If a girl likes a guy will she ever deliberately act rude or act like she doesn't like him when she actually does? if so, what are some of the common reasons and I am not talking about PMS. I have encountered this before I am just talking about basic rudeness.
This is really interesting. There's much younger than I am woman in my life. I was actually friends with her mom first. I began chatting with her and her friends politely over about a year. I like her lot. She seems intelligent. And then one day about a year and half ago she started getting bitchy kind putting up a wall. I thought the intensity of it was a bit much for the amount of interaction we had had, which had fairly friendly up until then. I had a suspicion it was something like this. The change was sudden and big. I don't remember doing or saying anything that warranted it.
So the question I have is this. If this is the case, she is really attracted to me but hiding it for some reason, and I suspect it's the fear of rejection thing, how do I get her over it? So far I've just more or less ignored her bitchiness, even though I wanted to react with a little shit of my own back, I knew that wasn't the right thing to do. So I just don't let it get to me. I'm just polite and friendly when I see. Keep the chat light, nothing personal that will embarrass her. But lately she's started kind of ramping it up, making a point of showing she doesn't like me. A couple times when I was more or less ignoring her because that's the message she's sending, stay away.
As I said, she's intelligent and I find her attractive. I likely would be interested in some kind or relationship with her, even just friends because I do like her, maybe more than lot of women I've met. But I think more than that this suspicion I have about what's really going on bugs me. I want her to get over whatever it is so we can at least talk about what she feels or at least come to some different detente without having to talk about what she feels. I think it's not good for her to be like this, especially if it's a low self esteem thing. There's nothing wrong with her except maybe the background she came from, which is the same as mine.
Maybe her mom is jealous too and some kind of shit went on I don't know about when she and I started getting too friendly. Ah women!
Yeah, they may tease you and act "mean" but the main signs a girl likes you are these ones mainly
Never. I am never mean to guys unless they are mean too, especially the guy I like.
But I do something that is also out of the ordinary. I hide it as best as I can. I tease him and make him laugh, I talk to him, but keep him at bay. Tease him again, avoid him because I can't handle not to blush anymore... Then repeat the process. >.>
By teasing I mean joking a little at he expense, but he does the same to me right back, and we both laugh. So I'm not sure if you could consider this "mean".
Yes I know this is stupid and useless, but I can't help it. I am so afraid of him finding out, that being obvious about my crush is as difficult as a straight out confession. The worst part is, sometimes I do find some courage and flirt a little, right before I chicken out again. Then the poor follow is left confused and insecure and I am left disappointed scolding myself all over again. =(
-Some girls like to pretend that they don't like the guy to test the guy,to see if he really likes her and will keep on trying to win her or prove to her that he really like her.
-Some born that way,they don't want to admit that they like some1 and try to make themselves believe that they don't like him.
-Some pretend that they don't like him because they know they can't have that person so they push him away To aviod the troubles Whatever is that trouble.
-some really mean that they don't really like him.
-most girls do that to a guy when he hurt Them Or was rude to them.
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Yes 🙌 I could. If I get jealous or if he’s being a jerk towards me or ignoring me, playing mind games. That makes me mad 😡. And then I’d just stop liking him coz it’s childish. But if he’s nice and adorable, I’d be adorable back
Yeah or highly charged emotions.
So, in my case I'm like that when I try to fall out of love which independently appeared at some point of time. I'm just not good with relationships and I don't want to have problems later on if somebody starts to like me more because I'm afraid of taking responsibility. Also, when I analyse the situation and I can see so much fundamental topics about which we disagree, I know if we ever get together we would only quarrel and break up in the future because people don't change easily and neither of us would make the other one to change his/her mind. So, that stated, I resolve things the way which doesn't require much energy and is the easiest and safest for me (yup, I'm a lazy coward who doesn't like confrontations) - I try to kill this unripe feeling of love I have (can I make a dad joke? I crush this crush! Not the person though or at least not intentionally, but... I hope you get what I mean, when I'm saying I'm being mean... ok, I'll stop there).
The point is I just try to remove the feeling I have and in the process I try to ignore the person until I get back to my old self who wasn't in love. It's worse when I have presumptions that make me think the other person might have started to like me because then I make myself quite unlikeable by being more formal or mean to ensure there would be near no possibility of him ever liking me so it would be easier for me to fall out of love and be sure I won't hurt him later on when he fully start to like me (which is me just being a jerk since it would probably hurt him either way but I try to rationalize the situation by saying it would hurt him less to stop liking me at the beggining than later - if he ever liked me like that at all of course).
I get it's totally immature and yes, I know I need to work on my communication skills because you can just talk about it with the other person to at least show them some respect BUT for me that's the solution which takes less energy and enables me or even both of us to quickly move on. That's the solution which worked in the past so it feels safer than talking straight up to the other person but I guess I still learn that I'm not responsible for other people feelings and if they want to like me in certain way, I should just let them.
So I hope the girl that was mean to you wasn't like me and just had a bad day (even though it sound terrible when I write it) or had some other problems so it wasn't anything personal. You know, people have their problems, boundaries which sometimes others invade and things they don't like for example in others behaviour so maybe it's one of those.
You can always ask her straight up 'Why are you being mean to me?' and talk to her openly about that. Maybe she doesn't even know you see her attitude as mean so I think an honest talk could help.
Good luck :)
No that is an anomaly and its not true, I mean does that even make sense? I mean why would you act mean towards your significant other? so he can get further away from you?
