How can a girl be super into you, agree to go out, ask to be your girlfriend, then become cold and distant like she never even liked you?

[Anonymous]

She doesn't even care to hang out or talk, it's like I'm just there in the background. It's so weird considering I didn't do anything wrong and she was so excited when I asked her out.
I thought she was cool, but she's not. I'm thinking of dumping her ass.
I'm just confused

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Oh I see what your saying lol. Exactly!

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Whoops. That was meant to be a reply, not an update

[MOO212014]

are you sure you did nothing? have you talked to her about the way she is acting I know most girls enjoy partners asking what's wrong and trying to show you care or they thought they wanted a relationship but don't want the commitment.. maybe you asked her to soon maybe something at work is going bad something is up

[Asker]

I didn't do anything that I know of. I've been racking my brain and i can't think of what I might've done.
You're right, I should talk about it. I just don't even know if she's worth the drama.

[MOO212014]

agree if you do not think its worth the fight than I wouldn't but its better to talk about it a little to not leave on bad grounds. Hope you get your answers soon :)

[Asker]

That's a good point. I'll man up and ask her. Could just be my expectations too, maybe there's nothing wrong, I don't know. Thank you!

[MOO212014]

welcome hope it goes good pal..

[Asker]

Thank you. It probably won't

[MOO212014]

do not be negativity into the air think positive

[Asker]

Lol, ok. I'll try

[Asker]

It's gonna go great and she's gonna give me a blowjob to make up for how she made me feel 😊

[MOO212014]

if she doesn't drop her means she don't care haha being honest

[Asker]

Lol, if she doesn't drop her what?

[MOO212014]

dump her lol.. after a conversation like that I mean thats when its supposed to be makeup hour lol

[Asker]

Oh I see what you're saying lol. Exactly!

[Anonymous]

I’ve been through this. They don’t really want us but they need a label. They need to be able to tell someone they’re taken. They also need someone to fall back on if they ever do seek our attention. Lastly, they dont us but they don’t want anyone else to have us

[Asker]

Amen sister

[Opinion Owner]

I try not to text back so soon when they reply hours late, but I miss them so I text back immediately. I also keep backups in order because if they are possibly talking to someone else, I will do the same

[Asker]

That's smart. I wish I could do the same lol

[Opinion Owner]

I would prefer you not until you know for sure of she's talking to someone else.

[Asker]

How would I find out?

[Opinion Owner]

To be honest, I’m still trying to find out myself. Everytime i go to flirt with someone else, I cannot go through with it because I want to be for sure. I’m not the type to cheat but I’d absolutely begin some sort of emotional cheating if I don’t tame myself. Like right now, he said he’d call a certain time and its been hours. I still haven't even gotten a response to a text hours ago. Its a rollercoaster for the last two weeks. This week is better than last but its stressful because you and I know we deserve better but we can't help but give our all before truly giving up on them

[Asker]

You're so right. Personally I wouldn't cheat anyway, I'd just break up with her.
But still, it's stressful thinking you might be getting taken advantage of 🤦‍♂️
I hope your man gets his shit together too.
We do deserve better. Most people do

[Opinion Owner]

Yea I can’t cheat either. But you should still always have your backups in order lol. I hope she comes to her senses because you sound like a great guy and one who actually tries. I just want them to match our effort for once

[Asker]

Me too! Thanks I appreciate that 😊
Same goes for you

I agree about the backup, it's just not an option for me lol. I wish it was, but this is only the 2nd girl I've been able to get in the last 7 years 😂
I suck with women

[Opinion Owner]

No you don’t suck. You just seem reserved. If I wasn’t talkng to someone and you weren’t either, you'd have already grasped my attention

[Asker]

That's sweet of you to say. How so? (Just so I know what I'm doing right lol)

[Opinion Owner]

You’re being yourself. You’re emotionally open, a bit vulnerable. You’re trying to make things work and not just stepping out. You’re giving the effort I want more of. Funny thing... now he texts that he’s about to call me lol

[Asker]

Oh ok, that makes sense. Thank you!

