How can you tell if a girl is just shy or uninterested?

[Anonymous]

I like a shy, introverted girl currently. I think she's interested but sometimes can be hard to tell. I wonder if it's just her being shy or uninterested. What are some signs?

[marrk]

Try having conversations with her in different settings and see if her demeanor changes. The different settings could be a large crowd (like at a party), a secluded-ish setting (like outside of a party), and through text/DM. If she is more open in any of those scenarios, she may like you. If she is closed off in all three, she doesn’t like you like that.

Try to crack a couple jokes and eventually throw in a thoughtful question where one would have to respond thoughtfully. If she doesn’t, she doesn’t feel the need to put in effort into the relationship and therefore isn’t interested.

[noemiii]

Well, I’m that girl and I can tell you it can be 100% taken as disinterest unless you strike up a conversation with her. You can always tell if an introvert girl likes you but only if you speak to her first, sometimes you may catch them looking at you but I wouldn’t bet on that.

For reference, I’m super introverted, not shy but anti social in general. I like this guy at the gym but I don’t look at him, don’t ever make eye contact and completely avoid any area he’s in, but sometimes stare at him when he isn’t looking, if he were to strike up a conversation my whole demeanor would change because I do like him, but in the meantime I come off cold and standoff-fish.

[RingOfFire]

Friend you are in for a lifetime of pain. I've always been attracted to the shy, introverted ones too. I always found them the most interesting and deep. But if you like that you have to take a lot of chances because you can never tell if they are interested in you or not. You don't want to feel like you are being pushy with them but on the other hand if you aren't persistent, you will never find out if they are really interested in you or just being their shy selves. It is the toughest kind of personality for a man to approach.

[Anonymous]

Does it really matter? Do you really want to spend all your time pulling teeth. Just move on to a girl who isn't shy. After she gets rejected/ignored enough she learn to lose the shyness and start dating. Or she won' and she just won't date. Don't bail women out. You're not doing her ant favors.

[chrissykerdock]

if she even looks your way it's a sign... but instead of wondering talk to her... a girl will let you know through conversation... i promise you that much... the conversation could be boring as hell but you have to talk to her... even if you just say hello... and take it from there.

[meowtoot]

Just ask her. Once a guy told me he couldn’t tell if I was interested because I was shy and then realized I was a shy person / t was just part of my personality. It helped us communicate a lot better. it might help both y’all or you’ll just get clarity

[Anonymous]

In person... ok so I'm shy... and I saw a cute cop cos I had to report something. I had a hard time making eye contact with him. I was the first one to break eye contact with him. He made long eye contact like "damn boy look away I'm blushing" 😭 I don't know I can't tell what face expression I had on my face. I don't know if I looked worried but his face looked worried or concerned I don't know.

[Momma-404]

Ask!! It’s pretty easy to tell if a girl is shy/introverted & you won’t have clarity until you decide to just be straightforward

[slatyb]

So invite her to lunch or coffee or whatever.

[Anonymous]

I am a shy girl. One thing you can tell is that if she keeps looking at you or if she has tried to smile, then yes, she’s interested. But don’t expect her to approach you first. You will have to initiate the conversation with her. Make a move

[strateguy632]

if you tell her a story and she silently listening is introvert

[genericname85]

by asking her if she's interested. if she says she's not, that's a pretty damn good sign that she is actually not interested.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know. I think you’d have to ask her.

[Anonymous]

she's most likely not interested and wants to be left alone.

[juliammm]

you ask her