Shy girls? I want to know how come you get shy talking to a guy that's special to you and that he's in your life?

[Jakoesu]

Hey girls, I want to know how come you get shy talking to a guy that's special to you and that he's in your life? Same thing on top.

I know I should be more specific but is just something I want to know

I am shy too when I talk to someone special in my life and she's very talkative than me because I'm so quiet

[J0sie]

I get “shy” or quiet when talking to a special guy in my life because I get over excited and I am afraid that I might say something stupid he will not like or that I like him when I am not sure if he likes me back.

Also because I like to listen to him. I would rather listen to him than to hear myself talk. It is more meaningful

[Jakoesu]

Do you think, you can see him being in a relationship with you? I've been thinking about this quite some time

[Jakoesu]

And sorry for late responds, I'm getting spammed with post I'm following so I delete the notification all the time

[Jakoesu]

And how do you treat him when he treats you special?

[J0sie]

I could see he and I being in a relationship but it will take some time for him to realize it. I think he has feelings for me but doesn’t realize them yet.
He treats me differently in front of “his boys” than when we are alone. I know there is a time to be serious with him but when we are alone and he treats me special there is a much softer spirit around him. We talk about our feelings and hug (something he won’t do in front of others) and I try to flirt with him or lift his spirits but he doesn’t always believe it because he belittles himself.

[Jakoesu]

I don't member what I was going to say since I typed it all down and is gone somewhere

But thank you for telling me this😊

[Jakoesu]

Would you ever ignore him if you wanted alone time to yourself or would you tell him?

[Jakoesu]

And what kind of feelings do you and him like talk about if you don't me asking?

[J0sie]

No problem!

[J0sie]

I would tell him if I needed alone time. He has some depression issues and I don’t want him to be upset if I need time. Or if I am in a bad mood, I don’t want to bring him down either with my mood. But he is always there for me when I need him so I haven’t had to distance myself from him yet.
When I have been upset and it was something with work, he thought it was something he had done. I didn’t realize that he could sense my mood and he asked me about it later and we worked out the problem together.

[Jakoesu]

Wow, this is shocking. I'm the same too, like I can sense her. And I do feel like I'm the same with the guy too, depression issues

For me, she ignores me and doesn't bother to tell me to talk to me later or that I upsetted her when I argued at her.

Recently I got angry at her because of how she was treating me and I argued at her ignoring me for not being there for emotional support because I was like upset with her and when she didn't get back to me from posting up stuff on social media, my emotions starts to build up.

Thank you soo much!! This is not what I was expecting to see

[Jakoesu]

Like I treat her very special and a princess and I just get treated back somewhat okay

[J0sie]

He has dreams of singing professionally one day so we talk about that. He is having a hard time right now because there are not many open doors for him. He has a wonderful voice and I tell him often and love listening to him but he still gets low when he cannot go out and do it.
We have talked about relationships as well. He was upset when a girl did not show interest in him and I told him that I could not relate because I was interested (haha he didn’t understand. He thought I was joking) he has asked me what to do about a girl that one of his friends has set him up with. I am avoiding that conversation for obvious reasons. He doesn’t seem too interested but he is still going out with this other girl which is irritating. Not something that I enjoy talking with him about but it still happens. I figure that I can be his friend until he realizes he likes me more than a friend

[Jakoesu]

I see what your saying. I hope he sees you more than a friend.

This is how I'm feeling towards her.

And I do see her in my dream. Nothing sexual but like us seeing each other and her beautiful smile that I always admire. I always want to talk to her because there's really nobody else to talk to. I feel like I'm more into talking to girls than guys and is strange but yeah and she's the only one I got that is special to me and a friend to me. She's like everything to me that I love about her. Kind, sweet, adorable. I can't imagine my life without her

[Jakoesu]

And sometimes I talk down about myself to her and she trys to tell me not to think about that and I try not to but when she's not around, is tough. I can't live my life without her

[Jakoesu]

And I see how you try to give him hints that you couldn't relate. I would've told it like seriously I guess, you know like if someone ever wants to start a relationship

[Jakoesu]

Took* not told

[J0sie]

I am glad this helps!
It always helps to talk things out. Maybe when you are talking about your situation with your girl, try not to argue or get angry. I know it is easy to get mad. I get mad but then once I know the whole story of what was going on in his life, I feel bad for getting mad at him. If he couldn’t contact me, it’s usually because he had something going on that he couldn’t talk about at that moment. When my friend was having one of his depressive spots, he stayed off social media for a week, didn’t text or call, and I was really worried about him but he told me about it later. He had stayed offline to try to help his mental health.
Or it may be a maturity problem on her part if she is not willing to talk at all. It is also a problem if you are trying to talk/text to her and she is posting because she is not paying attention to the conversation

[Jakoesu]

That's what I'm trying to do, stay off social media for awhile until she talks again but is been tough.

