Do women get turned on by men that act aggresive?

[TheIrishWolf]

I watched Goodfellas yesterday, and in one scene, the main charecter bashes some guys head in with a gun after he treats the girl he likes, disrespectfully. The guy hands her the gun to get rid of, and to cut it short, it turned her on. She hid it.

I'm thinking it's true, because deep down, women want men that can protect them.

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I watched Goodfellas yesterday, and in one scene, the main charecter bashes some guys head in with a gun after he treats a girl he likes disrespectfully by groping and humiating her. The guy hands her the gun to get rid of, and to cut it short, it turned her on. She hid it. YouTube scene clip: Goodfellas Henry Beats Up Neighbour.

[ShellyB]

I have not seen the movie but to answer honestly, which is why I am here is to answer stuff like this honestly, including things I would be too embarrassed to say in person or social media.

Bashing somebody with a gun is v. extreme, and giving the girl the gun to hide is also v. extreme. To me that would only be appropriate in extreme situations like if I was really physically attacked. Somebody acting that way bc I was insulted or somebody made a comment about my body would be a big turnoff. However if I was really attacked and somebody did that to protect me, yes it would be a major bonding experience for me with them probably.

Also for lesser things, like to use my same example if somebody made a rude comment about my body, I would like the guy I was with to protect me by telling them to leave me alone or standing in between us or something, nothing crazy just something appropriate for the situation. In general I do like to feel protected and it is a turnon if not too extreme.

I feel like this comment is too wordy but anyway to explain how I think about it! JMO!

[TheIrishWolf]

Not too wordy at all. All good.

For context in the movie (which I should've added), the woman is in a car with a guy friend, he hits on her, feels her up creepily, she rejects him and he kicks her out of his car and she feels humiliated and abused.

She calls her kinda boyfriend, he comes over to her, she's crying, he says who?, she says guy across my house, they go, and that's what the guy does...

[TheIrishWolf]

Unfortunately I can't post links, but if you're interested, YouTube: goodfellas henry beats up neighbor

[ShellyB]

I feel like it would be better to call the police, but if I was in that situation and my boyfriend beat the guy up, would I like that - prob. yes! No gun, though, it isn't worth somebody dying. JMO!

[TheIrishWolf]

He didn't die anyway. But he'll have a sore nose 👃.

[ShellyB]

I watched it and, wow. I don't know, I have mixed feelings but yeah I can see how it would be a turnon tbh. Also some warning signs, I don't think being with him is going to work out well in the long run but this incident, yeah he would be her hero.

[TheIrishWolf]

It seemed a bit axcessive, but he deserved it.

The movie is based on a true story. They lasted 25 years. 😂

[smashleyy]

I’m sure it gets a few women going but I am not one of them. Yeah a man that can protect you is attractive but it’s about picking and choosing your battles and understanding that not every situation deserves a reaction. Men that are quick to aggressive behaviour show lack of self control, and a need of validation while proving themselves in a toxic manner which aren’t things that get me going. It takes a lot to be able to take the high road while self regulating your emotions and not acting on impulse especially when it doesn’t seem to be in most mens nature to do so when provoked.

[TheIrishWolf]

Good points. But watch this YouTube video: Goodfellas Henry beats neighbour (it's the first one).

[TheIrishWolf]

But yeah, being a wild animal gets you nothing but trouble. Be a monster, but master self discipline.

[19magic]

If it was during sex then sure whatever the more the better for me, but normally it depends on the situation. If he was doing a hobby and he buggered it up or it didn't go to plan then yeah that's fine it's just frustration on something he's passionate about. If it was towards the wait staff then nah that's a red flag and I'll be out of there. If it was a fight or even him taking a firm stance on something or backing me up, I wouldn't feel turned on but rather touched that he thinks of me like that, it's kind of the same feeling as being called his girl that's something that would always make me blush and smile.

[Faith18letsgo]

I think some women definitely. But most women like to feel safe and feel safer with peaceful men who defend them when needed but aren’t generally aggressive. And also defending someone physically is just as important as verbally. Guys will say “I’ll fight anyone any size for you.” But then if his homies talk shit about women and you ask him to bring it up he so it goes “Thats awkward he was just joking don’t take it like that.” It’s like be so for real if you can’t stand up to your friends…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I used to get horny when my ex partner was angry.

[TheIrishWolf]

😂 Sounds like a good time.

