My friend is constantly commenting on my weight saying how I’m skinny and saying “I’d hate to be thin like you, I love my curves” what should I do?

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It just seems like whenever we go out together she’s comparing our weights saying “guys prefer a girl with more meat on her like me” ”OMG you’re a size 6 (UK) I would hate to be that thin” should i I just ditch her as a friend? She’s really gettting my confidence down. I never say anything about her weight she’ll moan and say she’s fat sometimes as she has a podgy belly but I don’t say anything. I say she has a nice body I’m the girl on the left by the way (dark skinned one) should i I drop her as friend? she's the only only friend who says negative stuff about my weight. “I prefer being curvy” She is going to the gym and trying to lose weight on her belly but apparently she is “perfect” everywhere else What should I do? She keeps saying she doesn’t mean anything by it

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of all every guy has a different preference in body types. Neither of you are skinny so let’s not dwell on that. You seem to be comfortable with your body and truth of the matter is that the only opinion that matters when it comes to your body it’s yours. Your friend may have a body image issue that’s beyond what she’s expressing. She may have realized that no matter what she does she won’t get to your body type and envies that. So in order to make herself feel better she tries to put you down. You could ditch her, sure. But if you are comfortable and happy with your body you could also be supportive and understanding. That, of course, will depend on how much of a friend you consider her to be and how much you can tolerate.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Man, that middle photo is SEXY. Both girls look so hot in that head to foot shot.

If that is a tattoo on the girls thigh than that would be a no go. If it is a natural birth mark or something than we'd be all good.

You are both super hot, guys like slender girls too. She sounds like she is too competitive. Like she is trying to "win" some sort of bizarre contests friends shouldn't be having with each other.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Kindly tell her to fuck off. She has her body preference that she likes and you have yours both are completely fine. If she likes her body like that then fine but to tell you yours isn't good enough for her standards is awful. If she puts you down all the time over it then yeah drop her you need friends who are uplifting you and are gonna make you feel confident. She just seems jealous tbh.

Warmapplecrumble · Accepted Answer

She's just worried probably.

My parents keep saying about ny weight. I think they are just trying to make a conversation and have nothing better to say.

I don't know how she is to you... but don't drop her because of internert. Do what your heart says.

You both look attractive in different ways.

Theft · Answer

I would maybe make some space.. but I do t think it would be good to totally drop her as a friend.. your gorgeous though!!! Between the two of you I would pic you hands down!!!
I think she is just trying to make herself feel better about her own weight. Because you are so much better looking then her. Well in my Opinion anyways... haha! In America it is still better to be thin then to have a bit of weight on your bones as she says.

JulieXO · Answer

Tell her you don't like that she says it all the time and ask her to stop. Also your body is much better than hers in my opinion.

Justcallmealy · Answer

I think she may be self-conscious. I mean we see and hear everywhere that being thin is the "go to" for women... You should talk to her about it and say that it hurts your feelings as it's clearly not a friendly/nice way to talk to a friend.

HopefulGuy32 · Answer

Sounds like she’s self conscious and trying to reassure herself that she’s happy with how she is/looks. It’s not so much about you as it is her. Ignore her or say something, don’t spend as much time together if your unhappy.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Uh your friend is 1) dumb and 2) fat and is insecure about it. So she claims to want to not be thinner like you, even though she actually does and just won't admit it. Anyway, you aren't "skinny"-- you're normal. She's not.

She's fat.

AaronKrieger · Answer

She's just jealous of you, but based off what you've said she seems toxic. I'd ditch her.

Sophie_2301 · Answer

Sounds like she has self-esteem issues and is trying to project them onto you.

TheNiceGuys · Answer

The darker one looks a lot better just be happy with who you are and when she dose it just see it as a joke or give her a worming to stop

Anonymous · Answer

You both look perfectly healthy, she just has a little more "meat?" than you. Honestly if you wore a little less makeup I'd say you're way prettier

bhavy24 · Answer

U have a figure to crave for and you look way more attractive than her , so dont let her negative comments affect you in any way

everydayimshovellin · Answer

She isn't happy with herself and hasn't got the minerals to fix it so vents negativity.

turnmypainintopower1 · Answer

I feel ya girly the best thing to do is ditch the friendship she will just keep saying bitchy stuff

Tinnamar · Answer

You look great, she is probably just jealous. "Friends" who put you down are not your friends.. Ditch her

ovixs90 · Answer

Maybe she is jelouse because she is more fat. I think if she makes you feel not confident you shouldn't be friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down Same with guys. Why those guys beat up the gay actor from Blackish, is beyond me. They're pathetic losers, like Trump. NO LIFES

Iloveapplepies34 · Answer

You look great it sute you your very good shaped body with blond hair

Benedek38 · Answer

I think she is insecure.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell she should go F herself. Being over-weight is not attractive.
by the way, do NOT listed to her, she's just jelus off u. But if her comments r bothering u on regular basis, unfriend that jelus b***. 👍

MemeMaester · Answer

Yeah ditch her, you're hotter than her anyway

ninjafemme · Answer

ditch the fat whore

My friend is constantly commenting on my weight saying how I’m skinny and saying “I’d hate to be thin like you, I love my curves” what should I do?

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