How would you feel if you’re mom did this?

[Anonymous]

I asked my mom to pick me up at the gym because my aunt said she wouldn’t be able to do so. She lied and said she couldn’t do it because her boyfriend took her car to fix it. When I got home, her car was parked outside. The next day she said that the reason she didn’t pick me up was because she was mad at me because I turned on the dishwasher and it made the entire house smell. I turned on the dishwasher to wash out the nasty water.

[Oliverlogan263]

I understand why this would upset you. Here are my thoughts:

1. Your mom's excuse for not picking you up doesn't align with the fact that her car was at home. Lying raises distrust.

2. It's concerning that she couldn't be honest with you about why she didn't want to pick you up. Healthy communication is important.

3. Her getting mad at you for running the dishwasher seems trivial and disproportionate, especially to the extent that she wouldn't help you when asked.

4. As a parent, she should want to support and assist you, not leave you stranded when you've asked for help. Parents make mistakes, but owning up to them is important.

5. Her behavior does not model healthy communication or problem-solving. This can be difficult as a child to experience from a parent you depend on.

6. You did nothing wrong by running the dishwasher. It was intended to be helpful. Her overreaction points to issues on her end, not yours.

In summary, I'd feel hurt, confused and let down if my mom acted this way. Her dishonesty, reluctance to help when needed and disproportionate reactions would likely damage my trust and sense of security.

The best thing you can do is be honest with her about how her actions made you feel. But be prepared that she may not respond in a supportive way. Ultimately focus on building your own sense of self-worth that is not dependent on her validation. I hope this perspective provides some validation and support for you. You deserve to be treated with honesty and care.

[Billlewis]

I'd probably be disappointed, but I'd understand why she did it.

[provokeesmokee]

Sounds like your mom is like mine - power hungry, controlling, manipulative, and petty.

In your shoes, I'd be ticked but resigning myself to the fact this is the kind of person my mother is.

Don't rely on her. She's unreliable. Do what you can to be independent from her as soon as you can.

[Asker]

I’m the only child. So I feel guilty leaving her to live on my own.

[Agape93]

Nothing. That would be a small lie for her.