[leahzrc]

the guy I am seeing teaches MMA it is kind of hot when he is aggressive in the bedroom

[TheIrishWolf]

Rear Naked choke? by the way, that's an actual move.

[leahzrc]

hahah yeah he naked chokes me sure

[TheIrishWolf]

Lol lol

[sage2021]

Having a guy stick up for me and even protect me from harm is a turn on. But that is different that being aggressive and bashing someone's head in. That would definitely turne off!!
I like it when a guy tells me "I got your back" and means it. That's a turn on.
But being aggressive in bed and moving my body around like a Barbie doll is a turn off!
Being an aggressive man with his penis and being rough with it is a turn off.

[Nikki1989]

I really hope not. Aggression is a turn-off unless it is in music.

[TheIrishWolf]

What di ya mean in music?

[CarefreeGirly]

Only if they act aggressive for good reason and not out of proportion to the circumstance.

[TheIrishWolf]

That's reasonable. Ya wouldn't wanna be with some sociopath. 😂

[Anonymous]

In my experience I was out with a friend and this guy was trying to flirt with me, and my friend was like maybe 4 tables away from the bar where I was sitting and he heard the guy trying to talk to me and he ran towards us and got in the face. Lol a part of me was thinking we're about to get into trouble if they fight and then I was also thinking wow am I liking what I'm seeing right now? And to be honest I always roll my eyes when guys starts petty arguments and fights.

[TheIrishWolf]

😂 😂 😂 Seems like you enjoyed yourself!

But, yeah, we're wild Goriilas sometimes. 🦍 😂

[Opinion Owner]

In a way yes but also confused because the guy that was flirting with me was with some girls and my friend made it clear out loud that we were just friends hanging out. So it was understandable that the guy wanted to talk to me afterwards.
And yeah definitely wild Gorillas lol

[TheIrishWolf]

Hoh! hoh! (beats chest) 🦍

[Sour-rose]

O hey, i saw that movie... don't remember the scene buut I don't. You act aggressive, i'm gonna think ya a threat. Sooo i need to treat you like one.

[TheIrishWolf]

Dud you watch the clip first?

[Foxeyes]

It's not something I look for in a partner.
Bad boys have a certain appeal but aggressive is a no no

[itsalyssaagain]

It depends on the woman. Personally I like aggressive men (who have a soft side with me)

[bedroomeyes]

She was more excited by him "defending her honor" than the guy getting beat up.

[EmmaMary]

Well I'm most certainly one who doesn't.

[TheIrishWolf]

How would ya feel?

[EmmaMary]

I wouldn't feel anything at all, simply because I would not associating with them in the first place.

[TheIrishWolf]

The guy that disrespected her was hitting on her, feeling her up, she denied and he kicked him out of the car and embarrassed her. And in the movie, she doesn't know he's a mobster.

[TheIrishWolf]

She doesn't know thatbthe guy that beat up the weirdo was a mobster*

[Genie23]

No, quite the opposite. It makes me want to get away from him.

[Cute_potato01]

No some get scared some r turned on but it causes fear

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Aggressive moans, YES. 🥵

Aggressive personality, IMMA GET OUT OF HERE.. 🏃🏻‍♀️😂

[Jazzy54]

HELL no. 😂 I don’t want a thug. I know that some girls are into that, but not me.

[TheIrishWolf]

What uf it was just fists?

[TheIrishWolf]

YouTube scene clip: Goodfellas Henry Beats Up Neighbour

[Jazzy54]

Now, if he’s defending me or something like that, that’s different. However, if he’s just a violent person, not interested. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[TheIrishWolf]

Agreed.

[xoxooxoxoxo]

This is embarrassing go to therapy. abusive behaviour isn’t attractive

[sheikalana]

Not at all. I hate that.

[TheIrishWolf]

Youtube video: goodfellas Henry beats neighbour

[Anonymous]

If he’s aggressive like a MAD MAN then i know it’s time for me to RUN

[TheIrishWolf]

Away or to the bedroom?

[TheIrishWolf]

😂 😂

[Opinion Owner]

AWAY FAR FAR AWAY

[Anonymous]

i get very turned on… but it’s not the case of everyone ig

[AlexisDiani]

No way. It’s a complete turn off.

[Blackcupcake]

that is a huge turnoff

[SaoirseS]

Not me.

[Babygirl_S]

They turn me off rather quickly.

[sunflower00]

Not me