I'm going to start off by saying the legal age of consent where i live is 16. I want to explain the situation first off before anything else. Basically i grew up with two kids, one my age (20) and one a few years younger (17). These two guys are brothers and would consider the the one my age my most closest friend. The younger of the two is also a really good friend of mine and now being 17 and passing his drivers test is at that age where we will now often go out to do things together. He has a friend who is also his age. She would often come out with the group of friends we have and naturally we became friends. Now this girl lives less then a 2 minute drive from me, so whenever we go out it's just easier for me to pick her up and go wherever it is we are going. Naturally being in a car together means we often have deep talks about things and she is genuinely one of the best girls i've ever met. Me being 20 and her being 17 means i've never even thought about the possibility of anything remotely happening. She often talks about her ex and the crush she has on a friend in the group. However, recently i've noticed that things have changed. She is now a lot more touchy often touching my hand when changing gear or sometimes even stroking my arm. I used to pass this off as just her now being friendly as she still talks about the crush she has as well as her ex. The only difference is i'm now getting messages and snapchats from her late at night (nothing sexual) often just to chat. I even mentioned how i'm invited to a wedding and she instantly said i should bring her as my plus one and that we need to come up with a story about how we've been dating for 2 years. She seems to now be messaging me almost everyday asking if we (the group) are doing anything and if she can come with me. She almost always gets in my car whenever we go out as well. Now one of my friends has messaged me asking if anything is going on between us which i replied no because nothing remotely is.
First sentence already makes me say not my problem... and don't think it's a problem. Now I'll read the rest.
She might have a thing for you... you're both young as fuck in my book so I don't see a problem with it. Hit her up and see what's up. Don't be one of those dudes that curtails their options for so long that they end up with a over 30 chick with other kids daddies involved and they become nothing more than the paycheck guy. Try her idea and take her to that fucking wedding. Kiss her or something. Do something. If it fails it's over and done... no more guessing. If it works it will work. Just do something if you feel it.
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I would have fucking hated that, at your age. That age gap alone would send me running for the hills when I was your age.
There is still a notable development gap between 17 and 20, regardless of if it would be legal or not if you have the mental capacity of a 17-year-old at 20, she’s going to outgrow you by the time she reaches 20. If you feel obligated to pursue this just because she’s the only girl that’s shown you individual attention for the first time in God knows how long, I wouldn’t recommend it.
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It's all in if you think you should settle for that age. Girls will say "nah, it ain't cool" but, I know a girl who is married to a guy 20 years older than her, even though he's on his last leg. Again, it's all in if you think you should settle for someone that young. I personally don't buttttt, its up to you
It legal where you live, you think it not moral? also she have ex and she touchy, she not naive.
She might be legal age, but at age 17 it doesn't make it any less creepy.
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