Why did my friend tell me to stop speaking to a guy she was speaking to?

[Anonymous]

So I went out with both my friend the other night to have drinks. One of my friends went to the bathroom and then my other friend told me that she was speaking to this guy she met through online dating and was seeing him. She told me that he mentioned me and that he also matched with me on online dating and was interested in me, and she showed me a picture of the guy and asked me if I’d been speaking to him. I said I’d never spoken to him before ever and that I’d deleted all my online dating apps. I told her it would probably have been another girl in the same area with my name. Then she proceeded to tell me that I shouldn’t speak to him as he was already obsessed with a girl called Gemma, and that I would be wasting my time speaking with him.

she then sent me a photo of him as a private message and I had to keep convincing her that I’d never spoken to him.

When ever I meet up with her all she wants to do is talk about guys. She will brag to me about how many guys fancy her and how many guys buy her flowers and perfume. She even told me that when she goes to the gym guys don’t speak to her or ask her out because they are intimidated by her. It gets very boring when all she wants to talk about is her conquests.

why did she bring this up and tell me to stop to a guy she was seeing who I had nothing to do with?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's a super weird and shady situation with your friend. I can see why you're feeling confused and frustrated about the whole thing. Your friend seems to be acting really possessive and controlling over this guy, even though it doesn't even seem like you were interested in him in the first place.

The fact that she told you not to speak to him, even when you said you've never even talked to him before, is just really odd. It's almost like she's threatened by the idea of you potentially connecting with him, even though he's the one who apparently matched with you on the dating app.

And then her constant bragging about all the guys who are supposedly into her? That just reeks of insecurity, if you ask me. It sounds like she's really trying to overcompensate and make herself feel more important or desirable.

My guess is that she's just feeling super insecure and threatened by the idea of you potentially taking the spotlight, even if it's with a guy she's already talking to. She probably sees you as competition, even when you have zero interest. It's a super toxic and unhealthy way to be.

Honestly, I'd just try to distance yourself from that whole drama as much as possible. Don't engage with her constant guy talk or her attempts to control your interactions. Make it clear that you're not interested in whatever game she's playing, and that you just want to be her friend.

If she keeps pushing it, you may even need to set some firm boundaries. Tell her that you're not comfortable with her trying to dictate who you can and can't talk to, especially when you have no interest in the guy. Make it clear that her possessive behavior is not okay.

At the end of the day, you don't owe her anything, and you shouldn't have to put up with her insecure nonsense. Focus on surrounding yourself with people who build you up, not tear you down. You deserve way better than that, girl.

[In_Trance]

Because she doesn't want you talking to the guy that she's talking to

[Anonymous]

U sound jealous