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i've seen this girl all the time at a restaurant downtown in our home area and never once have i seen her in revealing tops that would show clevage or her belly button. yet when she is not in our area she appears to dress much differently.
i've seen pictures of her online from nights out in other cities and suddenly she is in tight revealing tops that show off her body and belly area. but she doesn't dress like that here , it like doesn't even seem like the same person but its definitely her
i even recall one specific night last summer she was at that bar downtown her and it was having a neon night , she refused to change tops even though it was the summer and a theme night so didn't have on a top for neon night
but i just saw a picture of her at a bar in another city and she is wearing this tiny black top that shows clevage and her belly area is totally visible for anyone to see but during the summer here she won't even wear a neon top for neon night at a bar? seems really crazy and makes no sense
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It's the environment that she's in. Not because she's around you
but its summer when i see her and there is other girls wearing tops that show clevage and belly area around here during the summer
i agree the city where the photo i saw of her was taken , it would be normal for a girl her age to go downtown in such an outfit. its just it seems off that she goes to such great lengths here to not be seen in such tops yet totally fine when somewhere else
i feel like she has a skimpy top waiting in her car to change into as soon as she leaves the restaurant and dresses totally different when not around it
You mention restaurant... maybe there's a restriction on certain clothes at this restaurant
not entirely sure i recall on new years eve 2022 a girl working there was in a revealing top that showed her belly. and after 9pm its like a bar night so people come in wearing all kinds of outfits. and its like summer so its warm here and such
i also recall the neon theme night last summer , a lot of the girls there dressed up and put on different tops which were like neon ish and she specifically refused to change tops that night , she could of wore something different
i wouldn't be that surprised that she wore different clothes in a different city in that sense , just surprised at how much more revealing it is , doesn't even seem like the same girl i knew here , a top like that? which leaves nothing much to the imagination. maybe she's embarrassed to dress that way here , people might think she was a whore or wanted sexual attention but she is ok if people think that somewhere else
I think she's uncomfortable there
i've had the same though too , something about that place has made her feel uncomfortable being herself and showing off her body. but not entirely sure why as its a fun place after dark , people are partying and drinking. perhaps too many people know her or she's worried about running into someone she knows from somewhere else like someones parent or potential employer
I doubt it. But isn't she working?
she does work there but isn't always working , she does sometimes go there with friends when off work and she could wear whatever she wanted then and still never seen her in any tops anything similar to what i've seen her wear when out of town.
i'd also wonder if maybe she see's no point in dressing up at that place , perhaps its not seen as an exciting scene anymore to her and these other places are more exciting
but something about her behaviour seems really off and she is really the only one who could truthfully explain why she is doing this
She wants more attention at the places she shows more skin
she always got a lot of attention at the restaurant even though she wasn't wearing the more revealing tops there ,
there'd also be a lot more girls at the bars she's going to in other cities , i've read women compete with each other in those sorts of environments so she wants to be like the other girls who are likely also wearing such outfits but still
i still find it off , she's go to such lengths to hide her body when here but seems totally fine when anywhere else showing off the very body she is hiding here
I still think it's the environment. I was the same...
but that restaurant the social environment there during the summer , girls do wear sexy outfits and tops that sometimes show there belly button , i'd bet you'd see 100's over the summer its not like she wouldn't fit in if she showed up one night in something similar to what she wears when out of town , she could show off her belly button on a Friday night and no one is going to find it odd or out of place
Maybe she only does it for special occasions but why are you s9 fixated on something that's not about you?
So*...
cause i know her , just trying to figure out what is going on here. also left thinking that restaurant must pay exceptionally well if she's willing to keep working there even though she appears uncomfortable and isn't able to be herself when there. its not like there is not other restaurants she could serve at instead. i've heard the girls there make a lot of money but never actually seen or heard a $ as to how much , its like a tourist hot spot during the summer , but there is a new restaurant opening across the street later this year so it might not be as " hot " this year , be interesting to see what she does then if previous pay isn't meet or what she expected
i came across a new picture of her in different tops once again , the weather was really terrible here last Friday but apparently her and her girlfriend's still went out to this country bar. its in another city a few hours from here. she wore blue jeans and this white top , it posts a lot of pictures to facebook/instagram is where i saw it
its still classy but definitely more revealing than what she'd wear here , is obvious clevage visible and arms /back , can't recall seeing her in anything like that in recent years here , i can't recall her in any top that showed any clevage for a long time
Well she wears that when she goes out out nothing about you
but i see her during the summer at that restaurant/bar downtown. people go out there to party / hang out , its the type of place girls can and do wear revealing outfits but not her not when she is in this area but when she is in other places she dresses totally differently and doesn't mind showing off her body
it still seems so off for some reason , it just seems so odd that i've seen her there so many times and not once is she in the clothes she seems to wear all the time anywhere else
i think your right that she feels uncomfortable ( for some unknown reason at that restaurant or in bars in general in our home area ) but its weird cause the summer is fun here and people typically go out and party a lot so not entirely sure why she's uninterested in the summer party scene yet so interested in going to party at other places with her other friends outside of this area .