Whoa that's crazy lol. Maybe the universe finally heard you.
Hope things go your way! Thanks for your help 😊

[Opinion Owner]

So I’m back to rant. So first he calls late and then cuts our talk time. And then after that, its been like 5 hours with no response to my text. This is the rollercoaster that really irks me and makes me want to ball my eyes out daily

[Asker]

Fuck that guy. Tell him to straighten up or you're gone

[Opinion Owner]

I have. We had so much trouble last week and though this week is better its like going through similar crap. haven't heard from him since 5pm yesterday. Thats ridiculous

[Asker]

That is insane

[Opinion Owner]

Yes last talked at 5pm yesterday. Today its 1pm. Still no word back

[Opinion Owner]

He tried to make an excuse today for not being around but its too late, I finally left him last night and clearly he didn’t get the just of that. So i’ve ignored his messages all day

[Asker]

Ata girl. That's all you can do.
Would you take him back if he vowed to change, or are you done?

[Opinion Owner]

Deep down, I still have feelings for him but nowhere near as strong. Lately when talking to him, I just felt disgust. Everything he said came across as being a smartass rather than sweet and genuine and I felt extremely turned off. I also had to fake an orgasm during out phone sex the other day because he’s been so selfish lately and focused more on himself. So yes this weekend has been easier at attempting to get over him. Im a little bored without talking to him but even when he was around, our talks had gone downhill. So I should be okay in a few days. I hope things are improving for you?

[Asker]

Well good for you, you don't need that.
Things aren't any better for me either. It's all good though. Fuck em, am I right?

[Opinion Owner]

Yea forget em. I hope you leave soon too

[Asker]

I don't even care anymore. I'll just stay for the sex until I find something better. But thanks for asking 😊
I'm glad you made that move. You'll find someone better

[Opinion Owner]

Damn the sex that good lol

[Asker]

It's ok lol. It's either that or my hand though 🤷‍♂️
😂

[Opinion Owner]

Um yea your hand makes more sense lol. But i’ll let you have your fun

[Asker]

There's nothing more pathetic than a man jacking off because he has no other option.
Girls will never understand lol

[Opinion Owner]

Its actually hot if he jerks to us until we give him something more. Its not pathetic at all

[Asker]

Lol, that's true. But that's if you're in the picture

[Opinion Owner]

Haha

[shades777]

maybe she found someone better, some girls use guys as place holders until someone better comes along.

[Asker]

It's amazing how accurate you guys are. I suspected that from day one. I know she's on her phone ALL the time, so her one or two word replies an hour later probably indicate she's talking to another guy who she's actually hanging out with.
He probably fucks her better too.

I just don't know why she keeps me around.

[Asker]

Jesus, I sound like a cuck lol
No wonder she's losing interest

[Asker]

😂😂

[shades777]

I wouldn't entertain the thought to that degree, just treat her how she treats you, give her the two word response when she texts you, tell her your busy chasing your dreams, and start talking to other women.

Life is too short to be mistreated, I mean continue to work on yourself, gym, read books, work overtime or open a business, you'll forgot about her and begin to attract other women.

[shades777]

Don't tell her you moved on, show her by being less present in her life, she might come back, she might not, but its no longer your problem, you did your part and its time you move on to someone who values your attention with enthusiasm

[Asker]

That's some solid advice man. Thank you

[Asker]

Hell yes, you're god damn right

[shades777]

All good, been there before. ✊🏾.

[Asker]

Thanks again man

[shades777]

This all could be hypothetical, what's important is to listen to your gut feeling. Women also go through things and become distant.

[Asker]

Yeah that's true. You think I'll sound like a whiny bitch if I ask her about it?
(I'm bad with women, I'm not gonna lie)

[shades777]

No don't bring it up, just treat her like she treats you, at least there won't be hard feelings. But I would definitely keep improving yourself, lose weight, build muscle, make more money, treat yourself sometimes with a Asian massage or a nice watch, new shoes, fresh haircut.

People tend to respect those that respect themselves, building yourself up is respectable

[Asker]

Right on, that makes sense 👍
I appreciate your time with all this. Everyone has been helpful, but you especially

[shades777]

Right on ✊🏾

[Anonymous]

Maybe she didn't like the way you fucked her.

