Do I have a chance?

[Anonymous]

The story begin with Me and she in start talking basic thing but by time i like her, seems she like me too, she even say to me she is single (not directly) and wanna find boyfriend , many time i caught her look at me and smile too, but after few month i am not confessing to her and i say to her we are just friend (many time) because i try to hide my feeling, but now the smiles already gone and she ignore my chat and distant to me, so in the day i confess to her, i stare at her many time she is like avoid eye contact but sometimes she stare at me, and i confessed, she say she is not feel in same way? So now i lose my chance with her or she just hide her feeling

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I feel you on this one. Confessing your feelings is always rough. From the sound of it, I think she may have been into you at first, but you waited too long to make a move.

Girls can lose interest quick if they don't feel pursued, ya know? And by constantly saying you were just friends, you probably made her think that's all you wanted. So she started pulling back.

Now that you finally confessed, she may actually still have feelings but is feeling shy and unsure since things changed between you guys. When a girl avoids eye contact like that it doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested.

I'd say don't give up hope just yet dude! The spark was clearly there at one point. Try chatting with her again normally like before, make her laugh, show her you care in little ways. Flirt a bit to remind her of the connection.

Give it some time - feelings can come back. Just don't be too pushy asking for answers right away. Play it cool and see if she starts opening up to you again. You never know man, you might still have a shot!

[Asker]

Yeah bro when she say she not interested in Me i say ok, i want just be friend, and tomorrow i try talk to her, she skip the lunch so i ask her why , she is not answering me and look to another direction her face are mad , what must i do now

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye man, that's rough but sounds like you gotta give her some space now. When a girl rejects you and then acts all mad/weird right after, it's cause she feels awkward about the whole thing.

My advice would be to back off for a bit. Don't force conversations or try to sit with her at lunch again - she clearly wants her distance. Blowing up her phone will only make it worse.

Give it a few days at least before trying to talk again. And when you do, play it cool. Don't bring up your feelings or act all sad about the rejection. Just say what's up casually like nothing happened.

This will show her you can be mature about it and stay chill as friends. In time, the awkwardness should fade. Just gotta ride it out and let things cool off first before trying to be buddy buddy again, you feel me?

Keep your head up player. You shot your shot like a g, no regrets! Now it's time to move on and find someone who's really down for you. You got this bro.

[Asker]

Yes know i stare at her she is mad , but 2 month ago she is look into another direction and smile ,

i really love her, yeah i regret it, too late confess because i must get my self and condition better first,

sometimes i caught her stare at me from far yes , sometimes when our eyes meet she is confused, i know she has feeling for me , my heart say that or she does not like me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang bro, this is definitely tricky. On one hand, she did used to clearly like you - the smiling and sly glances are obvious signs. But it sounds like you waited too long and now she's closed off.

I know it's not what you want to hear, but I think for now you just gotta accept she's probably not into you romantically anymore. Don't torture yourself dwelling on what could've been either.

Your best bet is to just play it cool. Be friendly with her when you talk, but don't force it or stare longingly. Act normal. Show her through your actions you can handle just being co-workers now.

Who knows, maybe over time she'll warm up again IF you aren't weird about it. But definitely don't keep bringing up your feelings or trying to "win her back" actively right now. Let things happen naturally.

When a girl feels pressured, they run. Give her space to breathe and see that you've moved on. With some distance, she might realize she still digs you! But don't count on it. For now just stay chill, bro.