Should I reach out to my crush first?

[Anonymous]

I’m scared he will get the wrong idea in terms of I’m clingy because:

a) his friend is a jerk who has clearly said something mean about me

b) he didn’t reach out first

[HawkPerception]

There's nothing you lose if you reach out and tell him you're interested in him first.

If you say something along the lines of, "Hey I just wanted to let you know, I'm interested in you and would love to have a chance to get to know you more. Would you be up to grab a coffee with me sometime?"

Either he says:

1. "No sorry I'm not interested." Cool that means you'll find someone else who wants to get to know you.

2. "That sounds great! I'd love to grab a coffee with you." You got yourself a date!

3. "Wtf? Fuck off." In this case you dodged a bullet because the dude is a piece of shit.

In no scenario do you lose. Just make your move.

[Asker]

I’d die if he said no I’m not interested not literally but lol

[Summeroflove]

Reach out. If you don’t show interest. He may move on.


It’s not being clingy to show interest. As long as you have common sense boundaries. I think you should go for it. While you have a chance

[cherriibly]

i think taking the initiative to reach out can be a positive step,
showing your interest. If you're concerned about appearing clingy, keep your message casual and friendly. Addressing the situation calmly, like mentioning you noticed he hadn't reached out, can help clear any potential misunderstandings i guess

[AutumnSerenity]

Sounds like his friend doesn’t want to lose his friendship because of a girl getting in the way so be prepared for that. Other than that, have at it. I’m betting he’ll say yes but don’t set your expectations too high.

[Asker]

Nah I dont even think he realizes how much I hate his friend

[metroboomin6454]

Reaching out first doesn’t make you clingy, it just means you’re reaching out. So yes you should reach out

[boggboss]

Well if u don't how do u know he will

[Asker]

Can I message you? Would like to explain a situation and you are way more sensible than me

[boggboss]

Sure

[Asker]

Okay I just messaged you. Thanks