Why are girls so stuck up to guys at the bar?

[Anonymous]

I’m just tired of meeting girls that play hard to get. Like I’m actually not a bad looking guy, I’ve even had a girl ask me out recently. But I wasn’t into her physically. But I just meet girls that make eye contact with me a lot, but when I approach them, they act uninterested in the first sentence. Maybe it’s because they’re drunk? Or Maybe I just live near a bunch of women interested in women because I’ve had girls give me angry looks when I would approach them as they’re dancing and grinding on each other. Plus, I’ve heard of bunch of women coming out as lesbian where I live. So I wouldn’t be surprised. I even lowered my standards at some points, and those girls are even meaner than the actual pretty ones. Like they act like every guy wants them when I just didn’t really care if they like me or not, since it’s for fun.

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I’m going out tonight with my friends for one of my buddy’s birthday, and I really don’t want to approach anymore women there. It’s horrible odds because approach the same pretty girl. Like I have ptsd

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Because all the guys approach the same pretty girl*

[D_Bone_Steak]

Put yourself in their shoes... pretend for a second you are just a chick grinding on your hawt chick friend's leg... and this dude just comes up bugging you because he is desperate to get laid. You can sense he is the type of arrogant fucker that will say he's dropping standards by hitting on you.

Don't you think they feel the same way I feel when some fucking bum starts asking me for spare change? Fuck that bum! I want nothing to do with him. I mean after I say I don't have any money, he's asking for a spare cigarette... I don't even smoke cigarettes. WTF, I just want him to leave me alone. 😂 Reminds me of the time I had to walk past 6 car lots in a row... I was just going to a meeting. Those car salesmen will nag the shit out of you just for walking by... I wanted to punch them in the face, I'm just trying to go somewhere else! I don't even want a fucking car! <--and that my friend, is how those chicks probably feel. You're fucking hot approaching them for God's sake... that just looks sleezy to begin with. Ya feel me brotha. The only chicks you'll pick up like that are in the shitter of life and would talk to anyone... even a homeless guy or a used car salesman.

Here is a different scenario... you and me are chillin... sipping drinks... and a 10/10 chick walks up and starts trying to talk to you like she's all interested... what are your thoughts about her? Yes, she is hawt. But aren't you thinking she's just a working girl if you know what I mean? If not that... I'm thinking, what does this bitch want? See what I mean? Clubs are for hookers or the girl you came there with. I'm fucking old and ugly but I think I'd have more success by just walking up to the girls and asking "How much $$$ to smash?"

Try meeting girls organically. Clubs are not the place for that. I remember my bro brought one chick back and she had a fucking wig on. I made a youtube video of me wearing it and rocking out on guitar... then we sent it to her. She was still passed out on his bed.

[coolbreeze]

Girls have more options then guys and can be more pickier etc. Girls in the bars can give a lot of mix signals and are hard to read if they are interested or not. Even sometimes getting a number means nothing because a girl might not remember giving it to you or they might ghost and won't text back.

[MissStrawberry912]

Most of the time, we girls just wanna have fun with our girls lol. Unfortunately some girls can be defensive because too many guys approach them creepy and too strong.. it’s also very common these does happen at clubs/bars… a lot of guys be doing the most unexpected things that’s uncomfortable and inappropriate. It’s more of protection… but I know it can come off too strong at times.

[ProbablyClueless]

The really sad thing about the reaction is that it doesn't even deter the guys you want it to deter. The kind of guys you want to repel aren't going to listen to you saying "no" anyhow. It's a sad situation

[MissStrawberry912]

Yeah you’re right… it is unfortunate I’m
sorry. Even for me, it’s like I’m so used to meeting weird or bad guys who even pretend to be really great guys, we just get scare and protective. But I also learned to try to be open in case it is a really nice person I can connect with that I’ve been hoping to meet. Sometimes girls also might just have too many shots too lol. But I don’t wanna discourage you. Definitely still go for it in a friendly approach. If they’re not receptive, you can let that one go and try a different one who seems more open at the bar/club.

[Asker]

I’m not trying anymore. I just gave up. I’m still trying to find love. But I don’t think I’ll find it at a bar anyways. Besides, if it’s meant to be. I’ll try my best

[MissStrawberry912]

Aw I’m sorry you feel that way.. :( I believe love can happen anywhere but it is a low percentage at a bar. Maybe if a girl seem friendly and open, it won’t be a bad idea to approach her if the opportunity awaits. It’s easy to feel doubtful, but I’m sure you’ll find someone :)

[Smashingdoozy]

Maybe because a lot of women don't want to be approached when they're drunk having fun with friends. Approaching drunk women is the worst idea and a huge red flag on your part.

[Asker]

So don’t approach girls at the bar? Because you can’t really tell if someone is drunk or not. It’s not like I’m gonna force them to do anything. And I’m not gonna sleep with them if they’re drunk. I just want like a phone number lol.

[Smashingdoozy]

You can approach all you like but you can't be mad at people for not being interested.

[Asker]

I’m not mad. I just told I don’t want to approach anymore girls at the bar. Like it’s not that serious. It’s just a question

[Anonymous]

First of all stop going to bars to meet women. Not a good place to meet women. Most women who are in bars are usually not the best to pick from. Second if you’re treating them like Goddesses, simping, whatever you want to call it they’re head gets inflated, they know men are a dime a dozen and could most likely get a man to lick her stilettos. You need to do what ever it takes to build you up to draw the women to you. To a status that they know that they can easily be replaced because you’re what other women want as well. Would you honestly say you’re the best you can be right now, physically speaking as well as financially?

[Anonymous]

I noticed that women are there to have fun with their friends and not their to meet guys so it’s a waste of time trying to get a date with one there, you’re basically interrupting their fun time with their friends. Try going other places that are meant for that like speed dating nights at certain places or a singles cruise if you have the time and money

[Asker]

I mean, I’m there to have fun with my friends as well. I only go because they want me to go. And I have had girls interested, but it didn’t workout because of reasons. It’s just the 95% of them are like what I’m saying

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah they don’t want to be bothered when with their friends so they have an attitude it seems

[BourbonAndBacon]

It's a defense mechanism. They are used to rejecting quick at a bar for safety reasons. Don't go for the number. Just say something nice and walk away. If you're not a creep they will come back and strike up a conversation with you.

[Anonymous]

Never experienced that personally
Most just take the drink and move on, maybe befriending the bartender helps because I had that as I'd worked in the bar before

[ThrillSeeker01]

Some girls just get feisty when they have a few drinks in them 🙂

[KrakenAttackin]

Your first mistake is talking to girls at a bar.