How would you feel if your mom said this to you?

[Anonymous]

I am engaged to my fiancé who I love the whole world and we have spent just under two wonderful years together.

I was telling my mom how my fiancé had mentioned children even though we both decided we didn’t want them from the start. He was just saying how nice it would be to see what me and him together would look like.

My mom’s first reaction was that I would be left alone with the baby if he left me for someone else. I feel really sick and disgusted at her saying this. When I said I don’t think that would happen she just said “ohhh it could well do”.

Ok I get that but it could happen to anyone and I felt like telling her to fuck off. Stop making me insecure. I think looking back at my childhood and things she never let me feel good enough. I’m in a really good and well paid job and I’ve still saving for a house but becauS I’ve downsized my rental she keeps telling me I’ve gone “backwards” and she can’t believe I’m in this position.

The thing is…I’m actually pretty happy. Just her comments bring me down

[Bolty44]

No matter what your mom says you should be careful about this first of all people who have been together for more then 10 years can get separated quickly so take it easy on having kids get married and wait for a couple of year then you'll really know if you should take this next really big step...
I'm not your mom and I'm young but I've been through a hell of a parental issue and i don't want it for your kid I'd really not do this if i were you other then kids your all free to do anything this world has to offer with him. Hope it all works out congratulations 💐

[Asker]

I don’t want kids at all that’s the thing! She’s so worried about something I don’t even want anyway.

[Bolty44]

Haha i feel like i was in a horror movie now I'm back in cartoon network things are not intense lel... she is a mother after all they just worry for the betterment of us, they can't see us ruin our life while they are still alive we are all they've got, and we will always be messy and unreliable kids in their eyes so just nod your head yes say okay and do your thing

[Guy13]

I am not trying to defend, however, you are mad because you Mon with 70 years disagrees with you. There are Bible verse as related to Wisdom and the Fool. Your Mom loves you and a good 50% of the world do not have such a Family partner in life. Get some perspective... Best with the boy...

[Asker]

There’s ways of saying things though and she immediately jumps on the negative. I am no fool. I’ve been through an awful lot to get where I am today. And I take her advice most of the time. It’s just her lack of sensitivity

[Guy13]

YOu do not understand the word Fool Bionically. Check it out as you are not open to hearing it from another. Everyone, including Mom, is attacking you...

[devilish-cutie]

she is projecting her insecurities to you

no parent is perfect

her parents were probably like that to her, thats why she is that way too, try to have understanding

tell her "do you think my fiancee would do that to me? is there real reason to worry?" etc

[Anonymous]

My advice is to don’t have the baby until AFTER the marriage. 5is should add a few layers of security. Your mom may be an ass hole but don’t ignore her experience. I’m sure if you were twice your age you’d know a lot more. Make sure you have your own place and not living with mom. Mom will need to be there to help take care of the baby when you are tired and it becomes too much. Don’t take it do hard on your mom.

[Asker]

I don’t want a baby that’s the thing!!

[Opinion Owner]

Ok so what’s the problem? You won’t be having a baby anyway so you shouldn’t take offense to what your mom says.

[20yearsolder]

And that's what you should have told her, fuck off. You make me feel insecure about my relationship. It's a good thing someone didn't say that to you before you got pregnant with me.

[exitseven]

Parents can say the wrong thing. Try to forget about it.

[Twalli]

Maybe tell her that the kid thing ih s hypothetical at this point and you're not interested in getting pregnant until after your marriage, if at all

[EnglishEuropean]

Isn't it great having toxic parents?

[Ironic_Method]

She sounds toxic.