Why can I attract a good man in my life?

[Anonymous]

I am in my late 30’s and very independent, hardworker, smart and very attractive with a nice body. I know it’s not always about looks but I carry myself well put together, eat very healthy, stay working out a lot and have a great job. Some might think guys get intimidated by me.
Also many of my my friends describe my personality very bubbly, outgoing and a good vibe all day everyday. Also very positive and a good hearted woman.

So I have noticed that I do get a lot of attention but I think most guy see me as a fun time than someone to take home to introduce the parents. I have been single going on 4 years. I’ve dated a bit but nothing comes out of it but just a few dates and hooking up. Or want to keep me as friends with benefits. I’m I doing something wrong that I’m attracting the ones that aren’t emotional unavailable or just want a friends with benefits.

[Pegases]

You are what you attract, so start with figuring out why you're attracted to men that aren't interested in anything serious. Chances are you are just as emotionally unavailable as the men you end up with. Tough pill to swallow, but if you actually want to grow, embracing self awareness is key.

[Asker]

I appreciate the honesty and yes you are right.

[Anonymous]

Hold yourself and your body to a higher standard. If marriage is your goal, you should hold the men you date to that same standard. If they just want to smash or like you because you’re bubbly, then it’s only a dopamine high that you’re getting. Sure, the gratification is nice but that’s it. He’s not interested in more and never was. And it’s not that your didn’t see that in him, you just chose to ignore it. Change your filters.

[cnj421]

You attract what you put out. Your mindset is everything. So how can you shift your mindset from “it doesn’t happen for me” to “it’s either him or someone even better.” You’re likely attracting these scenarios because of your own limiting beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Are you doing something wrong? Yup. Would it do any good to tell you what that is? Nope.

[Asker]

Please do so. Speak your mind but don’t be disrespectful.

[Opinion Owner]

If I thought I could help you I would. That's all I try to do here, as respectfully as possible. But you don't really want a relationship. Or more accurately, you want it on your terms. This is not uncommon today and which is why so many people fail.
It's alright, there's nothing wrong with being single. It might be the best place for you.