i wouldn't of been aware she was doing this until i came across pictures of her posted online by her girlfriend's of nights out with them in another city and at concerts.
i always see her at a bar here and the restaurant where she works. but never once has she shown up in any of the clothes i saw her wearing in the pictures , all of which showed off her belly area and cleveage. but its obviously her clothes and she seems comfortable being around other people wearing such outfits.
but apparently not in our home area , she doesn't dress like this at the place i normally see her at. true at work there'd be a dress code and uniform which doesn't really show any clevage and belly area not visible. but i've seen her when she 's off work downtown too and never seen her in the clothes i saw her in , in the pictures
it doesn't even seem like the same person but its for sure her , not entirely sure why she is doing this , if she doesn't want guys here looking at her but ok if random guys in other places do?
i feel like the only way to know for sure would be to somehow run into her when she's wearing one of the more revealing outfits and see how she reacts to me seeing her in it , does she act uncomfortable , change tops? , leave entirely , avoid me , talk to me as normal , what would be her reaction to me seeing her in this clothes?
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Bro, this girl is not wife or LTR material, she's for the streets. Don't commit to women who still want to have girls' nights out or have scantily clad pics on social media because they are hoes. You should demote her to recreational use only while you look for a woman who is worth a damn.
i wouldn't say what she was doing was odd for her age , she's in her 20's not 30's but still just odd she's ok with acting this way when i'm not around her in other places but not ok when i'm around
and too the girls her age , half of them look like strippers did 20 years ago , the way they all have tattoo's in different places and body piercings , this was what a typical stripper looked like back in the 2000's now seems like half the 20's look this way
That's because more of them are hoes. The tattoos and piercings aren't just superficial they are signs that something is really wrong with them. That she would want to look sexy for other random dudes but not you is a huge red flag đźš©. Don't commit to these hoes, they will make you regret it.
this girl doesn't actually have any visible tattoo's , just mentioned that as an example. she does have her belly button pierced but i've like rarely ever seen it as mentioned but she's ok with showing other people. i agree its weird she's doing this and a red flag that she is going to bars and parties trying to get other peoples attention but won't let me see her in anything but her blue jeans/blue jeans shorts and work t shirts
i don't know what to make of this to be honest , felt that i've tried to make a genuine effort to get to know her and feel we do have a connection , but is obviously something going on with this person that i'm unable to make sense of
Have you smashed her yet?
no we did a shot at the bar before , so had drinks together but that was last summer none yet this year
Sounds like she is keeping you in the friend-zone while she is out getting used as a cum dumpster by dudes she meets at the bars and clubs. Find someone better.
You don’t find it weird to be lurking around her page after all this time? Did she finally give you her social media?
i've always known what her name was , so seen this girls social media some time ago. we live in the same area so i know some of her girlfriend's too and sometimes view there pages , the one posted some pictures with her
It’s been a long time since you’ve been doing this, like over a year. You still haven’t been added? If not then why keep checking on their pages? If they were your real friends you’d be on there already. You just seem to loom around the bar…
some of them have open pages so i could view it without being a follower , i have sent requests to some of the ones with private accounts and a couple have added me , i follow a couple girls in her friends group but not her , but she doesn't even post much is only 20 posts and most old from years ago , i did view it once when she briefly had it set to public , was really nothing much there at all on her page
Do you feel like the more prominent ones view you as a friend at the level you view them? If at all? Or just casual?
i didn't feel it was a big deal they let me follow them as they have a lot of followers and know a lot of people here.
i've had conversations with most of them about various things when there , feel like i know them fairly well by now or i wouldn't bother talking to them at all.
it would be impossible to gague how these girls view me , i'm sure some do view me as an actual friend well others may just see me as someone they see at that place a lot
either way question was why is see doing this? why such a dramatic different in her appearance when not around me in our home area compared to what she is wearing when in these other places?
true all the girls who work at this restaurant wear different clothes when off work , but i've seen her when she was off work before and she's never dressed like this around here. she would never show up at the pub here in a tiny top showing off her belly but apparently she is ok with doing this all the time when not here and around different people
It sounds like you’re casual at best with these women, making light conversations about things but not exactly friends. At least my idea of a friend is someone I hang out with outside of the bar, there’s other hobbies we share. I do have regulars I see at the same bars often for years now, but I’d imagine I have the same relationship with them that you do with those women. “Bar friends” so to speak. I’m only saying this because realistically, you don’t know her outside of that setting. Not on that level to compare her outfit choices to anything really. If she’s more dressed up to go to a club or concert, like an actual event then that’s very different than your local dive bar. I bet you don’t see anyone else super dressed up at this place you stop by for a drink after work.
you'd see younger people wearing outfits like she is wearing ( out of town ) at that bar on a Friday or Saturday night , would be girls showing up there in similar tops or such. its more of a party vibe on a Friday night but she's always working
i've seen many of the girls who work there in other bars from time to time , in April ran into one of her close friends ( who also works at same bar ) at a bar in another city and she talked to me and we did a shot at the bar , so they do talk to me when there not working and in other places but i don't often see them outside of the place they work
You showed up in that other city, went to the same place for whatever reason, ran into her there and took a shot, one instance long ago. There’s no reason for her to ignore someone she knows. As for the girls dressing up a bit on the weekend, that makes sense. If you’re going out to the club or bar with friends treating it like a party night then why would they wear sweatpants and jogger suits? Of course they would be cute. This woman may not consider that bar her place to dress up, especially if she works there then she’s around often. Actual outings with friends is more of an occasion.