there is also another bar here that is busy all summer and a party hot spot but its weird she never goes there despite the fact she seems to go to a lot of bars in other places and obviously likes to drink and party ( you think she'd be there every night ) , she went there once way back in may 2022 then never came back out so yeah something weird is definitly in play here
Maybe because you're there she never goes since you won't drop it lol
i do wonder if that was the reason , although considering i already know what she looks like what different would it make if i saw her at another bar or saw her in different clothing? that one doesn't really make a lot of sense
its also possible she doesn't like to go to bars where there is a lot of people she knows and prefer to go to ones where there isn't but not sure why it matter that much to avoid bars here like the plaque then go to ones hours away instead
i recall once talking to a different girl about the gym , this girl told me she didn't like going to the gym in our home town cause she didn't like working out with people she knew and she'd walk in the gym and knew half the people there. so maybe something similar with this other girl and local bars , knows too many people and so uncomfortable being herself , might feel her revealing behaviour is too much for the tame local scene but ok somewhere else where no one knows her
That could be something but maybe she feels you like her and she doesn't like you that's why she's avoiding... I think she wants to get picked up when she's wearing something revealing may not be about you. Amd yea I hated going to the gym knowing so many people cause I wanted to be around new people too much local drama
there is lots of girls at bars who want to get " noticed " but not necessary picked up in the sense , they be ok with guy buying them a drink or saying hi but not looking for bar night sex.
we can only speculate why she is avoiding the local bar scene as she's never stated a reason to me or have i heard one. it could have something to do with me or other reasons , its tough to say
but its odd that she seems to really enjoy the bar scene when not here , so it all doesn't make a lot of sense
Why can't you just ask her out?
i did talk to her at that restaurant a lot the past couple summers , i obviously wanted to see her outside of the restaurant , things were really frustrating its tough to explain everything
not surprised she wears different clothes and acts differently when not here , cause the stuff she wears is so lame. i've seen her in t shirts and sweaters even but never anything colourful or fun , or summer like. she'd never wear anything fun or exciting to that restaurant , everything is so boring it doesn't surprise me she has an entire wardrobe or other clothes , does surprise me that is so much more sexy and revealing though , that doesn't really seem like the girl i meet
but starting to think the girl i meet at the restaurant is not the real version of her , the real her is more fun / exciting the girl i see pictures of at other bars but somehow have not managed to encounter in our home area despite always seeing her at that restaurant where she is somehow so boring in clothes that offer almost no appeal what so ever
trying to say feel that i haven't even meet the " real her " , i meet someone at that restaurant who is supposedly her but according to what i've seen of her online is really much different. maybe that is why she doesn't feel a strong connection to me , i've never really had the chance to get to know her in the type of setting one would actually get to meet the real her
and left feeling really frustrated by all of this , that i somehow didn't even really get to know her outside of the time i spent at that restaurant and got such a weird and dull version of her when she is clearly really fun and exciting
Don't become a creepy stalker there cause you're really starting to sound like it. I don't think you can truly know someone based off pictures
true there just pictures but more felt i never meet that version of her , mean i've never encountered her in a bar or nightclub/country concert in another city when she is wearing stuff like that or acting that way , which is why i feel that i've never even really meet that person
the only time i can even recall ever talking to her anywhere that wasn't that restaurant was the 1 time i saw her at that other nightclub the summer of 2022 , i recall she was there with another from restaurant , i said hi , even bought them a shot at the bar , then she like disappeared and i didn't even see her the rest of night and have never seen her at that other bar since
she wasn't wearing a revealing top that night cause as i recall it was really cold that night for some reason? she had on a t shirt and blue jeans but nothing like the clothes she wears out of town
so i've never even meet this party girl version of her that goes out on the town and dresses differently and is more fun and exciting
I think you should stop focusing on how hard she dresses and try asking her out
don't think the clothing is the issue , feel that i don't really know her , never seen her in other settings like a private party , country bar , gym , concert. think that maybe is why she doesn't think i'm fun or is uncomfortable around me , she hasn't really experienced fun times with me in other places.
i think it would help if we spent time somewhere else other than the restaurant , don't disagree that would be a good idea , have no idea what she would ever agree to if anything
Maybe she doesn't want to be judged
perhaps but its summer at that restaurant and most girls wear tops that show a bit of there body yet she specifically doesn't yet when anywhere else is totally fine with wearing tops that show nearly everything to anyone who'd see her
Trying to be professional?
but its summer and not exactly a professional place after dark , its like a party bar on weekends , never even seen her in a top that shows her belly button there yet every picture i see of her somewhere else she is showing it