responded with “I love you too”)
- she hardly ever initiates texting (we only ever text to plan things or if there’s something to be said anyway) but always responds warmly and enthusiastically, usually promptly and sometimes excitedly when I text her. Responds well to affection over text: I recently told her how much I appreciate her and she responded with “love ya too ❤️”
- often does things for me, whether it’s buying me lunch from time to time to supporting and helping me achieve my goals. Always seemingly wants the best outcomes for me.
- is there for me, provides comfort and understanding when I’m feeling down or going through a difficult time and need someone to talk to about stuff.
What Girls Said
From my perspective, it kinda feels like she sees you as a really good friend. She probably enjoys your company and you as a person but I feel like if she had feelings for you there would be more sexual tension or some kind of hint that she's into you. Every person is different of course, so in this case you just have to come out and ask her or let her know you're into her. Otherwise you'll never know.
I guess my question is: what makes you doubt she likes you?
Mostly that she has a warm, lively and bubbly personality in general - meaning some of the indicators that she could possibly like me could be just her being super friendly as opposed to flirty.
Wow, I'd have to say that without actually seeing her with you vs. with others, it's really hard to say. She sounds great if you ever do get an unmistakable sign in words, a kiss, or a near-kiss!
She just sounds like a good friend tbh