Why do some girls’ get mean and rude to you when they are in love with you?

[Finchie40]

Is she embarrassed by being head over heels for you so her defense is to be rude and mean to you outside the bedroom? But when you are alone together she rips your clothes off and wants every inch of your body and wants you to fuck the shit out of her? Why can’t she just be nice and respectful to you outside the bedroom as well? I been with a few girls’ that acted this way , it always left a question mark over my head as to why she did that to me? Is she afraid i am going to leave her for someone else so she puts those walls up? I never understood this concept what so ever

[IslaTheWitch]

we are more open about negative emotions if we feel safe with someone. For example, kids who are loud and not behaving at home feel safe with their parents and show their true nature and the same kids are well-behaved outside the home.

so adults do the same. The process is not conscious. But at the moment we feel safe, we are more open to showing not only positive, expected, emotions but also all those negative ones, which are also important parts of us.

[dustybiker2]

Young woman who haven't learned the tighter you hold on the faster you lose a person.

[Finchie40]

So she treats a good man like shit so he doesn’t hurt her feelings first? I don’t get it

[dustybiker2]

They are controlling tactics. Mixed with rage because they don't have control. Someone else said it. Very immature behaviors.

[Finchie40]

Yea I see that , most of these girls’ were very insecure and jealous if I wanted to have fun , if I smiled about something that didn’t revolve around them , my fun is innocent fun because I always put myself in my partners shoes before making decisions , I don’t do anything crazy to jeopardize my relationship with her , I sit at home most of the time and just want her by my side , I include her in everything I do , I never leave her out , I I love to smile and make others smile as well , I try to be as positive as I can but it always seems I end up with basket cases. I don’t understand it. At times I feel maybe I am just better off staying single and not give my heart fully to anyone anymore cuz I constantly get shit on for no reason what so ever. But sadly that’s not who I am as a person , I value relationships and commitment , but sadly the only way it lasts the long haul is I have to become a punching bag and treated like shit for no reason what ever , I am not saying I am perfect but I know I always put myself in my partners shoes before making decisions , it seems the girls’ I end up with can’t do that for me. So I eventually walk away because I am emotionally drained from being treated like shit for no reason , when my friends and family tell me why do I tolerate that shit with her. So I eventually get up walk away even though I am hurting inside , they all come chasing me back with open arms apologizing saying they love me , do girls’ love games like this? , I can’t really grasp it honestly. I don’t play games with her so why does she do it to me?

[dustybiker2]

Sound like you just keep picking this type.

[ProbablyClueless]

Could be mental illness, but there's also a lot of fear and insecurity.

[Finchie40]

It seems most girls’ I end up with are this way, do I just keep trading them in lol

[ProbablyClueless]

Yeah, it seems be a common thing. It gets pretty exhausting to deal with.

[Finchie40]

Tell me about it , I consider myself old school and value relationships and commitment but sadly these days people don’t as much anymore , I am not the type of guy that runs around sticking my dick into as many girls’ I can get at one time , I find that to be dirty and degrading , so I am stuck between a rock and hard place on what I should do , I know she loves me , she proves it to me in the bedroom for sure , but outside the bedroom she is back and fourth with me and her emotions , Mostly negative and controlling , I have asked her
Multiple times why she treats me this way and she just says it’s who I am either accept it or walk away. I am so half and half , part of me wants to walk away and tell her to Go fuck herself then the other part of me loves her and cares about her , I feel if I do walk away and meet someone else then I am selfish and only care about myself. This isn’t the first girl I have experienced this with , it seems like every girl I experienced this with , Do I just become selfish and keep trading them in and getting a reputation of being a man whore? Putting myself at risk of catching STD’s or do I stay being a punching bag to her. I am so lost on what to do , I do love her but a part of me feels I deserve better. What is right or wrong? I don’t really know anymore, the first girl that ever did this to me I ended up cheating on her , the first and only girl I ever cheated on because of this behavior , i did end it with her and confessed I cheated on her and told her the truth as to why i allowed myself to do it, shockingly she forgave me and wanted me back into her life but I told her No that she deserves better , because if i truly loved you I wouldn’t of cheated on you to begin with. So I didn’t go back to her , the next girl that did this to me I didn’t cheat on , she cheated on me , so yes Karma is a bitch , the 3 rd girl that did this to me was my wife , she didn’t treat me this way in the beginning. and that’s why I married her

