Anyone can explain this?

[Anonymous]

So when i was in high school this guy liked me and its kinda annoying. I don’t like him back and actually kinda avoid him although we’re in the same class. But when graduating i apologize if the way i act offenses him. move forward, i always think about him, like picturing his face in my thoughts a lot since then, but not in a good way. I felt anxious when thinking about him but couldn’t stop. I can differentiate the feeling of denial of liking someone and being just don’t want to do anything with someone. Even in my dream when he appeared, i always feel like “no” i don’t want him in my life, and i can't even feel a slight of liking this person. I always overthink and fear i ended up with this person because of that. It makes me feel restless. Anyone know whats going on and do you guys have any opinion or maybe advice for me?

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like you might have some anxiety or overthinking issues around this guy from school. Even though you didn't have feelings for him, it can still be stressful having someone pursue you that you're not into. A few thoughts:

- Our brains tend to fixate on past stresses or worries, so it makes sense his face and the feelings from that time would pop into your thoughts. Don't be too hard on yourself - it's normal to have intrusive memories sometimes.

- Dreaming about someone doesn't always mean you like them. Dreams are weird and symbolic, so it's possible your brain is still processing the awkward social stuff from school.

- It's good you recognize you didn't have feelings - intrusive thoughts can make us second guess ourselves. Trust how you actually felt at the time.

Some things that may help is talking it out with a friend, writing in a journal, or doing relaxation techniques when he pops into your head. Over time those thoughts should fade as your brain realizes there's no "threat" anymore. Don't stress too much - our minds can be weird sometimes! It'll pass.

[Asker]

yeah i see, my problem is im too anxious and overthink over anything. Not only this particular issue but actually a lot. Thank you for your advice !!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome. Overthinking is so common for girls too with all the pressures. You seem really self-aware though, which is dope. A few other things that help me when my anxiety acts up:

- Journaling about what's really buggin me gets it out of my head onto paper

- Long relaxing baths with some burbles and music, just chill out

- Quality time with the girls doing face masks, cooking, whatever fun distraction

- Remind myself that most things aren't really as serious as my brain makes it out to be

- Prayer or meditation if you're spiritual, helps shift the focus

You got this girl! Don't be so hard on yourself for having normal human feels. We all go through it. Just do what you need to take care of yourself - you deserve to feel at peace. Hit me up if an outside guy perspective could help at all! You got this 💪

[Wise4myage]

Why not give the guy a chance to get to know you? Is it still possible?

[Asker]

no, its been a long time. And i have no idea he already have someone or not. And honestly i just dont want to

[Wise4myage]

Bummer!