Why does this all matter so much anyway? It’s just clothes…
the girls she's friends with sometimes show up there on weekends and would be wearing more typical party outfits.
either way the ultimate test would be to see this girl in another bar ( not the one she works at ) and see what she is wearing and how she reacts to seeing me there , then you'd have a pretty good idea as to what is going on with her and how see views me. its difficult to get a good feel for her when i only see her at that one spot
i'm just trying to figure out what is going on with her , not going to mention to her that i noticed she dresses differently and ok with showing off her body to others but not guys at her local bar
I’m not saying this in a rude way at all so I hope you don’t take offense, but from an outside perspective your behavior is very obsessive. You’ve been posting about these bar girls for a long time now, and I wonder if maybe you are lonely? Dont you have friends or a woman in your life?
i work at a small business , doesn't really have any other employees but owner rate now , was an older girl who worked there when i first started but she found another job and i never really clicked with her anyways.
i always go to this place after work as it has drink specials then , beer is a lot cheaper at that time slot but also go on Friday / Saturday nights sometimes
i've talked to other girls at other bars , is girls i buy drinks for and talk to at different bars in this area , some of them were random at first and we didn't even talk but eventually we go to know each other , this one always wants to do a tequila shot with me but we've never like done anything outside the bar and i don't even know what she does for a job yet
i used to go to the gym a lot during the winter but don't really go during the summer as i'm too busy and not into it now
was this girl i used to always see at the gym and really into but she has a boyfriend , oddly she also just found a job at that same pub as a server but i haven't talked to her yet and not sure what to expect when i do ,
I wanna be honest here and I think this is just her being kind. You’re a regular at that bar and probably by yourself 9/10, you acknowledge and watch her pretty often. If she works there too then I’m my eyes isn’t isn’t suggestive to have a chill dynamic with a regular. But she leaves it at the bar for a reason when it comes to you. I think you’re misinterpreting what’s going on because you’ve gained feelings or interest.
true but do you think she's wearing different clothes because she knows i'm interested in her and watch her. but when she knows i won't be around she's ok with dressing like her normal self which appears to actually be much more open and revealing.
this was the original question , never said she likes me just she's acting weird and totally different when i'm not around
I wasn’t veering from the original question, but speaking to the nature of your relationship and how you could misinterpret her actions (such as this whole clothing thing) as something other than it’s not. I’ve already said this, but why would she be dressed up for a bar she works at or visits often? To which you mentioned that younger girls dress up on Fridays and Saturdays, but it makes sense if they’re partying and new to the scene. It’s like turning 21, a whole new world opens up and they’re joining it. After a while do going to the same bar that stops, and I believe it’s the same case for your friend. She doesn’t have you in mind at all when she chooses an outfit.
but it does seem hard to believe she'd actually do this , mean totally alter her appearance when i was around her vs when not
but all i have to go on is the evidence and the photographic evidence does seem to suggest she is up to something, no ones ever told me she was doing this but the photo's do really seem to speak for themselves at this point
Wearing a different outfit or style of clothing someplace else is not weird, or totally different. She doesn’t dress up to go to your local watering hole, that’s really it.
i always though she was hiding her belly piercing from me but could never figure out why as i has only seen it like 2 times during the entire time she's worked there
but from the pictures she pretty much wears tops that show it off every time she goes out somewhere other than the place i see her at , but she never shows it off here , so ok with others seeing it but not me
I say this politely but it has absolutely nothing to do with you. She dresses up to go out with her friends, dresses down to be at her workplace grabbing a drink. She isn’t up to anything, she’s not hiding her belly button, it’s just clothes. You are way too bored with your life and fixated on this woman. In a way is like you dissociate, you are literally writing a story in your own mind and probably don’t even realize it. This is strange behavior, I’m tell you.
Of all the people she regularly sees, any man she’s dating, outfit arrangements with friends, outside obligations… out of all those things that could possibly be happening in her life, you choose to make it about you. Like do you not see how strange that is? Even worse that you’re lurking her page and gaining information from her friends..
she 's not hiding her belly button? so why do we never see it at the bar she's always at
just seems weird to me that its always being shown off everywhere else she goes to but never there , the one day i did see it , she was off work and had got her hair done and came in wearing a different top and for some reason touched it when i was nearby so i saw it
i would of been ok just being friends with her , if she had like talked to me politely about things and explained what she wanted out of this , the way she's treated me has made things worse , her best friend treats me better but doesn't seem to want to have an honest conversation with me about her and avoids going into this issue
Do you have a mental illness? Or a therapist?
She has low self worth so dresses like that to gain false self worth