How to stop being perfectionist?

[overthinkergirl]

i think it affects me very negatively and im habing low self-esteem because of that and also some anxiety. if i don’t get an A+ i just want to humiliate myself and kind of like punish myself. how to stop that?

[John_Cobretti]

I would say go easy on yourself!
I appreciate the obsession to be perfect but just give it all you got and leave the result to god

[overthinkergirl]

Thank you!:)

[John_Cobretti]

Welcome 😌

[Archferret]

Strive for A+! 😊

Just embrace the B+ life! 😊

[overthinkergirl]

thank youu!!☺️☺️🥰

[Avcfhcic]

It's a habit you need to break out of sooner rather than later.
It's good to set yourself high standards for your work, but you need to go easy on yourself. Reward yourself for the work you put in, even if the outcome isn't perfect you tried.

I too set ridiculously high standards and struggle to go easy on myself, and it does nothing good for me. It effects my mental health and self esteem. I don't want you to be like me. Break the habit and look after yourself!

[overthinkergirl]

thank you a lot! :) hopefully things go better on your side too:)

[Avcfhcic]

Thank you! You will do well in life, just remember you need a break too. You've done great so far, congratulate yourself for that 🙂

[overthinkergirl]

and you too! you’ve done a lot of things and achieved many goals so keep pushing through life☺️and don’t underestimate yourself

[Anonymous]

Baby steps it's very hard but my sister showed over came her self hate after not doing something perfect.

It came after her first year of college her first F and she tried so hard for a better grade but she has no talent in art.

She took a 6 month break and worked on herself and came back for a C in art she slowly has gotten better about it.

Just baby steps and letting it go slowly

[TheSpaceGnome]

Don't stop, redirect. I'm a perfectionist but I'm not self punishing or self critical, just ever improving on my goals.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Just remember that perfection is subjective, so if you stop calling it perfectionism and start calling it determination, you'll appreciate it rather than question it's value.

[overthinkergirl]

thank you!!:)

[TheSpaceGnome]

You're welcome.