Some women however will have conflicting feelings between you and some other guy, so she may like you and the other guy, but she might like the other guy more or the same, so she will feel guilty and angry at herself for liking you, because its not socially right to like two people at the same time if you know what I mean; therefore she "may" release those feeling on you. But as far as being completely rude I don't think so, they may like foul mouth you a little but nothing big, or be a little rude but its the behavior that people have a bad day and they don't want people to talk to them. BUT they will never be rude so you get away from them, because they don't want your attention, they will likely come to you and still talk to you and then be sorry for their behavior if you call them on it.
Also some girls are also a little rude with the guy they like just as a form of flirting, but this is more like playful behavior its not like she wants you to get away from them. This is a test that women use to see how much they can control the man and what he can do to overcome that "rudeness".
I have asked myself this question many times. I usually have no problem with women, they laugh at my jokes, playfully hit me and just enjoy talking to me. There's this girl who is part of the same group who can be a little, well, short with me. I really like her so when I see her I go up to her and try to joke with her but she just won't laugh, not even a little. She'll smile at me but usually she'll follow it by saying how lame my joke was or call me annoying or tell me how conceited I am or just shush me and tell me "why are you still talking?" or to "go away". I don't feel like she is being "rude" or "mean" its more like that's her natural self because she is extremely nice and sweet to most people, then there's the people she sees as friends, she'll be a little sarcastic and mean to them (but have a big smile on her face when she is being mean) and then there's me, she'll try to act all mature and tell me how childish I am bla bla and yet when we get the ball rolling we'll talk for hours and have a lot of fun and even people around us will have fun seeing us argue about stupid things and being "mean" to each other, in other words, it feels like there's chemistry between us, the room "feels" different when we are together. Why is she mean? I don't know, maybe she is just afraid to admit it or she just plain hates me, but you can usually tell when a person truly doesn't like you.
Not on purpose. It's happened before with me as somewhat of a defence mechanism though... For whatever reason I liked a guy who was rude/ mean to me and I would try and dish it back to feel better. I don't think if should be done though. I ended up just ignoring him and keeping it all a big secret. Lately, I get the feeling that he is attracted to me too. He stares at me way to much for it to be platonic. We don't like each other but we are sexually attracted to each other hence being rude when in contact...
Immature women will be rude to a guy they like because they don't want to be vulnerable and just make it known they like the guy. They are usually very insecure and are afraid of the rejection that can come with letting someone know you like them.
For other girls, they may joke around and tease a guy, but never be totally mean.
BE CAREFUL! She may just be in a really bad mood! And you have to be able to depict between teasing and just plain old rude. If she says something like, "Can you not?" That is considered pretty rude... But if a girl says something like, "Wow nice hair you got there!"(Sarcastically) When you are FULLY AWARE you have messy hair, then that's just plain old fun and teasing. And yes, some girls LIKE ME tend to maybe act rude around their crush because they get all shy and scared and ugh the feels... So yeah you'll get the jist of it.. (:
Yes and its so wrong..Don't do that. I liked a guy for a year and he was so shy. After a point, I started being so rude to him because I was so proud and I wanted him to tell me his feelings but he never did and I just thought he didn't like me but sometimes I thought he really did and yeah I broke his heart in the end and he hated me
Honestly yes sometimes. I'm not gonna lie I've done it before on purpose. 1 because that's basically how I am and I'm rude to everybody, and 2 because I wanted to play hard to get to see how far he would go to get me. If he gave up that meant he wasn't worth my time but if he kept trying that meant he really was in to me and I should give him a chance. I'm currently going through that now and he actually won't give up even though I shot him down really hard about 4 times.
I recently was mean to my crush a few times but also sweet and nice. I believe he's talked shit about how I liked him, he was hot and cold with me prior, so I walked away. I'm angry more at myself of still liking a man that never treated me like a decent friend!! Who may have led me on and I took his flirting as if he was onto me.
Well I haven't done that since I was in elementary school.. but the reason I did it is because I didn't want him to know, I liked his attention even if it was negative, it was fun to see his different expressions, I knew he didn't like me back or wouldn't like me even if he knew.
Yes, that happens a lot with immature girls because they are too stupid to realize that is not the way to win a guy over. Who wants to be close to someone when they are constantly getting insulted by them? Doesn't sound like how a relationship should work. Also, it means she has problems communicating. That lack of ability to communicate will be the ultimate downfall of any relationship in my opinion.
Not usually. but they have a tendency to get mean or rude if they are too used to, comfortable and already with the guy they like. They also get mean or rude to a guy they like if the guy has been repeatedly doing something that really irks or annoys them, or if the guy is not doing something that they wish he would do, or if they were disappointed by the guy they like.
For me if I have a crush on a guy I'll just be a bit more shy around him but never rude or unkind. Not sure why they would be like that unless you've done something to annoy them or stuff like that.
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Oh yes, but I think that it is because we are trying to cover up the fact that we like him or don't know how else to interact with him.
I think being cheeky and giving shit is flirting but if she's being outright rude and not making it clear she was joking then she's probably just a cunt hey
i don't but I know some girls who do. I think it's because they don't want to hint to them they are interested (want to play hard too get) or they are just being immature
I have unintentionally because I was trying so hard to cover up the fact that I like him I ended up just being a little mean. lol and yes that sounds so middle school!
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