[Asker]

Lol, you actually might be right about that. Fuck, I didn't think about that

[Asker]

Oh my god, that's hilarious. I think that's what it is 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I just finished telling someone else here, after we fucked doggy style, my ex said that was the wildest sex she'd ever had. Also, remember, sex is like a Chinese dinner for two: it's not over `til you BOTH get your cookies!!

[Asker]

😂😂 well I don't know if she got her cookie or not. But I'm no stud in the bedroom, that's for damn sure

[Asker]

That's really fucking funny if that's what it is though. I don't know why.
Like I told the other girl, it could be nothing and I'm just reading it wrong.
But if it's because I don't fuck her good enough, that's priceless lol

[Opinion Owner]

You don't really have to be, just know how to "play her piano". Fucking, itself, is great but she probably needs other things done, as well. Might be a good idea to ask her what it takes for you to win her jackpot. Not every girl is the same.
If you can, try starting out with long, slow, deep strokes.
It also occurs to me that we're BUILT to fuck doggy style, like the bottom of your dick might be what gets her off as it slides back & forth across her clit and G-spot. Girls say they can feel your dick swell up and pulse when you're cumming in her and they love that so, fucking her doggy might feel a lot better across her clit, etc..
Start out by doing some muff diving. Girls say they like it BEFORE better than after fucking,

[Asker]

Lol, that's awesome. I love doggy too. It just makes me cum too fast. Which is my main problem in general.
I did get her off once by going down on her, but I think that was the only time

[Asker]

What's muff diving?

[Opinion Owner]

When you feel like you're about to cum, just stop fucking for a few moments to let the urge die down and then get back into it. In a way, this is called, Tantric sex. Sting does it that way. Stop yourself as many times as you can and, when you finally let go, it feels a bit better and, by that time, she should've cum at least once.
Muff diving = eating pussy.
Next time you try that, stick a finger or two in her at the same time. At least one finger and keep "rubbing" the inside of her pussy with the tip of your finger, palm up (if she's facing you) and act like you're trying to get someone to come towards you, y'know how to do that with just one finger. Just stick it in an inch or 3. What you're going to be doing is rubbing her G-spot.

[Asker]

Oh ok, nice! Thanks for the tips. I'll do that next time, if there is one.

😂 Sting does it, that's awesome

[Opinion Owner]

I tried it once and got myself to stop cumming 14 times in a row before I let go.

[Asker]

And she didn't care that you kept stopping?

[Asker]

I can only go for about 30 seconds before I have to cum. I'm terrible.
It doesn't help that she's crazy hot either. I could fuck a fat girl all day, but not her

[Opinion Owner]

Well, that time, I was just wanking.
Hmmm, maybe wrap something around the head of your dick or do something to desensitize it.
Or, get her to pork out! Maybe she can wear some kind of silicone prosthetic that makes her look fat.

[Asker]

Oh... lol

😂😂 that would be hilarious. Maybe I'll try wearing a condom and see if that helps

[Asker]

She wants to pork out actually, she thinks she's too skinny.
But at 115, even if she gained 20 pounds, it would only make her hotter 🤦‍♂️

[Opinion Owner]

Okay then, if you're GONNA wrap that rascal, put something over the head of your dick and the rubber should keep it in place. If it's just fucking, itself, that makes you cum so fast, I don't think this'll help but, if the head making contact with the innards of her pussy is what does it, find some thin cloth of some sort you can put on your head before putting the rubber on. Maybe even paint it with a couple layers of rubber cement before putting the helmet on it and sending that soldier into battle.
A really simple trick you can try is to beat off (or let her beat you off or blow you) to orgasm BEFORE you fuck her.

[Asker]

Lol, that's a good idea. It is the sensation (mainly)

[Asker]

"Wrap that rascal" 🤣🤣

[Asker]

You're fucking funny

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you! I try.

[AsaKyo]

Women are bipolar by nature

[Asker]

Lol, it sure seems like it!
She told me she takes meds for bipolar, but it seems like she'd at least be cool sometimes if that was the main problem

[rachel776]

something changed during that time