Is being nice flirting?

[Anonymous]

Is being nice flirting? I've gone out a couple of times with my partner. And I'll be talking to his mates or random dudes and he will come over to me and say I'm flirting or that I want to kiss them just because we will be laughing or having a good conversation. Recently his best mate did put his hand on my lap I was bat shit drunk and didn't realize. Went out for a smoke and he told me that he thinks I'm going to hook up with his mate I apologize and didn't mean to give anybody any signals and we left straight away. Am I in the wrong when his mate put his hand on me? I wasn't saying anything I believe to be leading him on? I do remember being nice to him but nothing I can think of to make him think that was appropriate.

[RoseySarah]

No his friends are loser and assholes! Who have no life and are trying to get laid and cause drama!

My exes friends did this and said there were testing me! Like wtf then my ex defended them when they almost rapped me drunk!

Hope your man has better friends cause he is trash of those are his only ones! Then he is mad at you for being nice! I'd be so pissed I'd never hang with those trash mates bra

[Asker]

Wow that's fucked ! I'm sorry that happened to you. I don't think it was bad intentioned I honestly think we were all just a bit drunk and I honestly didn't even realize he had put his hand on my lap. It's a but fucked tho his wife was there and my partner I honestly just feel stupid and gross.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Nobody should be putting their hands on your lap unless they're your boyfriend.

[Asker]

Is it my fault his friend put his hand on my lap? When I'm pretty sure I hadn't given him any signals that I was into him or anything. But I was pretty drunk and didn't realize his hand had move to my lap

[CarlosX360]

No, he's showing INTEREST. If you're OKAY with it, continue. If you're NOT, just say, "I'm sorry I'm not interested." He will get the hint. If he keeps advancing, make a scene. MAKE. A. SCENE.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

@asker no it's not your fault. Just don't get so drunk though that maybe you won't be able to stop what's happening. Nobody should be putting hands on your body unless it's ok with you

[BigDog1989]

Would you rather him be mean?

[Asker]

My partner?

[BigDog1989]

Yeah

[Asker]

Like what kind of mean cause my partner is freaked out I'm gonna cheat on him

[BigDog1989]

Then he's likely the one cheating himself

If someone is always accusing the other of doing something, they're the ones that are likely doing it

[BigDog1989]

And mean as in, being a douchebag

[Asker]

In the past years ago when we 1st started dating he's done that to me flirted with a girl right in front of me. But I've gotten over that it's been 5 years and now I couldn't really care less if he was chatting to a girl and having a laugh because I know he will always come home to me is that a bad thing think?

[BigDog1989]

Never say never

[peterrezeeek]

yes he was romantic

[Asker]

Sorry I dont quite understand

[CarlosX360]

Woman, men are visual creatures. We want to get close, and feel things. If YOU... don't like it, just say... No. Something like that. "I'm sorry I'm not interested" would suffice, he will get the hint. If he doesn't, MAKE. A. SCENE.