Does she want my attention or is she just plain to the point?

[Anonymous]

A co-worker with whom I got along with quite well has unfollowed me on social media. This is what happened. A year ago I got to know her. She was married then. After a few months she took an interest in me by asking all kinds of personal questions. Since that moment she showed other signs of interest like always sitting next to me, walking besides me, with light touches of shoulder and arms... Before the holidays she even suggested we should go out, all while being married. She never crossed the line though. After the holidays there was still that tension between us and it got stronger. She showed signs of jealousy when other women were talking with me, again the light touches but when she realised I reciprocated she got afraid and tried to make clear she was taken. She has been single now for quite a while and she suggested going to an event together which we did. There I told her I liked her as more than a friend. She rejected me and unfollowed me on social media all while having shown signs of interest before our 'date" In a week I will see her again at work and things will be awkward. How not to make things awkward?

[Anonymous]

She sounds awful, she’s needing your attention without a care for your feelings. Toxic. Stay away from that nutcase.

[Asker]

I hadn't expected such a comment. Why do you think she's toxic? Thanks for your answer!

[Opinion Owner]

Because it’s toxic behaviour to lead you on with no genuine intentions for you, sounds like a cat toying with a mouse.

[Asker]

You're probably right. Time to move on and find someone who cares.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, know your value, would be different if she was shy and not in a relationship but it sounds like an ego trip.

[Asker]

But she has been single for quite a while and while she was in a relationship she never cheated on him. She just showed interest in me. And she kept showing interest after they divorced and she even asked me out.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s up to you, never give someone time who wouldn’t give you the same.

[Asker]

Yeah, you're right. I need to let go of her. Thanks for your insight.

[IAteTwoFullHams]

Well, if I were you, I'd make things even *more* awkward by speaking entirely about work-related matters. And if she brings up the event, simply look confused and insist it never happened.

[Asker]

That's a good one! ;)