Why did my friend tell me to stop speaking to this guy who I don’t even know?

[Anonymous]

I went out with both my friend the other night to have drinks. One of my friends went to the bathroom and then my other friend told me that she was speaking to this guy she met through online dating and was seeing him. She told me that he mentioned me and that he also matched with me on online dating and was interested in me, and she showed me a picture of the guy and asked me if I’d been speaking to him. I said I’d never spoken to him before ever and that I’d deleted all my online dating apps. I told her it would probably have been another girl in the same area with my name. Then she proceeded to tell me that I shouldn’t speak to him as he was already obsessed with a girl called Gemma, and that I would be wasting my time speaking with him.

she then sent me a photo of him as a private message and I had to keep convincing her that I’d never spoken to him.

I’ve also noticed when I meet up with her she will always brag to me about her latest “conquest” and what guy she’s dating. She will tell me about all the guys in her past who had a crush on her and what gifts they got her over the years and how obsessed they were with her. It’s getting really boring that all she wants to do is talk to me about the latest guy she’s dating. There is usually a new guy every three months because they always end up screwing her over.

why did she bring this up and tell me to stop speaking to a guy she was seeing who I had nothing to do with?

[Anonymous]

I think I see the underlying point here, which is that even though you have no ties to this guy, why would she even care when she’s constantly seeking men’s bd having conquests. My ex best friend of 13 years was the same way and all I can say is that some women just develop this mentality at some point in their lives, and sometimes it doesn’t align with who we are or what we want from friends. That was why I drifted from my friend, because her world revolves so much around men she’s boy-crazy. Women like that can be toxic.