If a girl likes a guy will she ever deliberately act rude or act like she doesn't like him when she actually does? if so, what are some of the common reasons and I am not talking about PMS. I have encountered this before I am just talking about basic rudeness.
This is really interesting. There's much younger than I am woman in my life. I was actually friends with her mom first. I began chatting with her and her friends politely over about a year. I like her lot. She seems intelligent. And then one day about a year and half ago she started getting bitchy kind putting up a wall. I thought the intensity of it was a bit much for the amount of interaction we had had, which had fairly friendly up until then. I had a suspicion it was something like this. The change was sudden and big. I don't remember doing or saying anything that warranted it.
So the question I have is this. If this is the case, she is really attracted to me but hiding it for some reason, and I suspect it's the fear of rejection thing, how do I get her over it? So far I've just more or less ignored her bitchiness, even though I wanted to react with a little shit of my own back, I knew that wasn't the right thing to do. So I just don't let it get to me. I'm just polite and friendly when I see. Keep the chat light, nothing personal that will embarrass her. But lately she's started kind of ramping it up, making a point of showing she doesn't like me. A couple times when I was more or less ignoring her because that's the message she's sending, stay away.
As I said, she's intelligent and I find her attractive. I likely would be interested in some kind or relationship with her, even just friends because I do like her, maybe more than lot of women I've met. But I think more than that this suspicion I have about what's really going on bugs me. I want her to get over whatever it is so we can at least talk about what she feels or at least come to some different detente without having to talk about what she feels. I think it's not good for her to be like this, especially if it's a low self esteem thing. There's nothing wrong with her except maybe the background she came from, which is the same as mine.
Maybe her mom is jealous too and some kind of shit went on I don't know about when she and I started getting too friendly. Ah women!
Yeah, they may tease you and act "mean" but the main signs a girl likes you are these ones mainly
Never. I am never mean to guys unless they are mean too, especially the guy I like.
But I do something that is also out of the ordinary. I hide it as best as I can. I tease him and make him laugh, I talk to him, but keep him at bay. Tease him again, avoid him because I can't handle not to blush anymore... Then repeat the process. >.>
By teasing I mean joking a little at he expense, but he does the same to me right back, and we both laugh. So I'm not sure if you could consider this "mean".
Yes I know this is stupid and useless, but I can't help it. I am so afraid of him finding out, that being obvious about my crush is as difficult as a straight out confession. The worst part is, sometimes I do find some courage and flirt a little, right before I chicken out again. Then the poor follow is left confused and insecure and I am left disappointed scolding myself all over again. =(
well said
WOW! You sound EXACTLY like me! I do exactly the same and I have definitely noticed this of myself lately now that I am single. I recently realized that when we are talking/laughing/joking, I tease him by making jokes at his expense, but I don't mean it. I don't think it's cool though :( haha but I do this I am attracted to the guy. I also noticed that I try to hide it super well, I try to keep my smile in and end up blushing. And from time to time, when we are joking, I will slightly poke/hit him but very softly. I also noticed that I look at him a lot when he is not looking, and when we connect eyes, I give him a stare and I then look away... Sometimes if I am very flirty, I will give a light smirk/smile and look away haha.
That's what I realized I do when I like a guy.. Those are my signs that I am attracted to you! And I try to verbally hide that I like you! haha
I also realize that from time to time I also maintain some distance and repeat the process. Now you know our secrets!
Yeah lately I've been acting a little mean to the guy I like, but the thing is, he knows I like him and he low key makes fun of me for it. He said he liked me too, but not as much as he used to. He really still wants to be friends but he doesn't understand how hard it is for me because I still have feelings, he just doesn't get it. I think my case is different, but I'd agree, normally girls are not straight up mean. There's a proper way to make fun with out hurting feelings.
Holy shit! Girls are consistently mean to me throughout my life, no matter what I do with my looks. Since my childhood, I've been bullied and avoided by every girl. Girls would laugh at me in public when I let things get out of hand. Glad I have a HAIRCUT now and decent clothes. I'm just so glad I'm over it, I'm over girls, am used to it and no longer care. Can post pics
-Some girls like to pretend that they don't like the guy to test the guy,to see if he really likes her and will keep on trying to win her or prove to her that he really like her.
