I have gotten a lot better at cutting off women who I feel don’t respect me in the past few years.
No reason to get angry. No pleading. No complaining. No false hope. Once I determine she doesn’t respect my time, effort, position etc. I drop the ax and wish them best of luck and mean it. The strongest negotiating position in a sales meeting is the ability to walk away and mean it.
I do often feel sad but I do regain my self respect. However there is a part of me that often secretly hopes she will realize her mistake and come back and truly apologize. When that happens I can set my terms and she knows she has to abide by them because I’m not afraid to leave.
This worked for me a few times when I was younger. But in the past five years I’ve cut off probably 6-7 different women and never heard back from them. I liked all of them for various reasons but I am not going to tolerate their behavior ESPECIALLY if it’s friéndzone bs. I got radar for it.
But this can get depressing. I rather be lonely and have self respect. However considering none of these woman ever tried to reconcile makes me wonder if I’m doing something wrong.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
0Opinion
So glad to hear that! And yes it's more likely than not that you're doing something wrong. Hope that won't make you change your decision though.
Well it doesn’t help that I am not being exactly told what I’m doing wrong in the first place.
Such is the world of being an adult.
And adults could do a better job communicating.
They could, but telling you how to be a likable adult is your parents job and other adults have no obligation to cover for your parents.
And you are making a lot of automatic assumptions.
If you are not interested in a guy then fine. No shame. That’s how it is. A mature man can handle that.
But instead women think it’s okay to play games, be flaky and pull friéndzone bullshit so they can exploit men for when the need calls for it. I’m smart enough not to fall for that bs. Also I don’t do that to other women I don’t feel attracted to. I’m honest from the start.
But then again it’s dog eat dog world, right? If you can get away with something you should just do it because you vs. asking yourself if you should.
That's a lot of assumption from someone accusing others of assumption.
You are assuming there is something fundamentally wrong with men hence these outcomes.
To a certain extent I have to admit there is a grain of truth to what you are saying. My parents were raised in a time era when women actually respected chivalry. They brainwashed me to be a “nice guy” from a young age.
Maybe that would of been effective way to date in a different time era. But they were oblivious about what modern feminism and digital technology (social media, dating apps, etc) would end up to doing to western women in general.
There is more of a prevailing attitude nowadays that “it’s okay to fuck an innocent person over because I got emotional baggage from a unrelated bad experience” when it comes to dating. And given that women often let emotions dictate their decisions this is “their truth” and it’s getting worse.
But anyway I may be nice but I’m not stupid. I really would like to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I have in the past. But I have developed radar for how women behave when they don’t respect me. If I get it confirmed and I have I get rid of them and don’t look back. But the fact they are even attempting to try take advantage of me because I’m nice is very depressing. My gut was always sadly right every time I had doubts in the past.
And more assumptions to justify your previous assumptions. Amazing.
Possibly. You might be messing up continuously.