Why some guys expect in the bedroom that they will just lie back, relax and enjoy while the girl does all the work? Do they think they in a flight?

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Why do girls tolerate this behavior? Or they have no choice with these guys?

justlookin69 · Accepted Answer

It’s because, usually and most often, men have been at work all day and are tired. It’s nice to come home and lay back to get sucked off and then get some cowgirl action. More than likely, if the woman starts off this way, it won’t last with her doing “all the work” because men are dominate and once in the mood completely, he’s going to get up, flip you around either missionary or doggy and commence to going balls deep.

To tolerate is strong language also and definitely something a man does not want to hear from a lady if she wants to remain in that relationship. There’s nothing wrong with showing your man a good time if he’s taking care of home. Believe, he’ll end up finish on you in the end with you laid out on your back.

If you have a lazy man 💯, I don’t know what to tell you from that perspective. I’m not lazy.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

"Why do girls tolerate this behavior? Or they have no choice with these guys?"

It's because they are chasing the hot/popular guys, and both the guy and the girl know full well that if she doesn't do what he wants, he has 100 other girls in his phone that will - TODAY. Guys like that have endless options with women, which makes most women desperate to be with them and desperate to keep them (even though no girl can ever keep them), do they do whatever the guy wants. And the minute they don't, the guy will dump her and replace her, because he can.

You would think this would be obvious, but most women REFUSE to listen if you talk about this, and even if they do listen, as soon as they see one of these guys, all rules go right out the window.

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

It's important to have a mutually satisfying and enjoyable experience in the bedroom, so it's not healthy for one person to put in all the effort while the other one just lies back and relaxes. Both partners should be actively engaged and enthusiastic about the experience. If a woman feels like her partner is not putting in enough effort or is being too passive, she can discuss the issue with him and express her needs and expectations. If necessary, they can try exploring different strategies to ensure both partners feel satisfied with the experience. Communication and compromise are key to having a happy and healthy relationship.

chrissykerdock · Accepted Answer

i always tell my men to sit back and enjoy a blowjob... or just relax period... i really don't feel a man should have to feel uncomfortable or be pushed into things they don't want to... i have no problem getting on my knees for a man to pleasure him... i actually enjoy doing that for him.

Ohhi12345 · Answer

Simple: those are the dudes who are hot enough to get laid a lot, so they can afford to not care. A lot of hot dudes treat women as replaceable, because they can. One of my friends gets laid all the time and dies zero foreplay because he just doesn't have to. As a dude who is not at all hot, I'd work my ass off in the bedroom mostly out of gratitude, but also because getting laid again with the same woman would be pretty cool.

Billlewis · Answer

I never think that it's the woman's job to satisfy me -- because when I'm having a sexual relationship with a woman, my only concern is to provide her with as much pleasure as possible, and I much prefer that she doesn't let me have any penetrative sex with her whatsoever.

richardcory · Answer

Some people are just selfish and lazy, and that can apply to sex as well as to other things. I, and I think most reasonable people think a couples sex life should be fair and balanced. Certainly its fun sometimes for one person to do all the work, but overall it should be balanced

AmandaYVR · Answer

Yeah such a turn off, eh? Blegh. Makes you not want to have sex. But there are lots of 'starfish' girls, too. Goes both ways. Usually girls are less active, more passive.

kellytheman · Answer

Yeah I feel the work should be equal or more of the guys job. I feel if the girl is doing all the work he kinda just using her or getting all the pleasure and not trying to pleasure her. I feel most girls feel they should to keep the guy happy and think the guy will stay with them.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Woman do that too. I think every once in a while, if you're in a serious relationship, you should be willing to let the partner just kinda lie there.

If it happens all the time, that's what we call a taker.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Odd, I've often observed a gender flipped version of this. Girls thinking it's okay to be a dead fish while he does all the work.

I'm willing to do a lot of work. Just not *all* of it. I expect some cooperation.

Adam1978 · Answer

That depends on how you initiate sex doesn't it. If you climb on top of him he will expect you to ride him. If he bend you over he won't. So act accordingly to your wishes. Don't be aggressive in sex if you don't want to take charge.

Alli39 · Answer

Some people are just selfish regardless of gender. If your man acts like this and you don't like it (and have expressed this), don't bother with him. Both people should be involved to whatever extent makes them mutually comfortable.

YesterdaysChild · Answer

Because they get away with it is the simple answer. Girls want equality these days but when it's in the bed that notion goes out the door. They give pleasure without reciprocation a lot of the time.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think because they never had sex differently. I´d assume that they don´t know that sex could be done differently and they are not into experimenting in the bedroom. Maybe there are women that like that.

