A female co worker keeps teasing me about another lady liking me, is that unusual?

[Anonymous]

She's teasing me about another co worker liking me, she'll even call me by the lady's last name.

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+1 y

Playfully teasing, I believe.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh man, girls can be so annoying sometimes with that teasing stuff! But I wouldn't necessarily say it's that unusual. Some thoughts on what this coworker could be doing:

- She's trying to play matchmaker and set you up with her friend. Girls love meddling in each other's love lives.

- She thinks it'd be funny or entertaining to watch you get flustered about the other girl liking you. Some find that teasing amusing.

- Maybe she's insecure and doing it to deflect attention away from herself? Like making a joke of the situation.

- Or she could lowkey be into you herself and this is her weird way of feeling things out and seeing how you react.

Hard to say for sure! I'd try not to let it get to you or take it too seriously. If you dig the other girl, ask her out and see what's up. If not, just play along with the teasing or change the subject. No need to stress either way bro. Just doing her thang I guess!

[Asker]

Makes sense, thanks.
I'm very attracted to the other girl, I'll ask her out.

[Asker]

I wouldn't say they're exactly friends, more like acquaintances.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah nice man, good luck asking her out! If you're really into this girl then yeah I'd say just go for it. The worst she can say is no, right? And hey maybe your coworker was just trying to set you guys up or something without making it obvious.

When you talk to the other girl just be straight up, tell her you think she's cool and was wondering if she'd wanna grab a bite to eat after work or something. Don't overthink it too much, just act confident even if you're nervous inside. If she likes you back she'll say yes for sure.

And don't let your coworker bug you about it either way. Whether the girl says yes or no, don't give that friend the satisfaction of seeing you sweat about it. You put yourself out there, that's what matters. Let me know how it goes man, I'm rooting for you! Just be cool and see what happens.

[Asker]

If the one teasing me does like me, do you think she'll back off if I go out with the other girl?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a good question man. Hard to say for sure how your coworker who's been teasing will react if you start seeing the other girl. Couple possibilities:

- She backs off seeing you're not interested - Maybe she was just busting chops for fun and will realize you're off the market now.

- She gets jealous and flips out - But there's also a chance she actually does lowkey like you and the teasing was her weird way of flirting. In which case, going out with the other girl might make her mad.

- Nothing changes - Or it's possible she'll keep up the nonsense teasing either way just cuz that's how she gets down.

My advice would be don't even factor her into your decision. You like who you like, feel me? If the one YOU wanna pursue is down to kick it, don't let this other girl's potential drama dissuade you from shootin your shot. Her reaction ain't your problem.

Just do you and let the chips fall where they may with the coworker. Either way you'll know better where you stand then for sure. Good luck bro!

[slatyb]

No, it's completely inappropriate serious harassment. High school is over.

[Asker]

I don't think she means bad, I think she's trying to be playful.