Yeah, I don't know. She's been posting a lot of stuff lately this week since she hasn't talked to me. I mean I guess to somehow try to cheer her up but is hard to not talk to her because I just feel like she's doing okay but not because of what I did and I do regret getting angry at her

[Jakoesu]

I do think that she feels really bad that she didn't get the chance to call me Friday and that I was upset with her Wednesday from last week.

[Jakoesu]

And the only problem with me is that I'm very unpatient but I can be patient when I want things but when I want to talk to her, is hard to be patient especially if she's busy but clear just has the time for social media

[J0sie]

I think it’s a good thing. She will either realize that you are special to her and talk to you again, or miss you or something along those lines. Even if you break the silence first, she should want to know why.
Don’t worry, it will work out!

Also, I think I am serious with my hints but ultimately I believe that he needs to make the first move and ask me out. I just need to wait.

[J0sie]

Maybe she knows you are looking at her social media and her posts are for you? Sometimes when I know that my friend is down but in social media (sometimes he won’t post his own things but he will put hearts on others peoples stuff) I will post a little more frequently so he can see.
Partly because I want to know he’s okay and partly because I want the attention from him.

[Jakoesu]

Yeah I'm sure she knows I look at it and so I try to message her. I know I should stop but is not easy

[Jakoesu]

I know it'll work out when the time comes but I do sometimes feel like she doesn't care about me anymore because she's not talking to me but I just have to give it time

[J0sie]

So you messaged her and she didn’t message you back? Is she mad at you for something?
This seems like you need to have a conversation face to face where she cannot ignore you.

[Jakoesu]

Lol he should've knew the hint in the first place but I do see what you mean

[Jakoesu]

Yeah, is been since last since and I sent her at least 15 messages after the argument

[Jakoesu]

Last Sunday*

[Jakoesu]

Well, including the argument when she didn't say anything that day

[Jakoesu]

She could be mad at me or upset because she wasn't there when I needed her emotionally. I'm not really sure

[J0sie]

That is odd that she hasn’t replied at all.
I am not sure what to say to that if she won’t respond to your texts or notice that you are ignoring her.

[Jakoesu]

Yeah, I'm sure I've hurted her really bad and I do regret that and thats why she's not talking

[Jakoesu]

Like I know people hide a lot of pain and try to keep themselves happy

[Jakoesu]

Yeah, I do feel like, she cares about me because she seen my picture that I recently updated and she put a care emoji on it but still hasn't talked. I did message her today to remind her that she can call me when she's ready to open up

[J0sie]

If she is still communicating with you using emojis then she still cares. You will just have to wait on her.
I used to talk to a guy that every once in a while he would really make me mad but he was not willing to talk about, he just wanted to play the blame game. So I would block him until I could handle his outbursts

[Jakoesu]

Thank you! Thank you for helping me with my problems and that we have special people in our lifes. I never thought anyone like you can help me with a ton of information that I need.

I just hope we can try to work something out to never have this problem again because everytime when I message her and she doesn't reply a day or 2. It just makes me think that something happened and I get really worried about her.

[Jakoesu]

Oh, I have a question, if you ever got treated like a princess, how does that make you feel?

Because from her, she said that i do treat her like a princess and that she loves it and it makes her so special

[J0sie]

You are welcome. I am glad I could help!

I don’t understand what you mean by princess though. I have never been treated like that. The one guy I was talking to didn’t treat me well ( the one I had blocked) he hasn’t talked to me in about a year and I think it is for the best.
The guy that I am talking to now treats me wonderful (even though we are in the friend stage still) but I appreciate him and love having him in my life!

[Jakoesu]

Never mind. I guess it's me and her kinda thing, I don't know. Me and her are sync together. Like if I think of something, she does what I was thinking, out of nowhere

[Jakoesu]

How long do you think she would need space for since i got angry and argue with her?

I mean I'm not angry anymore since I expressed it all out

[J0sie]

I’m not sure how long it will take. All women have a different need of space and time alone. Especially if this is something she needs to do frequently, it might take longer each time or depending on how severe your argument was.

[Jakoesu]

It was a really long paragraph sentence. I'm trying to keep myself busy and not try rush into things but is tough when it comes to loving her so much

[J0sie]

Maybe you need to learn to live life without her to understand how to live and love her truly

[Jakoesu]

That's what it seems like this whole week. Like is something she's trying to teach myself how to figure out my triggers and control myself, live my life. Because I do think I feel a bit more better when I'm doing my own thing and not putting too much focus on her

[Hinaaaaa]

I'm Talkative but I can't talk with a guy even I like him... it's good that she is talking 😄 that'll make situation less awkward

[Jakoesu]

Oh I know. I'm glad that she tries not to make things awkward because I get awkward too lol

[Hinaaaaa]

Lol great

[Jakoesu]

Do you have a guy that's special to you?

[Jakoesu]

I was wondering how does he make you feel and how do you treat him?

[Hinaaaaa]

No I don't have

[Jakoesu]

Is okay but at least you help me understand. It helps to know😊