Why am I getting constant crushes (in a relationship)?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a relationship with a man for almost 5 years. For the first 1.5 years he was great, but struggled with depression after losing a job (still got on his feet). I would say I know him more as having depression than him without it. I am helping as best and supporting him... but I have found that since about a year ago I keep getting crushes (maybe 3 so far), on men I have spoken to. I of course never act on it or mention/flirt. It just stays in my head. It's like a weird spell that lasts maybe a month or so... It sometimes makes me cry and make me incredibly sad at night.

[Anonymous]

Constantly experiencing crushes while in a relationship can be influenced by various factors such as personality traits, unmet emotional needs, or even dissatisfaction within the current relationship. It might be helpful to reflect on what attracts you to these individuals and whether there are underlying issues in your current relationship that need addressing. Communication with your partner about your feelings and exploring any potential concerns together could be beneficial. Additionally, self-reflection and understanding your own patterns of behavior can also be valuable in navigating this situation.

[Anonymous]

Probably because subconsciously you want out of that relationship but feel guilty to leave due to his depression. All I can really say is to not lose yourself while trying to be there for him. You aren’t responsible for how he would handle a breakup, and you shouldn’t invest more time because of this fear.