Do women change their views about you if you go away and work on yourself?

[Anonymous]

Hey there, Iv seen a few videos on tiktok about if you go away and work on your self women’s views will change on your self is that true? Can I have some more info on what I could do to make myself more attractive to women E:G working on my self ) do I need to work out? I don’t chase women but I’m Doing all I can to build my own business and let say that there is one certain woman who Iv always wanted who she now think twice about me? As I’m now starting my own life and successfully career driven? Any help is appreciated

[BeMuse]

Who cares? If they reject you without even trying to figure you out, they're not worth your time anyway. It just means they are extremely superficial and make rash decisions. You really want a woman that all the sudden decides to change her mind on you because you become successful in business and now have some money in your pocket for her to try to grift off of you? You might as well be hiring prostitutes... Shoot for women that have some initial physical attraction and conversational chemistry, whom put in effort to learn about your history, talents, since of humor, etc. Don't waste time on girls that see the book for it's cover and burn it, but are willing to give it a skim for a bag of money.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply it’s so difficult to find the answer but I understand all what you’re stating there all the time I just want to know if a woman who rejected me years ago and now my life is in a lot better place would she consider it a change of mind? We have the same type of mindset including interests

[BeMuse]

Some women come and go. The more fickle they are they more likely they will come back. I've had women act like they love me, only to turn around and try to stab me in the back, then stalk me for years and then try to get back together with me. I didn't do anything special to try and regain their attention... Not all women are the same, but there are women that will love you and leave you and return. I'm not much of a fan of roller coaster women personally.

[Asker]

Oh really that’s interesting how did they come back?

[BeMuse]

Like I said they stalked me... They knew were I was going to be at certain times and they made it a habit to show up and watch me, listen to what I was saying, had people watching me and talking to me to get information, and then later try to run into me to rekindle things after hearing what I was up to... I'm not into that kind of crazy so when that sort of thing happens I blow them off like they don't exist and move on with life. Girls like that will do some crazy shit when they get mad... Then they act like nothing bad happened when they are happy. No accountability... I can only imagine how horrible it would be to marry a woman like that. No thank you.

[Asker]

Oh my goodness they stalked you why are was that? Due to your life circumstances being better than before? So if a woman rejected me and years later would she change her mind? Or wait for me to be in a certain place?

[BeMuse]

I don't claim to understand crazy... I don't know why they did what they did and I don't really care to know. I just try to avoid it whenever possible. If I were to guess I say they found me physically attractive, they liked how things were going, but due to their own insecurities they got scared and panicked and then self sabotaged… Maybe they felt out of control and they didn’t know how to handle it. Maybe I’m too intense. So they did me dirty to push me away… Me being me I’m like fuck that shit and moved on, but they didn’t and then secretly they fell back in love with me learning more and more about me over time, assuming I’d just give them another chance after they did me wrong. Not going to happen.

[inhua]

yes but not in a positive way

due to the Halo Effect and Devil Effect, women who had negative opinions/negative views on a particular man/men don't want to change those opinions/views on him but instead amplify those greatly to further justify they were "correct about him to begin with. positive opinions/positive views have the opposite effect

for example if she thought of you as an ugly disgusting broke lonely creep to begin with, you suddenly becoming a handsome rich guy with a hot girlfriend will make her think you manipulated and groomed your hot girlfriend

[IAmAzzurra]

It depends on your history.

A woman can like you after not initially being interested. You don’t have to change for that, she just has to see enough of you to realise something that she likes.

if you‘ve been a dick around her the whole time then she won’t change her mind no matter what.

[Asker]

Iv never behaved like that ever around women there is one woman who iv tried asking her out this was 5+ years ago we have not seen each other since I’m just wondering if she might consider or change her mind?

[IAmAzzurra]

She could do.:::but it would be nothing to do with you having a business, it would be more about how she found you.

[Asker]

Oh I thought it would be if I had my own business? Explain more info how she found me?

[IAmAzzurra]

For whatever reason she said no to you …. if you’ve perhaps grown up in the time since you last saw her, or you’re more/less of a certain way than you were before, if you know what I mean?
Whatever didn’t appeal to her before, you might not even do anymore, or your other traits could cancel it out.

The last guy I dated, I wasn’t attracted to at all at first because I had an idea in my head of the kind of guy he was: He kept proving me wrong and he became the sexiest guy on the planet to me after a while:

Whoever she thought you were, or thinks you are, surprise her.

[Asker]

This sounds on the right track I have definitely gown up since I last saw her she is a bit older than me I must admit that I’m totally in to an older woman do you think she might see me in a different way?

[IAmAzzurra]

She could. Women can change their minds.
Whatever she is expecting from you, if challenge her a little, it’s probably your best shot.

[Asker]

But the thing is that we no longer have contact but she still is in contact with a family member of mine could I use my family member to be a sauce of updates on my life to the woman?

[IAmAzzurra]

If she wasn’t interested earlier, hearing updates about you won’t do much.
She will have had to be inquisitive about you in the first place for that kind of thing to work.

[rideorsleep]

LOL if you're going to do something, do it for yourself, not for women

[Asker]

I’m am doing something not for woman

[TheMadLad]

Ride or sleep I want to know what’s behind your user name!

Do you ride trucks!
An Uber driver!
Are you reckless, dear?

I want to know!

As for sleep, we all sleep but riding!
Some people don’t have licenses

[rideorsleep]

Well, you can start with memory techniques, you already forgot the title you wrote

[rideorsleep]

@TheMadLad It's just a silly nick, means nothing

[TheMadLad]

Okay lol

[Anonymous]

You don't know this yet but you won't want her once you get to where you're going. Only then you'll see what your eyes currently can't.

[Asker]

Well I do I miss her every day and night she was a wonderful woman

[itsalyssaagain]

Yes. Goes for both genders.

[In_Trance]

No they don't

[Asker]

What why not?

[In_Trance]

Because that's not how it works

[Asker]

And you know this for sure?

[In_Trance]

Don't believe me?
Fuck around and find out

[Asker]

Ok I will