Confident guys, what makes you so shy around a girl you like?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is extremely confident around everyone; he 's a complete extrovert. But when we were still "crushing" over each other he would be the shyest thing around me. Avoiding eye contact, voice breaking, fidgeting, etc. It's like he turned the complete opposite around me.

I've seen other confident guys completely break around girls they really like.

Just to clarify, I don't mean girls you just want to have sex with and have no feelings for; I mean girls you genuinly like and want to date.

[Anonymous]

Here is the issue:

I dont give 2 sh-ts what normal girls think of me. They can hate me for all I care, I really dont need to be friends with them, so I act however I want around them, and I am confident around them because I really dont care whether or not they like me. With beautiful girls that I like, however, I care what they think of me. I want to be friends with them, and I want them to like me so I am not as confident. I dont want to say something to mess it up, and I dont want her to lose interest by the way I act, so I act differently, and with less confidence. If she gives me bad signals then I lose more confidence because she doesn't like me for some reason and so that makes me feel bad that I am not good enough for her. Its quite annoying, and I hate dating in general, I wish I was just set up with a girl by my parents. Arranged marriages would solve all my problems, but apparently I gotta do it myself now, and its freaking hard to do when your confidence is shot from women that dont like you.

[farscryer0]

You know, my father once told me that one day, I'll meet a woman that will damn near cut through all my confidence and "hit" me right in the core, that she'll make me tongue-tied and stupid despite all my prior experiences with women.

Maybe I might find the woman of my dreams in that person. Or maybe I might find a legit friend that can see through all my bullshit. Maybe even both, who knows.

But I always keep an eye out for those types of women, because *they* are the most interesting of all.

[AleDeEurope]

Cause even the most confident guys are afraid of screwing up the chances of being with a girl they have feelings for. When you're confident you don't really care too much about what others say, but you do care about what SHE thinks, that's why you feel like walking on eggshells cause you don't wanna say or do something that will push her away.

[reptocarl]

We don't want to do or say something that might turn them off

[matheus_mb]

Fear of rejection, fear or scaring the girl, insecuries we all have in general.

[Johnnyjay]

I don't know for me its just that I really care about what they think and that makes somone nervous.

[RichardTheFrog]

Her beauty intimidates me...

Sometimes, I can't even look her in the eye...

[Anonymous]

Females are the same way. It's just how it is I guess.

[thatphucker]

Considering I am confident, nothing.