What do you do when a girl hit up on you, but you ain’t interested?

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Universaldance · Accepted Answer

From a shy guy talking with with women POV, little to no engagement to show not interested. And if I had people skills I would let her know in a kind subtle way

I dont like the word rejection but have dismissed someone by avoiding eye contact with them, and little conversation engagement with them because not physically attracted if Ill admit but also if personality-wise she doesn’t have the demeanor I favor I would not engage either

The opposite is also true if Im interested. I’d say enough interactions where I could engage with her longer and open up to more intimate conv with her. This starts by frequent glancing, crossing her paths more often, slowing down when around her, even eventually hinting for her and I to share some time together at lunch, walks, etc. However, if she’s around her friends I personally never approach due to the pressure of maybe embarrassing her and myself around her friends and one shouldn’t gauge the engagement level in these certain cases

OfMiceandMen · Accepted Answer

I would thank her for the interest and just let her know I am with someone (even if I am not).

I know it's a little fib, but I can't bring myself to say that I am not attracted to her as that is uncalled for.

I'd have to give her props for the effort approaching me and I wouldn't want her to feel bad just because I may not be attracted to her. Hopefully, she goes away still feeling positive about the effort, so she'll do it again and meet someone that reciprocates the attraction, someday.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

"Hit up"? I presume you mean heavy flirting.

If a guy isn't interested and he's rude, he'll say something rude or "peacock" in front of his buddies for a bit bc you just fed his ego. This happens a lot with the "player" types, "macho" guys, etc. etc.

If a guy isn't interested and he's a gentleman, he'll make a polite comment but try to brush you off with visual distancing (not looking at you or trying to avoid looking at you). This happens rather a lot with cute married guys, etc. etc.

If a guy isn't used to being approached at all and you approach him he might show disinterest bc he presumes you're mocking him. (Go figure... but yes, I've actually seen this happen among my guy friends.)

Don't be too persistent bc it makes you, as the girl, look cheap. Leave your card. If he takes you up on it, great, if he doesn't, he's not the only guy on the planet, you know? Move on.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

I had it happen, once. That's about it

I was working at my old job. I was still fairly young, but not like THAT young. My job was at a building in front of a local high school, so, everyday, some of the high schoolers would stop by and just hang out before they went home. Anyway, i guess a girl that had come in, was sort of into me. She was ok looking, i guess, but, not really my cup of tea. I knew she was a minor, so, while i was polite and talked to her for a few, before getting back, i was like, well, you know im over 18, right? and she's like "oh, ok, im sorry"

I just went about my business, and never saw her again. the job was then moved to a new location, and i lost my job, because they were doing budget cuts with the move. I had been one of the mot recent hires, so, yeah

sawno · Answer

Politely reject or if I can avoid it ill purposefully ruin my chances with her. Typically I do it preventative by amplifying some undesirable traits. Like ill talk about my ex more than usual for example or maybe ill joke with the fact she's not in to me so she doubles down on it, etc. I just have my natural subtle ways of doing the reverse I'd do with someone who I wish to fall in love with me. That way the girl never has to feel rejected, she will just think I'm not that special.

V_Injector · Answer

For real, I use other females. It's like the ultimate roadblock to a female trying to trap you in some bullshit.

lets be real... a chick that has it out for you, isn't going to stop until another female is in the way.

so use women as a human body shield against women. It gets rid of the white nights even.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I get that a lot in the gym. They are not hitting me up but they hover near me and watch and maintain eye contact. I can tell that they need sex because they haven't had any in a while. I get all types though and sometimes I can be to picky or miss opportunities when I know I should have gone on instinct. I should just take any gal that obviously wants me.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'll let her know that I would not be interested at the moment

handsomelad70 · Answer

Ignore her.(A half-century ago, when I was 21, a totally smitten 49-year-old broad almost literally chased me into the London, Ont., Greyhound bus station boys' room to get at me.)

Pohjolan · Answer

Gals very rarely actually do this but rather do some ambiguous flirting which can be ignored.

If she'd actually hit on me but I was not interested I would just decline politely.

Thank you but no thank you.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I politely tell them no thank you, I am just not interested in getting to know you better. Thank you anyway and enjoy your day.

kellytheman · Answer

I try to let her down easy and either say I am not interested or have a girlfriend. Most of the time I might try to talk to her and see if there is a spark then we might have something there.

tfan1 · Answer

It’s never happened to me, but I always turn my wedding band to the widest side so anyone won’t need to ask.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

The only one that did, I just pulled her arms off my waist and ran away.

Pete671 · Answer

I disclose my autism, always has them running for the hills, also a great way of breaking up with a girl you no longer want to date,,,

Jersey2 · Answer

I have been embarrassed and simply said sorry but no.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Tell her sorry in a respectful way and explain to her that i'm not interested...

jahaims · Answer

I politely turn her down and if she doesn't take a hint I will be blunt

RossyBoi · Answer

I put her in the friend zone. She will have lots of company in there.

standardguy · Answer

Then i put a very polite but immediate stop on her. So she won't waste her and my time.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Usually it’s just an awkward glance. Sort of, that was unexpected…

Anonymous · Answer

Tell her I’m good. And keep it moving. I don’t waste my time.

Anonymous · Answer

Same thing women do. Ignore her till she eventually takes the hint and goes away.

exitseven · Answer

I tell them I am married

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Thank her so kindly but politely decline.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Make it obvious I’m not interested

loveslongnails · Answer

Tell her thanks, but I have a girlfriend.

stratford · Answer

Enjoy the attention :-)

DrPepper12 · Answer

Make excuses to not see her again or leave asap.

Nifrayu · Answer

Hit up on you? What does that mean?

dudeinohio · Answer

I'm always interested

noohair · Answer

Not happening to this old guy.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I pat her head and nicely say no

In_Trance · Answer

Tell her I'm not interested

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Be nice but politely pass

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I just tell her I'm taken

dinojames22 · Answer

First thought... is this a scam/trap

Finchie40 · Answer

Ignore her

AGメtheloneWOLF · Answer

Unless she is psychopath,, no means no

xavid9 · Answer

I make em sis

andy530 · Answer

Politely decline

eagle1951 · Answer

I ignore her

TallBlondeJohn2 · Answer

Hit it anyways

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