Reem12345reem · Answer

He's either submissive and feminine or just lazy and doesn't care at all and just wants to satisfy himself and take advantage of u

nolabels · Answer

As if that would ever happen. It's more like the other way around for me.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I practically have to beg her to get on top once in a while!! 90% of the fucking I've ever done or seen, she just lays there with her feet in the air while he busts a gut trying to load her up!

Octavia_Simmie · Answer

If he is unable to get his ass up and satisfy your sexual needs, either before or after you satisfy his. He is using you.

No man that has respect for you and loves you is simply going to lay back and let you do all the work. He is not worth your time.

Sex is one of those things where both parties need to be completely satisfied. Or at least satisfied sufficiently.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I don't think that would go over too well at all. You might get away with it once, but never again. If someone does that to you just get him close and then say you lost interest get up and then leave.

Hithere4567 · Answer

I like to go at with my girl, like work on her, especially down there. Use my tongue to get her really wet. I like it when she lies back, spreads her legs, and let's my tongue go to work (if she's into that).

CantMissIt · Answer

Like you said, girls are tolerating that from these fuckboys. If you want to get rid of them, girls, stop having sex with them. They'll go extinct.

RavVid · Answer

If you think about all the girls who have lain back and enjoyed whilst the guy has done all the work perhaps it is appropriate for the girls to do all the work now :) I'm trad though.

Screenwriter · Answer

There's nothing wrong with mixing it up. Some lying back, some activity. But if a guy NEVER does anything, that'd be pretty boring.

hahahmm · Answer

You fat out of shape women need all the exercise you can get... I mean "you" in a generic way of course.

Apple1996 · Answer

Those type of guys are just pillow princesses 👑  I'm fine with that sometimes but I prefer things to be 50/50

ItsChloe · Answer

Those guys really piss me off! Why do they expect us girls to do all the work! You got to give and take!

molonski2 · Answer

I've very rarely experienced as you say , although it has happened at times , more often than not the other way around sadly.

ButthurtGAGpeople1 · Answer

Last time i checked, missionary, was the man doing all the work. Also, what about when we go down on you?

sheikalana · Answer

Never had a man behaving like that with me. Honestly I would shame him if someone did that to me.

AviatorTom · Answer

I like that sometimes, and sometimes my SO likes to do that. Most of the time, we each like to play.

slatyb · Answer

I don't know. Maybe they were raised to believe that they were entitled to that. That ain't me, babe.

MementoMori777 · Answer

so why dont you tell him to fuck you harder? or in your case to fuck you somehow lol

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I assure you there are women who think the same way.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Those guys are just dead weight. Quality men are not like that at all.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why some girls expect in the bedroom that they will just lie back, relax and enjoy while the guy does all the work. Do they think they in a flight?

Manuel2 · Answer

Women like the power of control. Also we let you warm up the engine then later we end your ride.  Plus women feel safer when they do all the work. Goid work out too.

admles · Answer

In my personal experience, about 80% of the time the women are the ones who just lie there and expect me to do all the work. So glad my wife isn't like that.

exitseven · Answer

I never expected that. I always held up my end. Sometimes i would hold up her end too.

Meropatrick · Answer

This is u heard of to me. Its usually the other way around

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of people don’t really know how to have sex. You have to be open and let them know they’re terrible in bed. If you don’t, they’re going to stay a dud.

Anonymous · Answer

You literally have sex on your backs... and you’re complaining about doing “work.” Feminism, everyone. 👏 👏 👏

Thongboner420 · Answer

I'm a into girls and guys. It's not always the fastest or easiest to give girls pleasure. With guts It's easier since I'm a bottom I let them do what necessary to achieve pleasure.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Same reason we have dead fish. Some people just don't know how to fuck.

Christoff92 · Answer

Because they feel that they the king of the castle when women want play time do. That's a turn-off.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because they have gotten away with it before.

Wise4myage · Answer

Guys that do that are lazy pricks, and they wonder why they get dumped.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

That should go both ways and some don't care at all

Anonymous · Answer

From my experience, this isn't true at all. At least for me, missionary is my favorite position.

Anonymous · Answer

Since MeToo it's the only way can't be accused of something if you can evidence doing sweet FA

Anonymous · Answer

This is how normally goes. Ask for anal or doggy, if you want more action

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Usually it's the other way around.

WhitneySnow · Answer

They feel entitled I guess

Sharkstealth · Answer

That's not me. I want to do the work.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. Now serve my nuts stewardess.

In_Trance · Answer

for the same reason some women do

BLP11520 · Answer

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