Why is my friend always talking about how skinny she is?

[Anonymous]

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I didn’t particularly mean this in a good way. The issue is she keeps asking me questions like “do I look too skinny? Like unhealthy skinny?” And I tell her she looks great. She does. But then another time she was like “I’m trying to gain weight.” And we saw a skinny guy and she was like “omg he’s so skinny like me” and honestly it starts to make me feel bad.

[_Maya_]

Most likely because she is proud of it. I don't know why she would constantly be talking about her body unless she wanted others to take notice. Maybe she lost weight? I don't know, it is your friend. If she is just naturally skinny then she wants the attention from what she clearly takes pride in. It does sound like she has crossed the line from being pridefull and braggy. If she mentions it a lot that would get very annoying. I would politely try to get her to stop. Not sure what the best approach to that is because I don't know her personally or how she would take it so I can't really give you an example of what to say to her. I doubt she is going to stop unless she realizes how she comes off bringing it up all the time.

[Asker]

The issue is she keeps asking me questions like “do I look too skinny? Like unhealthy skinny?” And I tell her she looks great. She does. But then another time she was like “I’m trying to gain weight.” And we saw a skinny guy and she was like “omg he’s so skinny like me” and honestly it starts to make me feel bad. I had an ED and im kinda triggered when people take an obsession with their weight like this. From her questions and from my experience as someone who had ED she wants me to tell her she looks too thin (the goal a lot of time with people with ED who obsess over being thin IS to look unhealthily thin).
She also talks about a mutual friend of ours and how much weight she’s gained.
So I’m not finding her to be particularly positive.

[_Maya_]

That is a tough spot to be in because of what you just shared about the eating disorder you overcame. First off, good for you on that. You should be proud. Regarding your friend that won't shut up about it, one thing you might try is just not responding and see if she takes the hint. That or quickly changing the subject. If she has half a brain she should pick up that you aren't comfortable talking about it and hopefully stop.

[Asker]

Definitely. Thank you for your suggestions here.

[_Maya_]

Of course and good luck to you.

[OfMiceandMen]

Maybe she thinks it's unattractive and that a little weight would make her look better.

[boggboss]

Because its somthing she clearly is happy and proud off

[boggboss]

Why do u feel bad about her commenting on her body

[BarryLiverstone]

Not sure. I don’t know your friend. But she may focus on her health and staying in shape. Is she skinny?

[DishLady]

She has nothing better to think about herself.

[Anonymous]

Lol she’s doing it on purpose