Are guys mean to girls they like?

[Anonymous]

Guy I'm talking to keeps saying I don't show that I'm intrested, I never reply, I never invite him to hangout. In reality I'm just mirroring what he does. He breadcrumbs me. And the other day I did bring up hanging out, I asked if he was free. He said he works. He keeps saying I don't show interest. I said I don't do it intentionally and he said "You do but its okay"

[CuriousJC]

Radio silence is a bad thing and a dating or in a relationship. Guys aren't really mean to girls unless they're the attitude type of girls. But sometimes guys and girls keep sending mixed messages to each other to the point where they are confused and they don't know what is going on between them. Like one of my girlfriends I used to date said if she wanted to hang out and talk but when I got there she texted me 30 minutes later telling me that she needed to reschedule personal business then she did it again and again and again and then I didn't bother showing up at all not even texting her because can't ask somebody to meet you somewhere and you're not going to even show up and just keep giving that person in I owe you each time then don't want to pay up when I owe you are due.

[PoliteSpeaker]

It would be impossible to even estimate
the number of jobs which have been lost
promotions or good grades missed
sales not made marriages ruined
by poor attitudes

but you can number in the millions the
jobs which are held and though hated the
marriages which are tolerated but i'm
happy the parents and children who fail
to understand one another all because of
people who are waiting for the world and
others to change toward them

before they'll change...

WAKE UP

[Siren777]

Some times people are not compatible and it's best to move on to someone who doesn't waste your time. So stop wasting your time on someone who bread crumbs when you can have someone who will give you the entire loaf.🍞

[Nazgol]

Nice analogy

[K-I-S-S]

Maybe the bread crumb guy doesn't want you to get fat from eating all the loafs? 🤔

[Siren777]

@K-I-S-S 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Kate_Xx]

You’re both doing the same thing. He’s saying he wants to see you basically. If you like him take him up on it and hang out. Eventually if you don’t one of you will lose interest.

[Asker]

I'm not doing the same thing. The other day I asked if he was free this weekend or next week. All he said was "I work."

[Kate_Xx]

I’d let it be then. Too many games. You’ll get another and better.

[nickaboy]

Some are because we get continuesly shot down and ghosted when we are nice or Just ourselves others are Just assholes.

The fact he is acting like an asshole is why you want him.

My advice don't and go for that you tought was desperate when he explained hid love too you.

His momma told him to treat women right

[Asker]

I don't get what you're saying

[nickaboy]

That you should run from this dude. Stop dating, get some self respect and go for a dude thst treats you right instead of getting on the bitch train

[Asker]

You mean he's treating me like one of his hoes? I never went on a date/slept with him

[nickaboy]

Yep and If you find this kind of behaviour attractive you shouldn't be dating unless you only want sex with a lot of dudes. But the more dudes you fuck the less men wanna marry you

[Asker]

I don't find the behavior attractive. I'm still a virgin and want it to be that way til I meet a quality guy. My question is, why is he treating me like this? He used to call me often, compliment me, send meaningful messages. Now he just texts "Wyd"

[nickaboy]

Based on the screenshot, you we're acting like a uninterested bitch playing hard to get and he called you out and now you act like he is the problem

[Nazgol]

Samee lol. But he has a point

[Nazgol]

@asker

[Flower7]

No, when a guy is disrespectful, he means it. This guy seems like someone you shouldn’t try to continue things with. His thought processes are unreasonable.

[Effably]

This is some passive-aggressive stuff. You two aiming for enemies? I suppose to some that is a very appealing dynamic.

[Asker]

I totally see it

[Effably]

Well you either go for the whole frenemies thing or one of you breaks the cycle. Seeing how you only control yourself, realistically that is you.

[Asker]

I don't find the behavior attractive. My question is, why is he treating me like this? He used to call me on the phone, compliment me, and send meaningful messages. Now he just texts "Wyd"

[Effably]

As someone else said, you both behave the same way. You might not agree but to the rest of us you do. Who started it, who is at fault etc would take much more than this tidbit. You are at an impasse. You can get past it by going "So this is silly and we both have been a little cold but I do like you. I am free on X, Y and Z. Any of those good for you?" And go from there.

[SofiSin667]

You’re 25-29 🙂 you should know better than to think this is acceptable behavior from a grown adult. Skip and go to the next.

[Esten]

No, this is bullshit. Sounds like semi passive aggressive stuff. But it seems like you act kinda the same, "it is how it is", you never explain.

[jasco]

Actually I have been mean to girls I like but at the same time I have been extremely nice. It depends on my mood

[Paul09]

Instead of being straight forward, some peeling to play games. Then wonder why other person is confused. Speak your mind, use your vocal cords, no games.

[Fuentes]

Talk to someone else he is playing lol i woulda blocked a chick if she was acting like this

[Asker]

Why was he so interested when we first started talking? Calling me and wanting to take me on a date?

[Fuentes]

Maybe he was at first but maybe he's lining up other girls and if they don't pan out he might hut u up next seriously instead of playing

[Caunsos]

I seem like you relationship need some counseling or will be ending soon.

[Grubhub]

if the girl I like isn’t receptive amongst me I will be mean from frustration

[Anonymous]

It’s our job to be assholes to you and make you happy

[Browneye57]

The texting thing is a fail. Ya got nuthin' here.

[Babygirl_S]

They're mean to girls they don't like.

[TheBigGuy9]

Only if they do not know how to talk to a woman

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I wouldn’t be mean. I don’t like that

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Not unless you are not virg8n

[Shihab91]

how old are you both?

[Papabubbles]

Boys maybe but not men

[JohnT87]

Not unless they're a man-child

[Dingsbums]

Only the stupid ones

[anylolone]

Most aren't.