[Finchie40]

And had kids with her , but after our kids were born my wife turned into those girls’ started treating me like those girls’ did , I felt like why can’t I just meet a normal fucking girl , why do I have to be a punching bag every-time I give my heart to a girl , My wife and I ended up separating cuz she ended up having an emotional affair with her co worker , When I started dating again after my separation the girls’ I was meeting were all great in the beginning until I found out they were lying to me that they were single when really they weren’t , So I pretty much gave up on relationships for quite sometime , I eventually gave my wife a second chance because she was begging for me back and swore she didn’t physically cheat on me , So I gave her another chance and things were great between us again until she starting pulling the same behavior to me again , I told her let’s just remain friends for the kids sake , Now I am open to meeting someone new but in no rush

[handsomelad70]

Jealousy and insecurity.

[Billlewis]

Because they know that's what works best;)

[chrissykerdock]

girls have all linds of defects too have to find the right one

[gabrielle0088]

The same reason men are rude and mean to women. She probably has abandonment issues and is a borderline PD.

[laly520]

prolly mental illness

[Finchie40]

I see that as well , do I stand by her and just be her punching bag or do I tell her to go fuck herself and find someone that treats me better?

[laly520]

find someone better
no one deserves such bad treatment

[Finchie40]

It seems this is the only girls’ that come into my life , I honestly point fingers at myself first thinking maybe it’s me , to realize it’s not me it’s her , I treat everyone the same way I want to be treated in return , that’s who I am have always been this way , I know I am not perfect but I know I have a big heart when I t comes to relationships, Things are always great in the beginning but it always turns to shit , do I just keep trading these girls in until I finally find my perfect match? I am so lost lol

[laly520]

very bad luck unfortunately
keep on looking I'm sure u will eventually find the right one

[NathanDavis]

neve been there myself

[Anonymous]

Immaturity

[Finchie40]

I agree it’s definitely immature behavior , but why?

[Opinion Owner]

It's most likely because they themselves aren't mature enough yet, are insecure, and/or are embarrassed about liking you/ their friends don't approve and they can't handle that and thus act immature to compensate

[Finchie40]

If they are embarrassed by liking me , then why is she with me on the first place , if I was embarrassed to be with a girl , I wouldn’t be with her period , These girls all said I was the first nice guy they ever been with , and I laugh and asked them why do you treat me like shit then if I am that nice of a guy , do you want me to start treating you like shit , will that be better? Cuz I can treat you like shit but I guarantee you won’t like it. I honestly can’t grasp these girls’ mindsets , it isn’t normal behavior. If they truly loved me or valued me they would tell their friends to go fuck themselves and tell their friends don’t ever talk about my man that way again , I have done that plenty of times to my friends when they bash my girl , why do girls’ have harder time doing this to her friends? Is she secretly bi sexual does she want to dyke it out with them , I know that sounds harsh but what is the reason? I always make my partner my number 1 priority why can’t girls’ do that for their men , it just blows my mind

[Opinion Owner]

Some girls just aren't mature enough to handle it and care more about their friends than partners. It happens. These days, some girls like to play mind games, it's completely unnecessary, but that's what they've learned through society. She could also be taking advantage of you for money or sex. You can't really know someone's mindset. But I definitely think that if she's abusive, you shouldn't be with her. I think finding someone who has similar levels of maturity is probably what you should be looking for.

[Dongie]

Hormones coupled with passion. I like it.

[marriecarlson]

wuh-

[Finchie40]

LOL I take it you don’t have mental illness , you are a rarity lol

[Anonymous]

It’s just playfulness