How do you find a girlfriend when you aren’t accepted?

[Anonymous]

Women often want to be with what they perceive as a a high value man and if your on the spectrum you get pushed down the totum pole. I often find that women simply don’t even like being around me and I haven’t even gotten the chance to speak they just take a look at me and avoid me

[Curmudgeon]

OK, it says you are 30-35. Is that correct? If so, then buck up, because the proverbial Tide IS Turning in your favor year by year.

Now if you have done anything to foul up your life, it is STILL not too late to turn it around. And if you still are, STOP, now!

1. Build up your economic assets and value. Money is not enough, but it sure helps. Forget about bitchy women who "when they look at (you) say gross ew ugly or disgusting", and instead focus on getting that promotion, acquiring additional training and / or credentials, investing in your retirement funds (you can NEVER do this too soon!), and buying that house, or condominium unit if the housing prices in your area are insane.

2. Improve, or at least maintain, your physical shape. Don't compete against others--that will just bring you down and make you miserable--just compete against *yourself*. I hope that makes sense.

3. Find some constructive interest that gets you to interact with others. Something that even if you are a loner for the rest of your life, still gives you meaning, purpose, or at least a social network. If you run across a lady in that group or club too, great, but even if the activity is a total "Sausage Fest" and just guys, well, lifelong guy pals is great.

Do these three and I dare say that by 40, you WILL be desirable, as the women start realizing their partying days are over and they need a real guy as spouse material. And you might discover that some of these women who, in the past, when they looked at you and said "gross ew ugly or disgusting", are now kind of gross and disgusting themselves, due to bad choices they made. And at that point, feel free to reject them! The best revenge is living well and all that.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Well then you need to learn how to stand up for yourself.
If you get looked at and women turn their nose up at you, say something. Make a joke as they're walking away, try and embarrass them! I can't tell whether or not you're ugly but if anyone did that to me, women or men, I'd say something like, ok I'm ugly but I put on nice after shave and I at least smell nice! Don't tell me I did that for nothing! Laugh whilst you say it.. Anything like that will do!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Just to be clear.. I wouldn't say That to guys or they might get the wrong idea.. but I'd certainly say SOMETHING!