-Some born that way,they don't want to admit that they like some1 and try to make themselves believe that they don't like him.
-Some pretend that they don't like him because they know they can't have that person so they push him away To aviod the troubles Whatever is that trouble.
-some really mean that they don't really like him.
-most girls do that to a guy when he hurt Them Or was rude to them.
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Yes 🙌 I could. If I get jealous or if he’s being a jerk towards me or ignoring me, playing mind games. That makes me mad 😡. And then I’d just stop liking him coz it’s childish. But if he’s nice and adorable, I’d be adorable back
Yeah or highly charged emotions.
So, in my case I'm like that when I try to fall out of love which independently appeared at some point of time. I'm just not good with relationships and I don't want to have problems later on if somebody starts to like me more because I'm afraid of taking responsibility. Also, when I analyse the situation and I can see so much fundamental topics about which we disagree, I know if we ever get together we would only quarrel and break up in the future because people don't change easily and neither of us would make the other one to change his/her mind. So, that stated, I resolve things the way which doesn't require much energy and is the easiest and safest for me (yup, I'm a lazy coward who doesn't like confrontations) - I try to kill this unripe feeling of love I have (can I make a dad joke? I crush this crush! Not the person though or at least not intentionally, but... I hope you get what I mean, when I'm saying I'm being mean... ok, I'll stop there).
The point is I just try to remove the feeling I have and in the process I try to ignore the person until I get back to my old self who wasn't in love. It's worse when I have presumptions that make me think the other person might have started to like me because then I make myself quite unlikeable by being more formal or mean to ensure there would be near no possibility of him ever liking me so it would be easier for me to fall out of love and be sure I won't hurt him later on when he fully start to like me (which is me just being a jerk since it would probably hurt him either way but I try to rationalize the situation by saying it would hurt him less to stop liking me at the beggining than later - if he ever liked me like that at all of course).
I get it's totally immature and yes, I know I need to work on my communication skills because you can just talk about it with the other person to at least show them some respect BUT for me that's the solution which takes less energy and enables me or even both of us to quickly move on. That's the solution which worked in the past so it feels safer than talking straight up to the other person but I guess I still learn that I'm not responsible for other people feelings and if they want to like me in certain way, I should just let them.
So I hope the girl that was mean to you wasn't like me and just had a bad day (even though it sound terrible when I write it) or had some other problems so it wasn't anything personal. You know, people have their problems, boundaries which sometimes others invade and things they don't like for example in others behaviour so maybe it's one of those.
You can always ask her straight up 'Why are you being mean to me?' and talk to her openly about that. Maybe she doesn't even know you see her attitude as mean so I think an honest talk could help.
Good luck :)
No that is an anomaly and its not true, I mean does that even make sense? I mean why would you act mean towards your significant other? so he can get further away from you?
Some women however will have conflicting feelings between you and some other guy, so she may like you and the other guy, but she might like the other guy more or the same, so she will feel guilty and angry at herself for liking you, because its not socially right to like two people at the same time if you know what I mean; therefore she "may" release those feeling on you. But as far as being completely rude I don't think so, they may like foul mouth you a little but nothing big, or be a little rude but its the behavior that people have a bad day and they don't want people to talk to them. BUT they will never be rude so you get away from them, because they don't want your attention, they will likely come to you and still talk to you and then be sorry for their behavior if you call them on it.
Also some girls are also a little rude with the guy they like just as a form of flirting, but this is more like playful behavior its not like she wants you to get away from them. This is a test that women use to see how much they can control the man and what he can do to overcome that "rudeness".
