There's this other girl at my job that doesn't work for the same company but works for the building that my company rents out. So I would notice every time I see her she would be glancing up at me multiple times when she's at a further distance but when she's walking by me close up you'll avoid looking at me when we greet each other which she'll speak but never look at my face or just look down at my body. So the other day I'm going on break and walking around the building and I see her we both lock eyes for about 5 seconds then see looks down and what looks like a smile as she was continuing to walk away. It took me a back as that was deliberate strong eye contact from a further distance but definitely strong eye contact, usually she'll continue to look up at me every few seconds, so I took that as a hint she wanted me to come talk to her. So a few days later I see her outside cleaning and I walk over and strike up a conversation she tells me her name and I also told her how beautiful her eyes are which something that's been on my mind. Then I ask to take her out sometime and she smiles and slowly kinda hesitates and tells me that she's married, almost likes she didn't want to tell me. So I tell her it's all good and take it as a compliment and walk off. I was kinda bummed because I noticed I seem to attract these same women thay show soo much interest but always and I mean always are either married and or in relationships and I don't understand why. This girl clearly was showing strong signs of interest and signs of wanting me to approach only to know she's married, I dunno what these unavailable women all see in me but this is mind numbing makes me want to just give up.
Why do I keep attracting unavailable women?
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Dude there is no telling honestly. I mean I have had completely unmarried and known single woman do the say exact shit to me man. I mean totally giving that vibe off, but as soon as you ask her out, the whole tone of the conversation changes and she looks like deer in the head lights.
No fucking clue my man, but hey, I was married for 22 years, and I checked out woman all the time, and hontestly never meant anything more to me than just admiring an attractive woman.
I’ve liked taken guys before. I just avoid socializing with them or inviting them for barbecues cause I know it’s wrong to add oil to a dying fire. He’s not meant to be mine, so better to avoid all contact with him, even in a professional setting.
Yes but that's not what these women are doing, they are showing strong signs of interest eye contact, being around me etc but are taken I had a similar situation with a coworker who was/is boarder line stalking me and when I asked her out and gave her my number she was in a relationship and had been texting me from fake numbers for months before I even realized it was her. It's painful to be honest and what do you mean dying flame?
I mean you aren’t going to go any distance with the person if you are ethical and live by moral principle, so why do things that would increase your interest in somebody you can’t have.
I am not sure how to comment on this.