My girlfriend jokes about me having a girlfriend or spending time with another woman?

[Anonymous]

In my case, she doesn’t like when i ask it back. She asks throughout the day when im working, “wyd? Are you with your girlfriend”. She calls me “mijo” or “dude” or “yo”, but when i call her mija, dude, or yo she doesn’t like it and tells me not to.

I have expressed that I don’t like those things either but she continues to do it anyway. So i ignore. But when i ignore she keeps pressing asking “are you with your girlfriend?” Or “are you busy with your girlfriend” while im in meetings. If i ignore further she continues with “is it true? It must be true if you're not responding”.

Im very annoyed and sick of it but and i dont know what to call it. Jealously? Manipulative? Those dont seem quite right. But she stirs up things until i get upset and then asks “whats your problem?” Or “Why are you upset or annoyed?”

[Finchie40]

It sounds like your girlfriend is manipulating you and clearly has trust and insecurity issues , which isn’t a good thing but it also doesn’t have to be a bad thing either , Most girls’ love to test their men to make sure he is still in love with her , even though she is telling You she is just joking around and teasing you, it’s actually her way of trying to play a victim and control you , for her own insecurities Usually cheaters manipulate their partners into believing that they are sweet and innocent by pointing fingers at their partner’s like they are the bad one , when really they are the piece of shit. I am not saying Your girlfriend is cheating on you , but her insecurities might push her to actually do so , if she is having a hard time trusting you , whatever the reason is she doesn’t trust you , is something that is going to be up to you, if you want to get to the root cause of her behavior. Did she have a bad break up before you? Was she cheated on before? The Best way to find out is to play her game , Most girls’ love a guy that is confident , So Next time she says to you , are you with your girlfriend? , Just say yes , i can’t talk right now and and hang up the phone , make her chase you , if she doesn’t call back right away and becomes all a dry and mad at you then she is more than likely up to no good and doesn’t value you , if she comes chasing you sounding all. Nervous and scared to lose you , then you know she values you , she just needs reassured that you love her , so something is definitely missing I. Your relationship with her to be making her feel this way about you , but make it clear to her you will not tolerate her insecurities anymore , tell her to stop making assumptions that I am up to no good because it makes me feel like you are up to no good and if she wants this relationship to last she is clearly going to have to start trusting and respecting you or you will end up leaving. Relationships are t easy bro and trying
To figure out a girl isn't easy either , Never let a girl take you for granted , Most girls want a man that she can look up to because most girls love to be submissive , When you put her in her place she will be on her knees

[Asker]

I have actually played along a few times. When i do the things she does against her, its a big problem. She gets emotional and tells me she doesn't like it. If i could play along and say yes im busy with my girlfriend or call her names she doesn't like or anything she does that i dont like, its a problem.

[Finchie40]

Then you need to tell her that you don’t like her joking about you being with other girls ‘ so this shit needs to stop if you want this relationship to work

[OlderAndWiser]

She may be so insecure about herself that she is constantly in an "assume and prepare for the worst" mode. How long have you been dating? Is this girl otherwise a good candidate for a long term commitment?

[Asker]

2 years. Im exhausted at this point. I just dont have the time in the day to keep being asked this same question over and over, keep expressing that i dont like it iver and over, and being unable respond or do with the same thing because she doesn't like it being done to her.

At this point, making over 200k/year, owning multiple properties and land, id rather watch dry paint get dryer than to have minutes or hours of my day wasted with pointless conversations.

[OlderAndWiser]

Obvious question is. . . why are you still with her?

[Asker]

I have a bad habit giving people chances past what they deserve.

[Anonymous]

Stop being so insecure. It says you are 30-35 on here, I really hope that is not true.

[Asker]

How am i being insecure about not liking to constantly be asked about being with a girlfriend and being called names i dont like? Lol. Its like me constantly accusing you and asking you about having a boyfriend and calling you names that you dont like and then calling YOU insecure for not allowing me to constantly question and bash you almost daily. Lmao. It literally makes no sense.

by the way it also says you’re 30-35 on here. But what does age have to do with wanting peace and not wanting to battle your significant other while working and building a future?

[PolkSallad]

She's a cuckqean. Go with the flow or dump her.

[misogynistic_pig]

It is a type of shit test, you should not be interested in proving your innocence.

[Asker]

Im not interested in proving my innocence. Especially 3-5 times a week. It’s exhausting. So i ignore it and it turns in the everything else i said in the post. So I’m very close to just ending the relationship. Its like she thrives on chaos.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I'd say either she's manipulating you or she just wants more attention and this is her way of communicating it.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Say, "For the last time, I'm not with my girlfriend! I'm with your sister and your mom is next"

[Avicenna]

Is that her personality- to needle you, or is she genuinely jealous?

[Asker]

It seems to be her personality. However when dating someone, you should be respectful to what they say bothers them. Especially with daily comments

[Iron_Man]

If you’re innocent, she has no right, saying what she is saying, but if you’re up to something then she knows

[Asker]

Absolutely innocent.

[Iron_Man]

Then put her in her place and tell her to shut her pie hole that you’ve had enough of it

[Iron_Man]

I would be upset too if somebody kept pushing me like that when I’m innocent

[Asker]

Oh trust, I've definitely flipped out and told her to cut that crap out. Im not interested in proving my innocence. Especially 3-5 times a week. It’s exhausting. So i ignore it and it turns in the everything else i said in the post. So I’m very close to just ending the relationship. Its like she thrives on chaos.

[Iron_Man]

Wow man sorry to hear that

[Legendarylegacy13]

I think that for her that's a fun flirty way of threatening you. I've had some do me like that before... lol

[Vegasrunner]

Lol, is this your first girlfriend? Women typically have wild double standards and only accept them when they benifit them.

[Jackblue]

It is possible she has a cuckquean fetish.

[itsalyssaagain]

Maybe she’s a bit spicey lol. I’m like this too.