I have asked myself this question many times. I usually have no problem with women, they laugh at my jokes, playfully hit me and just enjoy talking to me. There's this girl who is part of the same group who can be a little, well, short with me. I really like her so when I see her I go up to her and try to joke with her but she just won't laugh, not even a little. She'll smile at me but usually she'll follow it by saying how lame my joke was or call me annoying or tell me how conceited I am or just shush me and tell me "why are you still talking?" or to "go away". I don't feel like she is being "rude" or "mean" its more like that's her natural self because she is extremely nice and sweet to most people, then there's the people she sees as friends, she'll be a little sarcastic and mean to them (but have a big smile on her face when she is being mean) and then there's me, she'll try to act all mature and tell me how childish I am bla bla and yet when we get the ball rolling we'll talk for hours and have a lot of fun and even people around us will have fun seeing us argue about stupid things and being "mean" to each other, in other words, it feels like there's chemistry between us, the room "feels" different when we are together. Why is she mean? I don't know, maybe she is just afraid to admit it or she just plain hates me, but you can usually tell when a person truly doesn't like you.
ya that's how she is with me I know xactly what your talking about thanks glad I'm not alone
Not on purpose. It's happened before with me as somewhat of a defence mechanism though... For whatever reason I liked a guy who was rude/ mean to me and I would try and dish it back to feel better. I don't think if should be done though. I ended up just ignoring him and keeping it all a big secret. Lately, I get the feeling that he is attracted to me too. He stares at me way to much for it to be platonic. We don't like each other but we are sexually attracted to each other hence being rude when in contact...
Immature women will be rude to a guy they like because they don't want to be vulnerable and just make it known they like the guy. They are usually very insecure and are afraid of the rejection that can come with letting someone know you like them.
For other girls, they may joke around and tease a guy, but never be totally mean.
BE CAREFUL! She may just be in a really bad mood! And you have to be able to depict between teasing and just plain old rude. If she says something like, "Can you not?" That is considered pretty rude... But if a girl says something like, "Wow nice hair you got there!"(Sarcastically) When you are FULLY AWARE you have messy hair, then that's just plain old fun and teasing. And yes, some girls LIKE ME tend to maybe act rude around their crush because they get all shy and scared and ugh the feels... So yeah you'll get the jist of it.. (:
Yes and its so wrong..Don't do that. I liked a guy for a year and he was so shy. After a point, I started being so rude to him because I was so proud and I wanted him to tell me his feelings but he never did and I just thought he didn't like me but sometimes I thought he really did and yeah I broke his heart in the end and he hated me
ya I don't know what I did she liked me then did not. I told her she made me happy and she said you don't make me happy. and she told a mutual friend to tell me she had a boyfriend and didn't want me pursuing her like that. but everything she did otherwise indicated she liked me...girls are confusing
You should tell him. Explain EVERYTHING to him, just as you wrote it above. It might help... at least it might make him feel a little better.
... buuuut that was 5 years ago apparently, so maybe not. :-)
Honestly yes sometimes. I'm not gonna lie I've done it before on purpose. 1 because that's basically how I am and I'm rude to everybody, and 2 because I wanted to play hard to get to see how far he would go to get me. If he gave up that meant he wasn't worth my time but if he kept trying that meant he really was in to me and I should give him a chance. I'm currently going through that now and he actually won't give up even though I shot him down really hard about 4 times.
Lol..
I recently was mean to my crush a few times but also sweet and nice. I believe he's talked shit about how I liked him, he was hot and cold with me prior, so I walked away. I'm angry more at myself of still liking a man that never treated me like a decent friend!! Who may have led me on and I took his flirting as if he was onto me.
Well I haven't done that since I was in elementary school.. but the reason I did it is because I didn't want him to know, I liked his attention even if it was negative, it was fun to see his different expressions, I knew he didn't like me back or wouldn't like me even if he knew.
Yes, that happens a lot with immature girls because they are too stupid to realize that is not the way to win a guy over. Who wants to be close to someone when they are constantly getting insulted by them? Doesn't sound like how a relationship should work. Also, it means she has problems communicating. That lack of ability to communicate will be the ultimate downfall of any relationship in my opinion.
Not usually. but they have a tendency to get mean or rude if they are too used to, comfortable and already with the guy they like. They also get mean or rude to a guy they like if the guy has been repeatedly doing something that really irks or annoys them, or if the guy is not doing something that they wish he would do, or if they were disappointed by the guy they like.
ya that makes sense like this girl I pay attention to and at first she liked it, then she said I asked her too many questions, then when I left her alone she would always try to get my attention, she would ask me what I was doing on the weekend, implying she wanted to hang out, then when I asked her to hangout she would seem hesitant and not give me an answer. she confused me. and I told her she made me happy and said I didn't make her happy. but seemed sad wen she said it and unauthentic.
when you say disappointed by the guy they like what could you possibly mean...some xamples. like what do most girls get mad or disappointed with guys that they don't do...attention.
