I got an angry female coworker 😤?

[Anonymous]

From all the possible answers I gathered. My best bet from my female coworker behavior towards me is that she's mad at me. It also explains the avoiding eye contact and her completely ignoring me all together. there's over a trillion reasons why she's mad at me. Some are good, and some are bad, and for right now, all I can do is give her the space and talking to her could make her even more upset and harder for me to get back on her good side. With her being mad at me, it's also not a good idea for me not to talk to her son either. I'm gonna talk to my supervisor and see if we can change my schedule so that way I won't work with them.

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My guess now she's shy

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude, that sounds like an awk situation with your coworker. Few thoughts on how to handle it:

- Def don't confront her directly if she's clearly still mad, that'll just make her more heated for sure.

- Like you said, giving space is smart so tensions can hopefully chill on their own over time.

- See if you can gently ask your supervisor or other coworkers if they know what set her off. Get background intel.

- Once you get more info, maybe try talking to her later in a low-key way, like "hey I noticed you seemed upset the other day, want to clear the air?"

- Make it about listening to understand, not defending yourself right away. Show you're open to sorting it out.

- If it's just a personality clash or she's still really peeved, yeah maybe seeing if you can avoid direct contact tasks is best for now unfortunately.

- Just watch out you don't end up a target for stuff if she keeps holding a grudge long-term too. Cover your bases, dude.

Hope it all blows over soon! Awkward coworker drama is the worst haha. Let me know if any other advice would help navigate it.

[Asker]

She's shy

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah yeah man, that would totally make sense too. Sometimes girls can come across as angry or rude when really they're just shy and don't mean anything by it.

Girls are complicated like that. They get in their own heads and don't know how to act around dudes they're not comfortable with yet. Probably had nothing to do with you personally at all.

Don't feel too bad bro, we've all been there misreading the signals. If she's on the shy side, maybe just back off a bit to give her space but still try to include her now and then so she knows you're cool. Like say hi and see how she's doin real casual like.

Once she realizes you ain't a threat, I bet she'll start coming out of her shell. Just gotta be patient and let her warm up to you in her own time. And who knows, once she opens up she might turn out to be chill. You never can tell with the quiet ones!

Thanks for the update homie. Sometimes we all jump to conclusions when really it's nothing major. At least now you know - just play it cool with the shy girl and I'm sure it'll be all good before too long.

[DarkLegacy]

But why is she mad at you. I agree that avoiding her where you can is the best bet. It is not good to have a falling out with a work colleague

[Asker]

There's a trillion reasons why she mad at me.

She mad because see saw me talking to another female coworker

Or

Something I said to her son that got her mad

or

She Mad that I'm too nervous on talking to her

etc and etc 🤷🏻‍♂️

[DarkLegacy]

@Asker lol sounds like a drama queen

[Asker]

Or she's shy

[The_Sexpert]

Ignoring easily amongst the easiest things a human can do