Girls, why do females have more interest in guys who don't pursue or not about pursuing women and focuses on himself only?

[Anonymous]

[Amara_09]

I am this way. I am interested in guys who don’t pursue because I like the thrill it gives me. Especially when they play hard to get, like my man is over here playing with me but at the same time talking about how he can’t wait to see me in person.


Guys who pursue me directly usually are interested in hookups which is what I attract most of the time but I had guys whom I went on dates with, some I am still friends with but some I had to quit because of their expectations. And I don’t do relationships

[Asker]

why dont you do relationships though? dont you want something meaningful?

[Amara_09]

I like it better with no strings attached , less drama and less tension

[Asker]

So you dont think there are mature guys out there who have a caring heart. I mean if you're only attracted to guys who aren't available or play games its not exactly mature behaviour. Drama and tension from guys is because they haven't become men. But in todays culture - toxic behaviour is celebrated while authenticity is disregarded. That's why guys/girls, men/women hate each other more often nowadays.

[Amara_09]

Lol even with nature guys there is drama and tension.

Why is it wrong to be attracted to guys who aren’t available or play games? Yes I know it is nature behavior but that’s what I like.

Lol, “they haven’t become men”….. how would you know? I have had casual discussions with men who have jobs and are in their 30’s who are more problematic than the young ones my age

I have had men tell me what to do because they are men and those who aren’t emotionally available like me have been nothing but direct to the point which I so much enjoyed.

Of course there are mature guys that have caring hearts, I don’t want one because I can’t give them what they want. I can’t be loyal or be good from the bottom of my heart because I have no heart to give

[Asker]

how would I know? Maybe because im a guy, I've experienced it, I've heard, i watched videos from both female and male scholars on relationships. Im old school, I believe in chivalry, im not a feminist but I do believe in giving women respect but at the same time a guy has to have spine and some balls to tell a girl no and leave her ass. There are women out there who want guys to pay her to gravel at her feel like pathetic puppy dog simp and I can't believe guys have stooped to that level. You gotta fix your heart then, get closer to God. It's December 17th, 2023. The year 2023 is wrapping up, tell yourself in 2024, to have a better heart. I dont tell people have a better heart to get it stepped on.

[BrightBubblyKat]

Some of the pursuing guys come across as needy

[Anonymous]

I have never met any females that think that.

[Asker]

in todays era-- if a guy shows interest, girls get turned off