For me if I have a crush on a guy I'll just be a bit more shy around him but never rude or unkind. Not sure why they would be like that unless you've done something to annoy them or stuff like that.
haha seriosuly dude I wrote this question to
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Oh yes, but I think that it is because we are trying to cover up the fact that we like him or don't know how else to interact with him.
I think being cheeky and giving shit is flirting but if she's being outright rude and not making it clear she was joking then she's probably just a cunt hey
i don't but I know some girls who do. I think it's because they don't want to hint to them they are interested (want to play hard too get) or they are just being immature
I have unintentionally because I was trying so hard to cover up the fact that I like him I ended up just being a little mean. lol and yes that sounds so middle school!
it's possible. maybe it could be one of those cases where she doesn't particularly WANT to like the guy, so she tries to cover it up with rudeness. or she could just be really bad at expressing herself, I've seen that before.
Sometimes, if the guy is so completely oblivious to the signs you are giving him sometimes you're mean to him because you're actually pissed off at him. Makes sense, ya know, if someone you like is ignoring you.
Huh what you mean
I don't. I usually try being cute and sweet around a crush. but yeah, I know many girls do it. Why? I guess either they just want to call his attention or they don't want to give him the hint. Or they're just immature.
That's by far the best way to get him hooked on you -- just treat him like shit and he'll fall at your feet.
No. Only immature people do that. Why would I want the person I actually LIKE to pull away! Makes no sense.
Immature I guess, it sucks though when someone is genuinely trying to talk you, some women ignore you like the plague. You can try your best to win em over and it never works
My brother's wife half sister started the bitchness treatment on me. A few days ago she started laughing her ass off when she hears I broke up with someone. She always send haha reactions on Facebook. Recently I removed her on Facebook.
I would only ever act rude if he was very rude to me at first, and I act like I don't like them a lot of the time, although I'm not sure if I'm all that good at 'acting'.
I don’t, no one I know does that, but our mothers teach us not to be over eager.
Not n purpose, maybe he got offended by something I did. Maybe I need to slap some sense into him. But that's the only things I can think of.
Not really. Only to my crush XD because I hate him for being a player
Perfect Example:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pbmHgLH4xyMhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpwFk0jAQBg&feature=relatedLOL :D
Yeah happened to me before, was when I was younger though.
I guess they do it because they don't want you to know their true feelings in the event you wouldn't like them or something. It's definitely confusing for younger people.
in my life to date they do more that they should as it can put men off them, I think it a way they test us? to see how far they can go.
Yes, it sounds really immature but sometimes you can't help yourself. I was mean to a guy I liked because I was scared of getting hurt again. Because of this, I was acting really rude to him unintentionally.
I think they might do that. To look cool or some thing. but it wouldn't be on perpose
To push him away because she likes him but afraid of committment, a heart-break, another bad experience, ...
we only act rude to ugly guys, but around good looking guys we become the nicest girl in the world.
I could be cracking jokes with the guy I like and then one minute I could be the biggest sarcastic bitch ever but he knows I am playing with him but then he starts being a dickhead!
All the time. The problem is they also act mean to the guys they don't like as well and expect you to discern the difference.
If she does act like a cunt toward you, just take a pass.
I would never act rude on purpose to a guy I like, no way dude!
Yeah, in fifth grade.
Not as a rule, no.
uhh yeahh ha ha
it's superr normal.
I do thattttttttttt :S
Do guys do that?
Good question, do you?
Not intentionally. I may seem rude but
A) very attracted to him-so I can potentially sound insane. I prefer logic-too nervous. quiet is the next best thing.
B) I know I like him, so I assume anything I say will make it obvious to him, and it makes me self conscious.. too soon for him to jump to conclusions.
C) I like to size things up. I tend to be quiet initially, because I'm getting used to being around him. I observe quite a bit in the beginning, to prevent me from jumping to conclusions.
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