I know this girl from a group who seems to be the very quiet type, more so than your average quiet girl.
Most of the time, I would see her using her phone while listening to our conversations.
Whenever I do talk to her, we would have our back-and-forth convo and I could sense when she wants to ask something outside of the convo, so I would pause for a few seconds after ending my sentence and look elsewhere, and then she would ask me something.
I don't think she is a very shy person otherwise she wouldn't try to catch my attention in a fun way by waving her hand in front of my face when I was paying attention to something else. This was when she happened to walk past me.
The real question I have is:
I am so used to girls who slowly become more comfortable and become more of themselves. But with her, I can't tell if I am making her feel overwhelmed with my level of energy/interaction (I am an ambivert) and therefore I have to lower my interaction with her or if this is just natural very quiet girl behaviour?
Hmm it sounds like this girl is definitely on the quieter side naturally, but doesn't seem overwhelmed by you. A few thoughts:
- The way she still tries to get your attention like waving her hand shows she's comfortable engaging with you one-on-one.
- Using her phone a lot in groups is normal introvert behavior - big conversations can be draining. But she participates when it's just you two.
- Paying close attention when you talk and then pausing to ask follow up questions means she's engaged in the conversation, even if she lets you do more of the talking.
- Some people are just less outwardly expressive than others. Doesn't mean she doesn't enjoy interacting when she chooses to.
I'd say your energy level is fine man - she seems to enjoy your company and she'd let you know if anything bothered her. This just sounds like how a lower key girl acts. Keep talking to her normally, she'll keep coming out of her shell. You got this!
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Let he do what she feels and don't worry about the energy unless she is avoiding you!
This will lead to friendzone but you just want to be friends? Right?
Give her 3 years to warm up and relax if takes some shy girls that long!
Also maybe change where you two hang out. This setting she might not be able to relax in.
she needs more time n ofc more personal space
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