Is she a narcissist or am I just really desperate?

[Jamesdann]

There's this girl i really like, it seems that she like me too, we kissed ( french) on three occasions, and when i told her that we should take it another step forward, she denied everything and when i say everything, like nothing ever happen between me and her, she says that i'm just imagining things, i don't know what to make of it, so nothing went right from there, she did'nt talk to me in the same way like she used too, i may have acted desperate, she blocks me, ghosted me, i tried reaching out to her through other means, she unblock me, lash out at me, calling me some hurtful words then block me again, i was traumatized, after a few months she unblocked me, i just wish her on her birthday, she initiate talking again from there, she tell me she misses me a lot and can't stop thinking about me, i ask why you unblock me, she says she has a soft spot for me , so i just went with the flow from there, before she would never wanted to hang out with me, but now its the opposite, she was always willing to see me, she told that I'm not the same guy anymore that she once knew, i didn't tell that indeed i wasn't the same guy anymore, i was traumatized by her actions and ghosting, i said yes i moved on, what choice do i have, then things went downhill from there, she started showing her disinterest in me, then i said to her, why don't you just block me if you did;nt even care, then she did block me, somehow i felt bad for saying that, i tried reaching out apologizing, then she said to me" i had zero feelings for you, zero interest, you can try hard all you want but i would never fell for you, " all i ask was about her arm, she was injured in a sport, then she says " its non of your business ". I spent countless nights, wondering its all my wrong doings then recently i learnt about narcississt, gaslighting, she once told me that i was the problem, not her, is she a narcissist or am i just desperate for this girl?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang bro, this whole situation sounds complicated. That girl definitely gave some mixed signals - kissing you one moment then blocking you out of nowhere the next. That would mess with anyone's head.

A few things stick out to me though. The hot and cold treatment, blocking/unblocking you, denying anything happened between you guys - those are some classic narcissist red flags. Playing with your emotions like that is super messed up.

And gaslighting you into thinking you imagined things or were the problem when she was the one being wishy-washy, that's not cool either. A normal person wouldn't act that way.

At the same time, I get why you were so into her at first and kept holding out hope. We've all been there hoping to win someone over before realizing how toxic they are.

Best thing to do now is really appreciate you dodged a bullet and cut contact for good. Anyone who treats people that way ain't worth your time or mental energy. You'll find someone a million times better who won't play games like this.

Don't beat yourself up over it either - we all learn these lessons the hard way sometimes. Just be glad you're finally free from the drama! On to bigger and better things from here bro.

[Billlewis]

She may have found another guy she likes better.

[RedInnocent68]

I have some bad news for you…