Girls, You tell a guy he’s awesome, smart, decent looking, kind, etc but says I don’t feel a vibe?

[Anonymous]

She will also say it’s nothing personal, I don’t hate you, but if a guy has all the qualities she likes in a guy why would she reject him. I get that it might be height thing, religious thing, ethnicity thing, body type thing. How should a guy create a “vibe” with a girl. I mean I enjoy being kind of flirty, talking about real stuff about life, mentioning personal stuff where she sees me opening up. It shouldn’t be this hard if a guy is in shape, has his life together, assertive kind, handsome, not a kiss ass, keeps it real. Makes me wonder what girls and women want these days. It’s confusing because I see guys I know getting married or in relationships that are less established or less mature, I dunno 🤷🏻‍♂️

[On_cloud_wine]

Just because you have all the qualities she looks for in a guy doesn’t mean you’re meant to be. That “vibe” is also that chemistry, that gut feeling that the universe wants you together.

consider yourself this much closer to finding the one.

[Asker]

but then whats the point of dates and having qualities, girls and women have felt a "vibe" about a guy or man but unfortunately either cheats on her, disappoints her, lies to her or worse (you know what im referring to). Women go based on emotions. If a guy is trying his best but she's acting wishy washy, her life story won't always have a happy ending. A girl could be having the best time of her life in her teens, 20s, and early 30s fucking different guys, acting rambunctious with her friends but eventually when her friends get married and move on or move away, and she's getting older, the dating pool gets smaller in terms of expectations.

[jennifer_bloom]

The Chinese have this idea that a relationship is not just how you look or think, but the dynamic you put out there and the way you harmonize and engage with others. It’s why 20 year olds find 40 year olds to be as boring as aged wall/. The 40 year old has money and good looks but their energy level is too plateau and unstimulated to drive the curiosity and interest of a 20 year old. 20 year olds look for creative and fluctuating emotions in others, baseline boundary people bore them.